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Topic: People you have met in person
Kay's photo
Mon 02/11/19 12:50 PM
How many people have you met in person from this dating site? other dating sites?

What has been your experiences when meeting?

Did those people represent themselves honestly?

Did you date beyond the first meeting?

Have you had problems getting people to meet after talking to them on here for a couple of weeks?




Tom4Uhere's photo
Mon 02/11/19 01:02 PM
From this dating site, ONE and I am currently building a relationship with her in person.

From other dating sites, over 20 less than 40.
I actually met the most people face to face thru DH.
I met a few from POF.
I met one each from a few other sites.

Kay's photo
Mon 02/11/19 01:17 PM
I have only met one person and we are friends. I have this was from ourtime.

Kay's photo
Mon 02/11/19 01:18 PM
Tom:
How long have you been on a dating site?
I put my profile on several starting in December, 2018.

Tom4Uhere's photo
Mon 02/11/19 02:54 PM
On this site my start is under my picture
<<<<

On dating sites in general, about 10 years or so.
When I was married I never even looked at dating sites.

I started using dating sites because I became disabled and couldn't continue with an active presence search.
It happened slowly as I was less able to go to the places I used to go.
Fixed income, sporadically poor health days, adverse side effects from meds that kind of thing put me out of the loop.

Online dating allowed me to put me out there with less of a toll.
Online dating forums help me understand the way online daters think and what is important to building a meet.

Meeting face-to-face is still my ultimate goal and now that I have, I stay on the forums because they have useful relationship information.
She and I have discussed it.
She chooses not to be on the site but has no problem with me participating in the forums.
The here and now with her 'trumps' the fear of losing me.
If I find we don't work out or she finds that we don't work out, I will resume my searching.
Neither of us are plagued by insecurity issues.
We are both mature, intelligent, honest adults.
At least, so far she is....time will tell.

Datwasntme's photo
Mon 02/11/19 04:35 PM

How many people have you met in person from this dating site? other dating sites?

this sight , 1 person in person
all together like 5 people maybe , last hhhmm 15 years or so
granted one of those lady's i met i moved in with for 3 1/2 years
another lady i meet here , her i an i dated for all most 2 years (never met in person)
now granted i have not been looking all that time and stopped looking a while back


What has been your experiences when meeting?

went great for the most part


Did those people represent themselves honestly?

some yes / some no lol 1st lady i met was married and had 5 kids , her and her man was fighten, granted i didnt know that before i did a drive down to meet her in person(4 hour drive each way, talked till we fell asleep, hhhmm i had forgotten about that, she called me later and thanked me for not taken advantage of her.. too much to remember lol) ,

but its not like i did a back round check on them

had another lady sending me pic's of her daughter telling me it was her lol

i cant even come up with a number for all the fakes


Did you date beyond the first meeting?

only one, the lady i moved in with staighted above


Have you had problems getting people to meet after talking to them on here for a couple of weeks?


i have never asked for a meet and great , that has all ways been there idea


best advice i can give ya is to slow your roll
once i stopped looking , i notice a lot more then i did before
<shrug>

best wishes on your hunt

Tom4Uhere's photo
Mon 02/11/19 04:57 PM


How many people have you met in person from this dating site? other dating sites?

this sight , 1 person in person
all together like 5 people maybe , last hhhmm 15 years or so
granted one of those lady's i met i moved in with for 3 1/2 years
another lady i meet here , her i an i dated for all most 2 years (never met in person)
now granted i have not been looking all that time and stopped looking a while back


What has been your experiences when meeting?

went great for the most part


Did those people represent themselves honestly?

some yes / some no lol 1st lady i met was married and had 5 kids , her and her man was fighten, granted i didnt know that before i did a drive down to meet her in person(4 hour drive each way, talked till we fell asleep, hhhmm i had forgotten about that, she called me later and thanked me for not taken advantage of her.. too much to remember lol) ,

but its not like i did a back round check on them

had another lady sending me pic's of her daughter telling me it was her lol

i cant even come up with a number for all the fakes


Did you date beyond the first meeting?

only one, the lady i moved in with staighted above


Have you had problems getting people to meet after talking to them on here for a couple of weeks?


i have never asked for a meet and great , that has all ways been there idea


best advice i can give ya is to slow your roll
once i stopped looking , i notice a lot more then i did before
<shrug>

best wishes on your hunt

:thumbsup:
You made me realize there was more to the thread...

I've found that most of the women that I have met face-to-face are liars.
Mostly dealing with personality issues that are in direct contrast to what they revealed online.

I had a LDR with a woman that I moved across the country and lived with that turned out to be a drug addict (I chose poorly).
In most cases I am the one at fault due to my choices not them.
For a bit, at first, my selection process was flawed from desperation.
Lately (last 3 years), I failed to ask the right questions.
Most recently, I asked all the right questions and got no surprises but she also didn't lie.
If it ends up not working out between us it will be because of something else (not online dating). Nearly 4 months and so far so good...

