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ok, i left my ex 2 months ago because of his drinking.........he wrote me two weeks later and i just sent a letter back to him explaining why i left and won't come back...................here's the thing, i told him in the letter that i still love him..........did i just screw up?
he told me in his letter to me that he can't stip thinking bout me either.......... is this normal to miss something that was good for nearly 3 and 1/2 years after 2 months? |
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ok, i left my ex 2 months ago because of his drinking.........he wrote me two weeks later and i just sent a letter back to him explaining why i left and won't come back...................here's the thing, i told him in the letter that i still love him..........did i just screw up? he told me in his letter to me that he can't stip thinking bout me either.......... is this normal to miss something that was good for nearly 3 and 1/2 years after 2 months? its only normal if you are human. |
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Yeah, I think it's pretty normal, and normal to still love him. But, you left for a reason and if that reason still exists, well, only you can say for sure whether you can and want to deal with it or not. Good luck to you
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If you have a problem with his drinking and he hasn't stopped drinking, don't get back together with him. I don't think you screwed up by telling him how you feel, just don't get back together with him.
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No you didnt screw up....you cant control what your heart feels and your heart still loves him. But I do believe you did the right thing.
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hell yeah its normal but good job to you for standing up for yourself........
The right thing may not seem easy at the time but in the long run it is always the best thing to do. |
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it's unfortunately going to hurt a lot longer than that...even without contact...3 1/2 years is a while.
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if u still love him u still love him....... but that dont mean u cant stand ur ground on the drinking thing. if thats what it takes for him to be about to keep u in his life then he has to change that but then again its u that would have to choose to trust him on that one or not. love just dotn fade away really fast unless it was never love at all...... keep ur head high and u didnt mess up
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Yes, it is so normal.
No, you did not screw up. If you don't see it ever working out, don't play with his affections. True love does not go away, but true love does not mean you will be with that person forever. Hugs, M |
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Don't kick yourself over it...it's only natural to still care about him!
I won't tell you what to do, of course, but be real sure that you know what YOU want or need before you talk to him again...for both your sakes. S |
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it's not like i could just jump and go back, i have no car and moved out of state..........my father (who i am staying with for now) doesn't want me to talk to him AT ALL......he doesn't know i sent that letter...........i don't miss the drunken man in him, i miss the man that took care of me while i had several nervous breakdowns after losing custody of my daughter
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If you were deeply in love for 3.5 years, then it will take a lot longer than a couple of months to completely move on emotionally. In some cases, it could also require seeking profession help (therapy). As a result, it is natural for you to have feelings for him. Having said that, being drunk or high on drugs is being detached, therefore, it is never a good quality for a relationship, because one person is off somewhere while other is left in the relationship.
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love hurts..just don't start drinking over it:)
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I left my ex for the same reason and like you I loved him for a while afterwards. Its hard but just stay strong. No one but them can make them change and you can just get hurt trying. I wish you luck and can only say that it does get easier. If you need someone to talk to Im here for you.
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you didn't screw up, it's totally understandable that yo still love him. But be strong,don't forget why you left. May that will change and you can be with him again, IF that is what YOU want. Take Care,
Penny
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It is very healthy to still have feelings, theres no way you wouldn't when you had invested and experience so much with someone
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I was with a guy for 6 yrs., thought we would be together until the end. He is an alcoholic, very verbably abusive...I left his world 1 1/2 yrs. ago and told him I loved him but could not/would not compete with his 'other love'. I told him if he could get sober and stay that way for a year, I may consider coming back to him...but this change had to come about for himself, not for me. He didn't love me enough. I love myself too much for him to take me down with him...life goes on!
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Very sad
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ok, i left my ex 2 months ago because of his drinking.........he wrote me two weeks later and i just sent a letter back to him explaining why i left and won't come back...................here's the thing, i told him in the letter that i still love him..........did i just screw up? he told me in his letter to me that he can't stip thinking bout me either.......... is this normal to miss something that was good for nearly 3 and 1/2 years after 2 months? no you didn't screw up. I would advise you to be his friend..and that's it..and encourage him (without nagging) to get sober. yes it is normal to miss someone you love, even if it's 10 yrs down the line..they will always have a place in your heart. |
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you didn't screw up, but you should have tried 2 help him. never giving up on the one's you love are the best kinds of test 2 see if relationships will make it.
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