lost the two most important people in the last 6 months one was my best friend killed himself the other was the only man I ever truly love he is in prison for murder he was my first on about everything sounds like a bad country song want to punch something most of the time isthis to soon to date

It's all about judgement. For some people, not a problem. For others, they seem to compound their mistakes, and they shouldn't make ANY moves...

neither one was a mistake I don't love easy I just let the walls down never had my heart broke before

Hi Carol... I'm sorry for your losses, moving forward can be pretty tough sometimes.

If you haven't already gone through the grieving process, that would be wise before getting involved again. Sometimes we try and replace what was lost or taken from us and it only delays the much needed stages of grieve. I got married shortly after my son committed suicide... My way of dealing with it... only to have it end in divorce and add another loss to my list of what I needed to grieve.

They have support groups or individual grief counseling that might benefit you and help you determine when you're ready to let someone else in your life. For me, that feeling of wanting to punch something was a clear sign I wasn't ready... anger is one of the stages of grief.

Only you can truly answer when that time will be right. Best of luck to you.

thank you just stupid for feeling this way want to moved on always been able to before

"Neither one was a mistake?" Not sure why I stopped here....

You're welcome. It's very natural and understandable to want to fill that void we have inside. We as humans have a tendency to avoid pain like the plague... primal instinct I suppose. Unfortunately it's only when we can face that pain, and all the other feelings that flood us after losing someone dear to us that we are able to truly move on.

Be kind to yourself, give yourself a hug, and cry or punch pillows as much as you need to. And if you feel you really need someone to lean on that's okay too... so long as you're honest with that person/man... and yourself... about where you're at right now.

whenever you are ready.

when its over its over. I get I bed with another woman straight away to say good bye to the past. its always good to have another play toy

Hello Carol, this is only an opinion and not a recommendation at all for you. I think that time has a way of healing old wounds and everybody has a different way of dealing with loss. If you are asking for a time period for when your heart and soul would be healed, then clearly you are not quite there yet. When you figure out what happened and realize it is no fault of your own, then you can mend your heart and soul. This gives you and your future partner a fighting chance at success in a lasting relationship. You will know when the time is right.

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"Play toy" wow

It would be for me. I'm still at about 95% stability, It's a bit like watching windows update.
50% quite quick (although it stuck a bit at 27% I recon) 75% 85, 90% but it seems to have taken ages to reach 96%.
Some mornings ( about 2-3 a month I just wake up not happy. I get on top of it fairly quick. But all is not quite right yet.

My heart goes out to you.. It really does..

I think ( and it is only an opinion) that important decisions such as relationships, need to be made when you feel on top of things.


Lol hanging out here helps :)

In the event of incarceration, the moment
of sentencing, signals the time to move on.

In the event of break up, or divorce...
Are the sheets clean?

In the event of the passing of a loved one.
I have no answer.
It's an individual decision.

Celine Dion waited a couple of years, George Formby waited six weeks