yes, what does that mean? When I was younger, it meant you were a hooker. Is that what it still refers to? CAT - I want a share of that 10,000 points cuz I read it all. AND I am still bewildered. With that much typing time, Bella, you could easily have followed RockGnomes suggestion and phoned for help. Long Distance Relationship, what does THAT mean? that you lived in a foreign country and used your husband as a way to get to America? Just asking, not accusing you. There's way too much for a normal person to deal with here. Just call Legal Aid and get a divorce, Stop thinking a sugar daddy is going to support you and make everything ok. Stop buying his clothes. He weighs 450 pounds, crushes you when you have sex and he wears dirty clothes, but people think he is a nice guy -- WHAT? that makes NO sense. You state that YOU own the house. YOU have investments. If you truly have those things, then you should find it easy to pick up the phone and call Legal Aid. Good Grief, there is so much nonsense in your writing my head is twirling !!

Here's what comes to mind...
For what you wrote and where you wrote it,
Seems you were more concerned with whether or not you could, but didn't stop to think if you should?
What are you hoping to gain from this thread?

OK, I want the points, I read to whole thing and it wasn't easy!

I know Atlantic Iowa, it's a nice little town but yes folks in Atlantic or here if you're an unskilled laborer or working a McDonalds $12 an hour is what you'll earn.

I have some questions for Bella the OP:

Was this guy this large when you met him?
Does he have health issues?
Want country are you from?

If he doesn't yet he will and you'll be his nurse.

If there's no love at all in your relationship AND he's forcing you to do things against your will you need to get the hell away from him.
I suggest the next time you have sex with him you should be on top. It could be dangerous with him crushing you,what if he has a heart attack and dies on top of you? It could be tough for you to get out from under him.

Do something! Doing nothing is not a decision.

Please remember this:

Contrary to what some here think, NOT ALL MEN ARE EVIL!

What, if your husband became an overeater by the frustration to watching you making your own business and becoming richer and richer???

Whhaaat?????

Good grief... some people can be so judgmental and darn so quick to judge. For those who empathized, gave a good advise in a nice way, for those who chose to not say anything instead of saying mean things, and those who understands, THANK YOU.
For those who is otherwise, may you find peace in what you do.

My goodness, I wasn't expecting that someone would even take time to read all these, or part of it. Amazing, this site does work

Well, I don't usually like to give advice unless a person asks for it. It seemed you only wanted people to hear you. It was a lot for people to read, and we don't know you.

Yes, you are correct, and thank you for that and for not judging so carelessly. I wasn't really expecting for anyone to read it. I was amazed that a lot actually did, but a bit disappointed by how some reacted to it. But, somehow, I understand.

Yeah, it can be so confusing for others. Don't worry, you're not graded for this. It's just a free reading.

Bella, I wasn't making fun of you. I thought about everything you wrote. I didn't know what to say.

and how do you expect me to attend those sessions, briefings/meetings, court dates and all that when I don't even drive... and I don't have anyone else around... and that's why we never conclude until we know AND understand the whole story. Good thing this is not graded and is just a free reading No offense to anyone, just trying to loosen it up. We are so tight here. Let's just try to relax and if we can't take it anymore, just ignore it. Don't let it get into you. But if you are serious and willing to give some advise or assistance and need more info to do so, just message me so we can talk privately. This is basically like the ads you see, they won't post the entire details, just something for you to think about so you can decide whether to pursue or not.

That's okay, I understand. What I wrote really was complicated as it lacks a lot of details. It's hard to put it in public, and by hard, also includes hard to type, and, realizing it's public, I'm skeptical to put too much info, as it is, it took me so much courage just to post it, in the hopes to find some encouragements and/or enlightenment, and if I ever include the details, it will be so much longer that it will frustrate anyone who tries to read it, if anyone would even try, and with the frustration comes bad judgment and worse comments.

I wanna say, "good for you" but I can't. And yes, not all men are evil. Some of them are women . Even the guilty have the right for due process.

Am I just over reacting, or I have the right to complain. Are there anyone worse than him, yet, you still love them and choose to be with them, should I stick with him and give more chances or I have to let this go. I'm also venting to relieve myself from all this stress and frustration.

Good grief, a hooker?? NO definitely not what I meant

People thinks he's a nice guy cuz he tell everyone how horrible I am (I had it explained in my LONG statement) and some of those people are his family AND I don't have the chance to explain my side and no one would even bother confronting me first before they make a conclusion. There's always 2 side of the story, and this is my side of the story. I have a proof of what lies he told everyone and the threats I got because of what he told them. I just don't get why nobody thought it's fishy why he still stays with me despite all the horrible things he told everyone about me. He has a lot of options to go to. As for me, I would have left if only I have other safe place to go with my kids. But I don't have anybody around (it's also explained in my statement).

And, not thinking about a sugar daddy. I don't drive (I had it explained as well if you remember during your reading if you read the whole thing and really not comfortable repeating it as it's quite embarrassing since almost if not all the people here does) so I do need someone, but not what you thought. Of course, like everyone else, I also need some love, don't you? I'm pretty sure everyone needs it, no matter how old you are.

And I never used anyone. You probably are one of those americans who think that all foreigners are crazy about America. Not accusing, just wondering. Just so you know, and no offense to anyone, but america has a lot more dumb (excuse the term) people than foreign countries, under-educated, and thinks that, just cuz they speak English fluently (though a lot can't even write or spell it correctly) that they already are smarter than these foreigners. What you don't realize is that, the foreigners can speak your language, spell it so much better than you and still speaks their own, fluently, but you (by 'you' I meant in general, not you in particular) only know your own. Again, no offense, just stating the fact. Here is where you can find people crazy enough to kill just cuz they are bored and kids who eats tide pods just for fun, do crazy stuffs out of boredom and so on.
Anyways... About calling Legal Aid, if I do, then that means attending hearings, meetings, etc. Then you may go back to the above statement, 3rd paragraph, and if you'd like explanation as to why, you may wanna re-read my original post. Thanks for your time. ☺