does anyone else have members become INACTIVE when about to arrange a date with them ?

Only when I fail to wear a shirt.

I've never encountered that.
But, I own a shirt.

yes quite abit

same here

Then you should probably thank admin and consider yourselves lucky.

^^^^^^^^^^

This. The golden rule is, if someone asks straight away to chat somewhere else, alarm bells should ring

I found something even weirder with this "chatting" generation. I was actually asked by a woman if I was "chatting" with other women on dating sites. Like this is a stranger to me from far away that I have no chance of meeting trying to exert control over me when we have never even met or had sex or anything ever. I'm sorry "chatting" or "tweeting" or "texting" or whatever you want to call it is no where near "cheating" when you have no girlfriend or wife. These women are so damn pushy - they grill me with personal questions - like it's their business - none of them I have found on here share anything about themselves and I don't really care. I haven't met one yet in 20 years that has anything going for them. I'm thinking secretly they are looking for a free ride.