As for me I like some people other than others is it because of the genes 🧬 ? And when I see some I feel nervous and frightened. I’m just curious about this. What do you think

Goes back hundreds of thousands of years when we lived in trees. Some things were okay, some things would eat you. You had to know the difference.

That does Make sense ty

Yes!
It does depend on how she looks
in her blue-jeans.

It's personalities I think, a quiet person would probably not be drawn to a boisterous person for example.

That’s right in a way at times opposites may attract each other because of being complementary

I don't think it's anything deeply historic, myself. There are probably SOME left over sensibilities we have, from the days when we were still in the trees and caves, but in my direct observations of myself and others, I see much more recent things going on.

Certainly, the BASIC attractions seem to be more biology than upbringing or personal experience. I remember quite clearly, finding some girls VERY attractive when I was only five years old, and others not attractive at all, and it wasn't because they did or didn't remind me of my sister or my mother.

Nor was I being trained by TV. I know that, because I was very selective from an early age about which famous women I liked or not, and I often liked women I could tell I "wasn't supposed to," and didn't find the ones I was "supposed to" like, all that attractive. Frankly,that made me worry that there was something wrong with me, or wrong with my deductive powers.

Something interesting, that I never figured out, is why some of us can instantly recognize deceptive behavior in others, and others of us can't. I could see right through most of the liars, glad-handers, and manipulative jerks of the world, from a very early age, though I couldn't often explain to anyone what bothered me, until much later. An adult who pretended to be very friendly to children, who really wasn't at all, would make me furiously angry or frightened every time. It was again worrisome to me that because lots of people DIDN'T see this, that I could be the problem, and wasn't until I had a LOT more experience that I realized that my "instincts" were right every time.

So overall, at this point, I suspect that we all have a lot of senses and sensibilities, most of which come built into us, but that it takes a lot of human experiences to learn what our reactions actually MEAN. Sometimes anger is really fear. Sometimes fear is really desire and anxiety about being liked. Sometimes confidence is really blindness. Sometimes confusion is the result of refusing to listen to ourselves properly. That sort of thing.

Thank you very much for inspiring thoughts. At times I feel the gut inside me some people are approachable while others are not that GOOD in nature. So I choose to ignore them.

Have strong friendships outside of your relationship

With dogs it depends on what your bum smells like,
With humans I dont know

Lol it’s okay

i try to get over my "negative attitudes toward women" through full body massage, one to three hours at a time.

Goes back hundreds of thousands of years when we lived in trees. Some things were okay, some things would eat you. You had to know the difference.

Well, these times, we might actually ENJOY being eaten. By someone we like,at least.

For me, people who I like, I figure out kind of quickly. They are friendly and able to look you right in the eye. They give no pretense of wanting anything from me. They put you at ease. I told a story on here a long time ago about a guy I met who was good looking and friendly and we started a chat. I knew he wasn't liking me to date because a few minutes later he introduced me to his girlfriend, and she was really nice and friendly. You could tell that they were people that treated everyone the same.

Well, just a related observation, but I've often seen that the reason some people ARE so nice, easy going, undemanding, and easy to chat with...is directly because they ARE taken. That same person, if you met them when they were searching for a mate, might well be every bit as cagey, or anxious, or sexually driven in talking to you as the worst people you've interacted with.

In other words, not all people who appear to be nice, are as balanced and polite as they seem to be; and not all people who are not so well behaved, are that way because they are really bad people. Sometimes it's more the result of circumstances of the moment.

I think motown's got it and it's a primal thing.
Even to the point where I've known a lot of women that were dog owners; they'll meet a new guy and right off their dog can't stand the guy......
Ladies, feedback?
Dogs are rarely wrong about this.
AND ladies you know we're all dogs anyway

Your post reminds me of my black dog I love the best till now He was faithful and understanding I took a lot of pics of him when I took him to the park once I dreamed of him in the night unfortunately he didn’t die peacefully due to carelessness of my ex father-in-law

Biological predisposition and/or social training.


Everyone is born a baby with an innate desire to continue living.
Selfish, needing immediate gratification.
Feed me, burp me, assuage me, love me, give me what I want now, I will cry until I get it, I can't do it myself so other people are necessary.
Pleasure means I'm surviving and thriving, pain means I'm dying.

To human beings groups are necessary in order to provide greater security towards fulfilling selfish desires.

There's what you want as an individual.
There's what the group/society wants for you in order to continue its existence which benefits everyone to which you have to conform to/fulfill in order to receive the overall benefits of the group.

So individual human beings like some rather (or more) than others because:
1. they represent some degree of fulfillment of selfish desire. Sex, love, procreation, food, security/position in the group, mostly a combination.
2. they represent fulfillment of group(s) demands and expectations.
3. Both 1&2.

Conversely, you can feel "nervous and frightened" by some for a lot of reasons.
They may actually represent a danger.
They may represent no means of fulfilling selfish desire, and/or fulfilling selfish desire would require more effort than the perceived benefit received.
They may represent fulfillment of selfish desire but fail in fulfilling social conformity, or vice versa.

But also of interest is that they could represent fulfillment of both social and/or selfish desires but to a degree you haven't felt before. Where you aren't really "nervous and frightened" of them but of yourself because you're feeling something to a degree/depth you haven't before and don't understand it or why you're feeling that way.

Other than that, it's a wide open question and would depend a lot on specific examples and more information.

Thank you this is a comparatively comprehensive answer to my question based on some psychological aspects.