It's been almost a year since i dated my ex (Girl A) and i recently started to her best friend (Girl B).

When girl A found out i started talking to girl B she called me immediately saying that girl B had told her about us and that she approves. The 3 hour long phone conversation was pleasant but extremely confusing at the same time. We caught up and at one point she asked if we could hang out together. I said yes but when I proceeded to ask why and she revealed to me that she missed me. She told me she missed me and had thought about me when she found my first gift to her when we started dating. Her second reason was that her cousin had asked what happened to me and girl A informed her i became an ex. Her cousin supposedly said that it was a shame because i was so cute.

Of course this conversation left me very confused but it got more confusing when i found out a week later she had gotten herself a boyfriend when she had specifically told me she wasn't interested in dating anyone at the time. Of course i thought she would stop contacting me out of respect for her new boyfriend but a week later she had contacted me again about my relationship. She kept insisting me to ask girl B out already. Like the best friend friend she was she explained to me that i was making girl B wait too much. I told her I'm still getting to know her and that i want to take it slow. She ended up wanting to call me to discuss why I'm still thinking about it but I made an excuse that i was too busy to call her.

Why is she being so nosy and pushy about me and girl B? Isn't wrong to tell your ex you miss them? What does she want? I don't want to be rude to her cause that will come off wrong to girl B.

Well, if you put up with this meddling from ex your potential with this other girl will be ruined anyway.
You know, you don't have to be rude to ex, but you can be clear and put up clear boundaries and express those too.
Why she's doing it? Often people (men too btw) get rattled when their ex finds someone new / moves on faster than they do. Even if it's a year after splitting up. It's annoying to be confronted with the fact they moved on and/or found someone before you did. Ego thing. In a way most people feel better if they themselves find someone new first. Kind of like a 'ne ne ne ne ne'. Childish, ego stuff.
But that's her problem. She has no business meddling in your life. You have to make that clear. And again, you don't have to be rude, just clear & unwavering.

I don't want to be mean or anything but is a lot of girls out there why bother with her friend? If it was my friend I would said WHAT A PIG. He didn't respected my friends

But to each their own. JMO

I tend to agree. When I was younger my best friend and I had an agreement that ex's were off limits. That agreement developed into a mutual respect for each other into our adulthood and avoided all sorts of problems and drama. If one of my ex's wanted to start dating my best friend or sister or anyone close to me I would have a hard time believing it wasn't in some way a way to get to me or back at me. And I'd feel somewhat insulted.

From what you're saying it sounds like you're focused more on the ex than you are considering the best friend who you are now with. What a tangled web a love triangle can create! Even more messy when your mind is focused on your ex now being with someone else and not respecting the one she's with by contacting you... you're basically doing the same to girl "b" by being in contact with girl "a".

JMO... perhaps you might ask yourself what purpose it serves to be with the best friend of your ex? Is it her you want or does it have more to do with the ex?

Either way... best of luck to you! I don't know the whole situation, just my opinion based on what you wrote.

She's loving that she can still control you. Establish boundaries.

You and the ex came down to deciding it wasn't working out, for whatever reason. You split up, it happens.

Live with it, get over it, move on. You knew there would be complications when you decided to date girl B. Either make peace with girl A so you have room in your life for girl B, or tell girl A she has no place in your life anymore for control. Right now you're a mess with what appears to be no clear boundaries.

Until you establish these boundaries and enforce them when they are exceeded, you will have no peace whatever over these issues. You don't have to be rude but you do have to live up to your standards. Otherwise you have no standards and to be honest having no standards is not a desirable thing.

You definitely need to tell Girl A that this is your life and you are the one to make the decisions about who you will date. You need to tell her in a stern but tactful way so as not to alienate her as a friend.

You definitely need to tell Girl A that this is your life and you are the one to make the decisions about who you will date. You need to tell her in a stern but tactful way so as not to alienate her as a friend.

Because you have no spine.

I haven't been that young in a long time. It sounds like young people problems to me.

I would say it is a case by case basis. IF the breakup is amicable and all were in the same circle, it might be an inevitable fate. However, if that amicable break up was not done with complete certainty, the potential lingering feelings would make it unfairly complicated for all involved. Or if that breakup were a case of one friend knowing the other friend was treated like crap and then dating that person who treated them that way, its a problem.

If all were friends in the same group, and it is genuinely a case of the first girl knowing you aren't right for her, it may be totally cool and she may believe you are a better fit for one of her friends. You never really know unless you are constantly communicating honestly about these things.

Id say its never good policy to date an ex's friend, just because of the things they may have already shared with each other about you, and the certainty that they will probably continue until it causes problems for someone in the group. Or, as may be the case here, there are still undisclosed feelings that come back up and complicate the new relationship. That can happen anytime a relationship ends. But when it happens between mutual friends, it affects three relationships (the current, the ex, and the friendship between both ladies) instead of just two.