Not an option for me but it may be for some.

I want someone who can meet me for coffee or other activities when I have free time. I also know I would not move to be with them, they would have to move here.

Right now I consider 160km(100miles) about the limit for either party to travel.
However I now seriously believe there are no women in Costa Rica on M2
So if someone was found it would require a lot of traveling to get to know each other. Then the hard part...who's moving, what & why. Difficult yes, worth it Definitely.

to me when i was looking , distance wasn't a problem
cause you can really get to know someone when you spend a lot of time with them in voice/ video chat
emails can be staged and text can often be miss read

and i would much rather have a clue before moving a big distance of what direction it might take

but yes if you are talking meet and great and hanging out in person then yeah i think close to the 100 mile mark like Bob said sounds about right (granted all depending on where you live, if only means of travel is walking then 100 might be high)

but where i lay my head , never really bothered me

I know I have related this story before..

I know of someone who lived in TN...and somehow started chatting with a woman in Washington State..
Anyway...they got married a couple years ago..and he lives up there in WA now...
He was an intelligent, employed guy....he moved there because she didn't like it here (don't blame her)..

So..it happens..

But, dang if I know HOW.

I can't get guys from 100 miles to even start to chat without the distance being a problem..
("I don't want to see somneone only once or twice a week..")

But then, for some dudes, anything more than 25-30 miles is "too far"...

I'd be completely open to relocating.
I have my own income, am self-supporting...just no ties here anymore.

Topic: Distance does Matter

Yes it matters! The further you are away from someone, the longer it may take to get to that face to face interaction that is vital in the beginning of a relationship. There might be an online spark that is initially there, but it's the face to face interaction where chemistry between two people is created.

The longer you go without meeting, the more comfortable you get with that person and when you finally do meet that initial romantic element that creates the chemistry has a higher chance of not happening. There's also the risk of developing preconceived ideas of that person and when you finally do meet, they could end up being entirely different.

In that respect I believe distance does indeed matter.

When it comes to two people who have fallen in love, no I don't believe distance matters. It would strain the relationship though if distance isn't dissolved at some point, imo.

I don't know what their inititial message is (as I don't correspond with women on here)..
But, if the first message I get from someone is "wow you have a beautiful smile", or "you are so gorgeous are all the men near you blind that you are still single" or some other drivel (I am NOT smiling in my profile picture)...it's an immediate NOPE.

Or, if they send their phone number or e-mail in the first message, or want mine right away...another NOPE.

I've yet to have it get as far as asking for money..I usually shut it down WAY before that... LOL

One who says "Distance doesn't matter" should be the one who does all of the traveling.

Hii

Some of us travel on a regular basis and usually to the same area or over the same route. Some have a regular home and a cabin someplace and they travel between regularly. Some may be planning a move to your area. When you assume they are too far away without knowing the reason behind why they messaged you, you may be missing an honest person. Hopefully that reason is obvious from their profile or first message. Personally, living in a more rural area, a hundred miles isn't that far.

That is logical unfortunately the one who says it, doesn't come through with the traveling.

If a person. Doesn't have any tied like Home, Job, or family. tiesitwouk be easier for them to travel or Move. Also they have to have money.
Many people like their own Place!!

I agree that the one that says it ought to pay for the traveling. However, I think if both agree to form a relationship it should be more equal... taking turns traveling and paying for it. Like I hear you saying, it might be easier for one of the two to do the traveling... in that case they can still share the costs of the one who's doing it.

From what I'm hearing from others, if they have their own home they are less likely to want to move and most seem to prefer a distance where they can easily see each other.

Distance Does Matter... That's never been truer for me than these days, although I've never taken a plane to join a possible love interest before and I'm sure I never will.
I did drive more than six hours once to join a woman I had been talking on the phone with for a couple of month and ended up regrating every minute of it.

Most of my interests live Miles away from me. I met a really nice man, not on mingle2. I am on Relationship sites where people are into finding a good date.
However, distance can be a huge barrier.

So many say, they will go any distance to meet. We know that is not always the case.

Women sometimes are Willing to go that distance. Love is not always found in your City , guys!!

I can also say Distance doesn't have to matter. I met this girl in a chat room and we became friends. Now she was over 6500 miles away in New Zealand while I was in California. We talk thru the chat room & a few phone calls over 6 months. Then I found she was vacationing in England with a lay over in LA. I talked her in to coming to visit me & she never made it to England. She passed away after a near 20 yr marriage.

David, I agree

Sorry to hear your lady passed, Bob
You made her happy for the six months before she passed.

Back to OP, one disadvantage of long distance relationship at my age, I or the poor fella could die before we meet.

Happy New Year everyone!

I actually met someone who doesn't mind emailing. Good conversation and answering questions I have.

That is how I met Men in person, by getting to know them. Via emails.
Unfortunately, on many datesites Men like hookups not interested in. Actually communicating online very long.

Not sure where it goes. I don't meet Every man I email . I talk for Weeks and Months. I have nice date for my First meets because they travel.

Who wants to hook up with someone who is not romantic and you don't have chemistry online to start with.