okay my son is six months old and was FINALLY sleeping through the night, but then he got a cold and of coarse he didnt sleep through, he could barely breathe! well now the cold is over and he still expects me to give him a bottle and rock him back to sleep.... 3 times a night lolz! anyways some people told me to let him cry but it completely kills me to do that so i wont! any advice anyone?

No, not when he is sick.Take him to a doctor!And make sure he does not have an upper chest cold!!

you can let him cry through the night or you can start trying to space out his bottles during the day when he starts getting fussy for a bottle try and keep him occupied for another half an hour and that way his body will be able to go longer with out eating. also since he is 6 months are you giving him jar food or cereal? that might help alot. good luck!

no he isnt sick anymore, he had his checkup and he is completely healthy.


yes he eats baby food and cereal, he loves them! i have tried to let him cry but i just cant do it!!

At six months its not uncommon. He is still a "baby baby", it not like he is 2 yet.

So I say rock him back to sleep. it gives him a sense of security, which he really needs at that age.

If he was 2 or older, it would be a little different.

Its ALL a part of being a PARENT! You'll live through it!

I had the same issue with my daughter...actually she wouldnt even sleep in a crib at all, lol. She wanted me all the time. I was told that when she cried to go into the room, reassure her that mommy was here and that everything was fine. But not to hold her or give her a bottle. Not to turn on the lights or play. Tell her that it is time for bed. And to wait and go in only every 15 minutes if the crying persists. Its hard, but they need to learn at that age to self-comfort or you are setting them and you up for poor sleep habits. Also, I was told to make sure I fed and changed her every 3 hours, even if they are sleeping to wake them up and feed them. Having a schedule and knowing what to expect is important at that age. Also, allowing them to sleep alot during the day makes them more apt to wake up during the night. What someone said about solids is right as well, helps fill up their tummy a bit more. Good luck. This is what my pediatrician told me to do, and it worked for my kiddo. She was sleeping through the night within 3 days! Yay!

I have three that did not want to go to sleep on their own. Just remember that you are his mom and you need to what is right for you and your son.
I agree with Sum, rock him back to sleep to let him know that he is safe. There will come a time that he will prefer his friends over you, tell you know on everything, so just enjoy this time with him.

An upper chest cold??

at six months, trust is more important than anything else, and i'm shocked that he would have been sleeping through the night in the first place.

NEVER let them cry...that just teaches that mom isn't a trust-worthy person. that disappointment is the way of the world...to stifle their needs...

answer, comfort, and get him ALMOST to sleep before lying him back down. hopefully, he'll take that last little step himself.

i am a huge advocate for attachment parenting, and have no problem with the family bed...if you're comfortable sleeping with him, you'll both get more rest with him next to you.

Got to agree with Lulu. Let him sleep in with you. You will both sleep better. When he wants to, he will go back to his crib.

At 6 months old, my little one was barely sleeping through the night since he was still nursing. It was easier on both of us when he stayed in my bed after the middle of the night feeding.

As always, my only true advice to parent of children under 1 year old, sleep when they are sleeping! Everything else will fall into place.

Best of luck...let us know what happens!

M

from a professional view your son should not be sleeping with you. i am a daycare teacher and when children who slept with their parents or who are can end up having attachment problems. also is can be very hard to break his sleeping with you. also even though he is only 6 months he should be sleeping all night long. we recently had a 4 month old that was getting up twice a night and everyone was very concerned bc she should be able to sleep all night. so at 6 months he should be more than able to do it again. and even if it breaks your heart to let him cry there really isnt much more of a choice. honestly if you have to shut his door and sleep across the house from him :(

No don't let him cry. At six months he can't get spoiled, he still needs your closeness and comfort. He longs for your security. If you don't, there'll come a time when you wish he was that small again. Hold him in your arms for a long as possible, I don't mean that literally okay? LOL

My daughter's almost three and I tell you, sometimes I wish she was still that small. I just want to protect her from the outside world for as long as I can. Bringing up a child alone is one of the most difficult tasks for a single parent. You're constantly questioning yourself.

I sincerely wish you luck....

there are several psychological experts that recommend against crying it out, and FOR attachment parenting. most of the psychologists that i know are definitely against letting your child cry, as it fosters mistrust.

when a baby is properly attached, they are LESS likely to have problems with separation...because they TRUST their parents to come back.

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http://www.attachmentparenting.org/artbenefitscosleep.shtml
http://www.askdrsears.com/html/10/T130500.asp
http://spr.sagepub.com/cgi/content/abstract/8/3/363

do some research on attachment parenting and the family bed. maybe read dr. sears...

my youngest is four and a half, and she's always slept with me...she LOVES school, and adores her teachers. never once have we had a crying incident or a tantrum when it came to leave her for class. she is completely attached to me, and completely trusts me.

studies show that children that are fully attached are better able to handle peer relations and are less aggressive.

be well.

Hello my Name is Apache...



When My Lil' princess useto cry after being sick,
I would put her down for her nap a little later
each evening. Then She got use to going back to
sleep and sleeping longer through the night.
Also, while laying him down you could try humming
a song.

Well after a week of torment with my baby, getting up every 20 minutes. Literally. No joking. I was going mental so went to the doc's with her.

She had been sleeping from 7pm to 3am. Then until 5am. Waking at 7am for the day. And she was nearly 4 months.

Then she got a cold and went crazy with her sleeping patterns. Turned out she had bronchiolitis :( And ended up in hospital for 4 days. So I'd defo take your kid to hospital.

Now she goes to bed around seven, wakes around 1, 3, 4, 5. Then stays awake. I'm just putting up with it until she gets used to takin' her bottle again.

Ok, from an older mom; I have a 20 yr old son and a 15 yr old daughter. I never let them cry without comforting them. I always picked them up and rocked them or put them in bed with me. For all the naysayers who don't believe in this, let me tell you my relationships with my kids have always been very close and loving and trusting. The only attachment problem in this family is me missing my son now that he's grown up and my daughter pulling away from me! Of course, these are natural and normal and I wouldn't have it any other way--but I miss so much those times of holding my babies close and rocking them. You won't be sorry you are picking up your baby and loving her every time she "says" she needs you. You are being a loving and caring mom.

You might want to have oyur child checked for asthma. Also this is a baby we are talking about. I don't there is anything wrong with rocking a baby to sleep. I use to sing to my princess when she was a baby. The love hearing your voice. It is comfort to them. She sleeps on her own but sometimes she still needs me just ot be there hold her hand. The cold and not being able to breathe was probably really frightening to your baby. The baby needs comfort.

Yep, I'm glad everybody got you straightened out on that one. Betcha know just what to do now, huh?

Let me just say this, my son is 17months and is still in my bed sleeping. He started sleeping about 4hrs a night at 2months and by 4months he was sleeping through the night and getting used to his crib. We then had an ice storm and our power was out for 2 weeks so he got used to being in my bed again because we all had to huddle in the living room together. So now he's 17months and won't sleep in his crib. I've been working on it slowly by putting him in at his naps and then I put him in there at night to start with and he'll sleep for 4hrs tops in there and then get in bed with me and sometimes I try to put him back. He's only slept in his crib a full night since he was 4 months maybe 2 times tops. And you lose sleep after a while of them being in bed because you don't get to sprawl out like you normally do. I suggest what lulu said. I think it was lulu, that said about going in and comforting but don't pick him up unless he gets too upset or hysterical.