One of the hardest things I had to learn was to stop putting my expectation of who I think they are on them to fulfill.
I've learned to let her be her and stop putting me in her behavior.

I still have moral expectations but I asked the right questions to figure out if she shares my morality.

I don't want you to do what I want.
I want to enjoy being around you while you do what you want.
If you feel the same for me, how can it go wrong?

If she does something I do not like, I allow it because I am not her.
I don't try to change her into someone doing only things that I like.
I don't want her to try to do that to me?
Why should she?

Its our similarities that give us the foundation but its our differences that opens the sky to new possibilities.

and no, you are not sticking that in my butt!

Kay's photo
Mon 02/11/19 05:32 PM
Tom, wishing you good luck.

Tom4Uhere's photo
Mon 02/11/19 05:48 PM
Thanx but I'm not going to put my faith in luck.
I have to keep my focus and be receptive to changes and most of all make the right choices.
But, I get your sentiments.
Good luck to you.

NotPay4Play's photo
Mon 02/11/19 06:31 PM
Edited by NotPay4Play on Mon 02/11/19 06:37 PM
Topic: People you have met in person



Let's see from here 0
Senior people meet 1. Been friends for 9 years.
Ourtime 3. Stll friends with 2. 1 for 4 years. The other 2 years.
2 other ladies from another site. Both started talking marriage so we went our seperate ways.


All in all been on various sites and apps for 9 years.

As for meeting up after talking here a couple of weeks?
only talked to 1 lady on here for more than a message or two. And she was in another state. shocked so no possibility of us meeting. noway

Toodygirl5's photo
Mon 02/11/19 08:56 PM
I have not met anyone from Mingle2.

Several meetings inperson from other dating sites.

Had some great dstes , and Yes a couple men more than one date.

These gentlemen had to Travel to even meet me in person.

no photo
Tue 02/12/19 12:16 AM
I met one lady from here who lives about 60 miles away. In English terms that's too far for a regular meeting but I hope we will meet again, for another meal and a long chat in a pub. I guess in American terms, 60 miles is probably considered 'next door' so I still hope to make more friends who live only ten miles away or thereabouts.

Other friends I've met come from my interest in dancing. Any man who can dance will have no trouble making friends by going to dances!

Rock's photo
Tue 02/12/19 02:04 AM
I forgot to keep a tally


I've probably met dozens of women in person
from this site.

As i'm rarely ever single and looking,
most of the meet and greets have been,
strictly platonic.


oldkid46's photo
Tue 02/12/19 08:30 AM
None from here but a couple from DH. They were not what they indicated in their profile. Another from a different site that I have met in person. We have agreed that we want to spend some time together when we can. Initially she seems to be the same person as in the profile. Another from another site that I hope to meet in the next couple weeks - we will see if she even shows up sometime. On here, I have only been able to get 1 honest conversation started in nearly a year.

no photo
Tue 02/12/19 09:57 AM
How do you meet dozens of women in person from this site? Maybe you have to live in the States to do that! Wish I was that lucky! laugh

I_love_bluegrass's photo
Tue 02/12/19 10:04 AM
Edited by I_love_bluegrass on Tue 02/12/19 10:06 AM
None from here...very, very few in my area that have been online in the past month, let alone in the past couple weeks..mad

Met 3 from other sites...all indicated they wanted to get together again.

First guy moved back in with his abusive girlfriend he claimed he'd moved to get away from...

Second guy claimed to have introvert/ hermit issues (which I understand, as I am somewhat that way myself), and could never schedule a second date..

Third guy neglected to tell me he was still married (but, it was ok..they haven;t lived together for 25 years) until we were on the way to the restaurant.

I'm pretty sure these were legit...if they just changed their minds about a second date...they could have just said that...not concoct some elaborate story...laugh




no photo
Tue 02/12/19 10:06 AM
The one lady I met for a drink from here was really nice, everything I had expected from our conversations. Due to distance we can't meet very often but I am looking forward to another meal - I love meals out!

Rock's photo
Fri 02/15/19 01:53 AM

How do you meet dozens of women in person from this site? Maybe you have to live in the States to do that! Wish I was that lucky! laugh


Not like it was done in a week. laugh
I've been here awhile.


Riverspirit1111's photo
Fri 02/15/19 02:56 AM

How do you meet dozens of women in person from this site? Maybe you have to live in the States to do that! Wish I was that lucky! laugh


I met 5 in the last year... traveling around for seasonal work has it's benefits. Three of them are dear friends of mine, the other two were just acquaintances from the forums.

I've yet to meet a romantic interest that could lead to that special one tears

Could be I wasn't looking or interested in anything other than friendship over the last year laugh

I'm interested in dating now... hoping to meet someone that adds a little spark to the equation. smitten


no photo
Fri 02/15/19 05:11 AM
I would imagine that looking for someone to become a romantic interest is even more difficult than just looking to make some new friends - maybe even stressful at times love

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