I'm sorry, but I think whoever doesn't know that they have to talk to their friend to see if it's OK with him/her before pursuing that romantic/sexual interest is ...to put it lightly... stupid.

Bros before hos, chicks before d!cks, whatever you want to call it, it's all the same concept: your friends are more important than your romantic and sexual pursuits.

Before going for your good friend's ex, YOU HAVE TO CHECK WITH YOUR FRIEND TO SEE IF IT'S OK WITH THEM. DUH. GODDAMN. IT'S SO DAMN OBVIOUS.

Sorry about that freakout. One of my ex-friends is now an ex-friend for this exact STUPID reason.

Oh, and if you are too nervous, scared, shy, etc. to talk to your friend about this... in my opinion that makes you a horrible friend. sorry.

most of time i agree with chiefpu but not this time. i say you do whats best for you, what makes you happy, let everyone else worry about themself, you are what matters here, your happyness,your life, by god take the bull by the horns and do your thing, smile it will be ok

lets get some shoes =)

Ah to be either "WRONG" or "RIGHT is not possible in this case. This is a case based on the story. Depends on alot of variables. In a general sence however, I think the reason the past relationship failed and work from there.

you dount need shoes you need to decide its either a chance for me to be happy or a chance to let one get away cause you dont got the guts to do what you got to do, no one controles you, if your friends get upset let them die upset but you need to do whats best for you

my opinion, i think if you even thought about dating your good friends ex, then you were never her / his friend. ive had allot of my friends f#ck on my ex wife, after we split up, thats when i realised they where not my friends, SORRY! but i wouldnt f#ck on or date my friends exes, thats just wrong.
but however it aso depends on the sercumstance, i was with my wife for 8 years, there was allot of feelings i had for her.

hawiigurl just come with me ill make you happy, you can keep your friends, everything will b ok

is that an El CAmino with a monte carlo Grill? i could be wrong nice car, ah im straying from the subject

haha! its an 84' dodge rampage

You must respect yourself, however you must respect others just the same.

I tell people this: You are not the center of the Earth. You're above that, on top of the highest mountain.

Being completely self-centered is basically a shared symptom of psychopathic personality disorder and sociopathic personality disorder, and it affects others around you in negative and hurtful ways, especially to those closest to you.

A psychopath will respond to that matter with, "I don't exactly care for whether or not I hurt others because other people don't matter to me. Only I do." A sociopath will say, "I understand that hurting others is labeled as a bad thing by the general consensus of society, but I can't seem to feel the same way."

If either of these statements sound like something you would say to yourself or to other people, PLEASE seek counseling from a professional. Roughly 4% of the human population suffers from these disorders (1 out of every 25 people is potentially either a psychopath of a sociopath).

I have to say, I have never eaten the leftovers on my friend's plate, and don't plan on starting now.

If I were in that scenario (which I never have been) I would talk with my friend and be open about how I feel about their ex...and to make sure that they aren't still attracted to them, just depends on the situation....and the comfort zone...there are alot of variables in this scenario...but if two people are mature enough.....well....guess it could be done...

I'd say generally speaking, no, it's not a good idea. But, if it was just a "casual" relationship and things just didn't work out, it might be ok of your friend was honestly ok with it. Personally, I wouldn't but that's just me. Guys sometimes come and go, but your friends, if it's a true friendship, they last. I'd rather have that.

Here is some delicious copy pasta from another thread:



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yo ask your freind frist if they go for it why not

JUST WRONG!!!

Guess this just shows the different levels of friendships there are. I would never (yes I said and mean NEVER) date anyone that a FRIEND has dated.

People can assume the grass is greener but think about it, most friends talk about their significant others (I think women share to much), so if it doesnt work out between them, why would I want to lose my friend over someone not worthy of her. Regardless of situation/circumstance/scenario.

Might be ok for some people, but I would never date any of my friends ex's... Not worth it to me..

Hmmmmmmmm.......let me think........NO
My friends are just a wee bit more important to me........
They will always be there for me if I respect them....
Woman....and men......relationally.....come and go......
a relationship is not worth the loss of a good friend

I think it depends on how the friend feels about the ex.


I wouldn't care if ANY of my friends dated ANY of my exes.

Just doesn't bother me.