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Hi inev, welcome to Mingle2 
Since you're new to online dating sites, may I just advise you not to go out of the site for your own protection. It is usually a red flag when someone wants to chat outside the site right away. Don't give out any personal information such as email or phone number as there are a lot of bad people out there. The guy must thought you were moving too fast. I think what he meant by keeping it simple is staying within the site and not giving out any personal info until you get to know each other better.... or he was just not into you... or worst, that you were up to no good lol my two cents  I’ve mentioned above I didn’t know that asking for a number connotes to being a scammer had I known I wouldn’t have..and like I said I understand now..... I actually revved my Tesla and left our conversation because I also did some investigating and all his pictures in his profile if you compare them altogether I noticed wasn’t the same I think he fished them out,now I understand what he means by “ keeping it simple “ bullcrap..a friend also told me that by asking for his number I’d be able to find out which country he really is from because I noticed that in every conversation we have he keeps on saying he’s English ( UK ) as if that matters the most..lol... Anyway like I said I’m far from his bulshit consumed all my battery and I’ve already charged my Tesla 
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I'd see it as a red flag as: A) he likes to keep things simple??? What does he mean by that? Have you asked him? Women usually never ask further and accept vague or even weird comments without question. But keeping it simple to my mind means: He doesn't want anything other than casually chat. So if your interest is different... B) Men usually don't mind going on an App, off this site. They're usually the first ones to mention it. Him not wanting that, yes, I find that weird. What is he afraid of? One thing I can think of he's scared of: you contacting -or phoning him even- when he's with his missus... Wouldn't be the first. I feel that's the main reason why men are reluctant to do something as simple as chat on an App. I'd say, take a look at the depth of your conversations with the guy to decide what to do with it. If the conversations are rather superficial, is that what you want? Again, women tend to put up with what a guy is willing to give, which is totally not smart. If there was more depth, I'd ask him what he means by "keeping it simple". Lord knows he's got a missus and is having chats with women on the side. What time is he online? Always late, or briefly etc. Use your brain and common sense in combi with your intuition. Hi thank you for the meaningful insights:-) if you read my message below I’ve revved my Tesla and left our conversation I don’t wanna be a part of his bullcrap life
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Everybody is connected these days. you'd think connecting would be easier. But instead there is just more distrust and xenophobia. It's a sad sign of the times. But keeping it simple? I'm with Crystal on that one. Makes you wander. if he is worried about someone finding out. Although it could just as easily be as the guys said. he may be wary of scammers. Because that's what they do every time. Get you offsite and start gathering personal information. It's such a pain that there are so many wishing to take advantage of ones personal quest for love. But what can you do? Listen to your head. quizz him.. Hi I couldn’t agree more with what you’ve said it’s sad that we are affected by the craps of others...btw thank you for the advice  I don’t think he’s legit anyway his pictures in his profile aren’t similar to each other and by him constantly saying he’s English is also a bit weird...I mean really I don’t want to be a part of his bullcrap...lol....
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Might I suggest something?
When messaging a prospect try to find things common and start by talking about those things. If they are close by or from a place which you know. Talk about things he would know if he truly is who he says he is. In my area, Washington Street Pier is very well-known. Us locals know its called "The Rock Pile" Anyone can do a search on the zip code and the pier. They will not however, know that it is called "The Rock Pile" I met my current GF on M2. One of the topics during messaging was local landmarks. Mainly to set up an eventual meet (which we did). When I mentioned Washington St Pier she immediately replied "Oh the rock pile?" This told me was at least local which was in her profile. That known reference opened more in-depth messages because it established a bit of trust. After a few more 'direct hits' we decided to meet face to face. Any woman (before I met my current GF) that suggested going off site to get to know each other better was a direct "NO". Any man that wants to go off-site without first establishing common trust with you should probably also be a direct "NO". It all happens gradually and over repeated conversation. Good things come to the patient one. Just be smart: Choose wisely. |
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I generally 'block', at the first email message
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Might I suggest something? When messaging a prospect try to find things common and start by talking about those things. If they are close by or from a place which you know. Talk about things he would know if he truly is who he says he is. In my area, Washington Street Pier is very well-known. Us locals know its called "The Rock Pile" Anyone can do a search on the zip code and the pier. They will not however, know that it is called "The Rock Pile" I met my current GF on M2. One of the topics during messaging was local landmarks. Mainly to set up an eventual meet (which we did). When I mentioned Washington St Pier she immediately replied "Oh the rock pile?" This told me was at least local which was in her profile. That known reference opened more in-depth messages because it established a bit of trust. After a few more 'direct hits' we decided to meet face to face. Any woman (before I met my current GF) that suggested going off site to get to know each other better was a direct "NO". Any man that wants to go off-site without first establishing common trust with you should probably also be a direct "NO". It all happens gradually and over repeated conversation. Good things come to the patient one. Just be smart: Choose wisely. Hi thanks for the thoughts it will be helpful going forward:-) I must admit I was naive I mean when all you have is a good intention then you tend to miss out on being cautious:-) I don’t think he’s actually legit all the things I was talking about all the road trips I did here in Switzerland and he doesn’t have any idea what I’m talking, about the places near Zürich like I was telling about my road trip to Winterthur which is just max 30 mins by car from here and he’s replying so weird I was telling him about the charging stations here in Switzerland as I have a Tesla model 3 and he doesn’t know it’s an environmental friendly car, and so I realize I will ask for his number ( not realizing that it connotes to being a scammer lol ) to find out where he is currently residing because he said he’s a banker at UBS here in Zürich and he said he doesn’t have a number because he wants to keep things simple lol our office is next to UBS bank along Banhoftrasse which is being dubbed at one time as the most expensive street in the world and all these he doesn’t know.  And his pictures in his profile doesn’t look the same if you compare them altogether. So I realize these is all bonkers I’m done with him and all his bullcrap and it’s not like we chatted for a day we have been for quite a while.. That ends well thank God for all the meaningful insights it’s all a confirmation of what I was thinking intuitively
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Hey Inev, I think you are on your way in becoming a Mingle2 Jedi master.. lol Stay safe and have fun..
 
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Hey Inev, I think you are on your way in becoming a Mingle2 Jedi master.. lol Stay safe and have fun.. Ha ha lol I might as well figure these out NOW 🤣🤣🤣 |
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Hey Inev, I think you are on your way in becoming a Mingle2 Jedi master.. lol Stay safe and have fun..
Ha ha lol I might as well figure these out NOW 🤣🤣🤣 Yes you are doing the right thing, as you can see there are a lot of experts in the forums, and many comedians also.. 
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Hey Inev, I think you are on your way in becoming a Mingle2 Jedi master.. lol Stay safe and have fun..
Ha ha lol I might as well figure these out NOW 藍藍藍 Yes you are doing the right thing, as you can see there are a lot of experts in the forums, and many comedians also..
Hi yes I can see that, so for advice just come to mingle2 and no need to go pay for a professional 🤣
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Hey Inev, I think you are on your way in becoming a Mingle2 Jedi master.. lol Stay safe and have fun..
Ha ha lol I might as well figure these out NOW 藍藍藍 Yes you are doing the right thing, as you can see there are a lot of experts in the forums, and many comedians also..
Hi yes I can see that, so for advice just come to mingle2 and no need to go pay for a professional 🤣
You got it, abd don't forget the giggles..
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hai..
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