does anyone else have it? how you not let it infere wirh relationships? How do you learn to trust and have friends again?

Hi Cajun,
Without going into details, I was also diagnosed with PTSD.
Yes, it has effected my relationships, and for a long time, I was plagued with severe panic attacks and depression because of it.
The only advice I can give is to be gentle with yourself and to keep trying. Many years of therapy, truly loving and supportive people in my life, forgiveness of self and others and the courage to keep pushing through is what helped me.

It is very hard to open yourself up again to others, but so very worth it.
I have learned to be very selective in my life about who I surround myself with and especially in a love relationship.

I know it's really hard when you have PTSD, but keep reaching out. Find someone professional that can help you work through it. If that is not possible or not your choice, try to find trusted people in your life that you can talk to about how you are feeling.

Sometimes go through issues brought up by this, the impulse is to draw away. That's what I did. I found that talking about it and my feelings helped and still helps me to deal with things.

I just want to let you know, there is hope. Things can get better, and you can heal, at least somewhat.

There is hope for love again too. I recently broke up with my boyfriend due to the intense love being such a trigger for me. We just got back together again. He loves me unconditionally and is accepting of me as I go thru the process of integrating our relationship and being this close.

PTSD effects each differently and the causes of it vary from person to person, but it definitely effects your ability to feel safe with and to trust another person.

I have found it challenging, but progress can be made. I hope it gets easier for you.

Ptsd is a cruel mistress!
I have a friend who has suffered for 10 years after serving in Afghanistan.
I didn't realise that it's not just those in the military that suffer from it until seeing it reported on tv.

thank you getting dress today and going out

PTSD that's the **** I'm having at the min feeling I'm all alone sat in a deep dark hole with no way out just getting deeper and deeper

Yea. I have it due to extreme physical abuse from a relationship yrs ago. Im already shy so i dont trust easily. Rarely do i go out on a date or go out period.

Sorry kids, I've had it for 45 years this year. Of course it wasn't diagnosed until about 20 years ago.
What can I say, if you've got it you know how much it sucks. I had it delt with long before I was diagnosed. Mine started when I was T boned in my car by I guy going 70 when he hit me. I saw it coming and knew it was going to happen. I was in bed in the hospital for 5 months at the age of 17.
I forced my way thru it, became a successful salesman and then built a company that made me well enough to retire at 60 (read profile).
I don't know if I've got the answers but if I can help anyone msg me.

thank you maybe I will msg you my soulmate was murder in front of me

Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome is self-perpetuating.
I was diagnosed with it after I died.
Its a terrible state of mind to be in.
It is beatable tho.

It has to do with being completely honest with yourself and accepting the reality before you.

Its not an easy row to hoe.
It can be done.

One of the first things about beating PTSD is to stop using PTDS as an excuse for not accepting the reality in which you exist.

One of my biggest problems in my treatment was my ability to just let go and accept reality.
The trauma was gone, I wouldn't let it go.
I always found a way to hang on to the trauma.
In hindsight - it makes no sense but it did at that time.
I wasn't thinking right.

One thing that helped me was being in the moment, right now.
May not work for you but it did for me.
Another thing was when I realized I was deluded about a great many things as to how I thought life was supposed to be.
I started slowly removing those delusions and reality was much easier to deal with.
Not to say I didn't mess up my reality with the things I did while I was deluded but, it slowly came around and got clearer.
It was a long process and very hard to keep trying but I pushed my way thru and now I am better.

I've identified the things that used to send me spiraling down and learned to remove those things from my life. Still, there are times my mind tries to latch onto those old ideas and I have to actively stop myself from disappearing down that rabbit hole.
So far, I'm winning.

Since ptsd affects everyone differently there is no one way of treatment for all. Please refrain from playing md to everone thinking you know everything about it in which you dont know mine. Thanks

If that was directed towards me perhaps you should reread it.
I talked about how I dealt with it and never stated it works for everyone?
Handle yours whichever way you want or don't, makes no difference to me...

Right. You pushed your opinions on everyone else. You should read your own writting
One qoute says allot "
One of the first things about beating PTSD is to stop using PTDS as an excuse for not accepting the reality in which you exist."

This says to me that ptsd is nothing that this is a fake problem. Well guess what, your fake and your opinions have no help for me at all. It just shows

Hmm im gonna stop being upset. Your not worth it.

Never been diagnosed, but it is possible.

Never was? Never even thought I was.

Agreed, I could have worded that differently.
I wasn't expecting anyone to even notice.
It happened to be the first thing my therapist told me.
Thing is, when she told me, I felt no offense?
It made sense and I realized I needed to heed her suggestion.

As for me being fake...LOL
What reason?
I already have a GF I met on M2.
We're actually pretty happy together because she and I are not emotional wrecks.
I don't care if you get control of yourself, I have no motive to be fake because I am not interested in you.
You can accept that or maybe you can't...its certainly not my problem is it?

Tsk tsk