Im in the Army and usually people say girls like a guy in uniform. Ok well Ive came to conclusion thats has to be bull and if so the uniform is all they like. How come every girl Ive met thats interested in me doesnt like the fact Im in the military therefore breaks it off. Everytime they are telling me they cant handle the fact of me being gone for long periods of time. Seems like if they were truely interested and love was there that theyd be willing to wait cause its not like Im gone forever. So girls please explain.....???????

Army brat and married once to GI.... You get what you put out and honestly you have to be a strong person for the long TDY's because alot of times they are alone far from family depending on where you are stationed...some assignments she could move back home.... you'll find her...besides the bases usually sport 'singles' events....

A women that is comfortable within her shoes, has a life, hobbies would be able to counteract that mentality of 'being alone'...maturity goes a long way........

That's my 2 cents.......

you just have to find the right girl..i just got dumped by a guy in the navy...he'd changed his mind about the whole "i want a relationship while i'm in so i feel like someone cares about me back home"...i was willing to wait, but ya know..it really honestly depends on how good a girl you pick :)

Well for instance the last relationship I was in. We dated like 3 months then I got deployed. But get this. I was lucky and I got deployed to Virginia Beach working for a CBHCO. So now Im here in VA and I can go home whenever I feel like it but its a 14 hour drive or 5 hour flight. She broke it off cause I couldnt be with her 24 7 and it was hard me not being there.

Well, not everyone can deal with their significant other being away for a long time. I've talked to lots of military men who told me their gf/wife cheated on them because she was lonely. Personally, I'm the type who could wait forever because I'm a loyal person and don't have to be babysat 24 hours a day, but obviously not everyone is like that. You just have to find the right one. Good luck.

Sounds like the girl needed to find some hobbies. I have found that most people are just unhappy with themselves and need someone there all the time to give them attention.

Future Navy Wife here... Love my guy... the uniform is a bonus. Miss him like hell right now... don't get to see him til March (when we get married). He's on a 30 days leave and then goes back to Guam til August... YEAH, I don't much like the fact that he'll be gone for so long... BUT it's a choice he made before we met, and I respect him for it. I'd rather have him some of the time than not at all. Clothes don't make the man, Military or Not... but it takes much patience and devotion to stay with a military guy. It's something that I don't think many people handle well. All I know is that I've been a single mom for a long time. I have raised my kids on my own, ran a household on my own. I can survive without a guy in my life and be okay... the deployments won't last forever... I plan to be around long after he gets out of the service... but in order to do that, I have to accept the here and now and make the best of it. Good Luck to you.

im a person who like her own space to do her own thing, 24 7 would kill me, but hey there are ladies out there hun who would appreciate a good man uniform or not, army or not

Some things in life requires sacrifices, this Army stint could a temp thing or a career...

Do yourself a favor...enjoy VA Beach, great place, great history, sometimes when you least expect something it happens...They used to encourage uniforms of base, not sure if that is the case anymore.... but you can still pick out the grunts, squids and flyboys LOL Dad was no dummy.......


Well that goes more in line with the character of the person and that is why it is important you find qualities that are good prior to marriage....it is sooooooo lame "I cheated because you were away" - it's a choice... on the other hand I have seen where GI's take advantage of that poor thang, be supportive, nail her and back up to the barracks they go...

Well said Deb

Singing you will block housing mom LOL I can see it now Keep that attitude gurl Just keep the ruler around, they do measure the grass

LOL, well I think most of them were just horny! But yeah, you need to investigate the character of the person before you marry them. I think so many people rush into things and forget that.

I've never dated a guy in the military, and yes the uniforms look nice, but so does a nice suit. You need to find a girl who is comfortable being by herself first. Yeah, don't rush. Sounds like we have the same bad luck though. I don't wear a uniform, but either they are too clingy or play lots of games.

I will PAVE the yard. I don't do yard work. I don't clean up after animals. Dishes, cooking.. cleaning... I'll deal. But while he's home and not underway- he gets to help with the chores. I will be working too. And military or not, the relationship will be a 50/50 effort. We've already agreed to that.