My profile states I am interested in men from my state only. I can drive, but prefer to meet somewhere close to home. I have gotten several friend requests from guys of all ages but 99% are 1000 to 2500 miles away. Does anyone have an opinion if you accept a friend, do they actually write often or call -- I have been declining all because I SAY that I will. What is your opinion of having several "friends" that you are pretty certain you will never get to meet. You cannot miss my preference if you look at my profile. I need some realistic suggestions. Thanks for any input.

I have very few on my friends list, only 9 in fact. Of those 9, only 4 are of the active kind. I will not delete the ones who are not active because they are still my friends. Of the 4 that are active I plan on meeting 2 of them maybe in the Spring. The other 2 who are active I will meet sometime. 1 friend who has deactivated I keep in touch by text and phone and am going to meet her soon since she is only 2 hours away. So each person is going to be different in their approach to their friends list. If you want a realistic chance of meeting your friends then keep your list small.

All you can do with undesired friend requests,
is decline or block, as you receive them.

Your profile is pretty clear, as to what you want /
don't want.

Before adding someone to my friendship list I want to understand their motive. What I hate is that people add me to their favorites without ever talking to me. I don't want to be only decoration for their favorites. I block them streight. I wish I could cancel the whole favorite list for most of them hasn't talked to me.

I love Mingle2, because it allows my personal settings. Here I met my husband from Pakistan. And here too God established my (Pastor) ministry "Online mom and sons" with now more than 130 online sons from 26 countries and diffrent religions. No need and no way to meet with them. I feel blessed.

I am sure that a new love will find you. God bless you!

Like most i deny any blind friends requests on here. I have made a couple of long distance friends of of other sites in the past. But ghese days i prefer to only talk to those who there is a chance we'll run into each other.

Chat global and date local.

Most just give me the finger, so really don't know

Unless he/she is an obvious scammer, it can't hurt to chat with someone who lives far away. And you may learn something. But if they start giving sob stories and asking for money, delete, block, and report. And don't give out any personal information, phone #, adress etc. until you're really sure they are who they say they are.

All of my Mingle friends live far away. However, all of them were or are very active members of the forums.

I won't friend someone who is complete stranger, nor will I friend someone who has only chatted with me outside the forums.

Everyone that I friend is either a) someone whom I've already had considerable contact with inside the forums, or b) read enough in the forums to know that they are a truly good person.

Nobody on my friends requests because I don't like it.

Cat, do you mind if I ask why?

I'm just curious.

Mingle is very different from when I joined. Because of that, I haven't been going out of my way to add friends. The forum community used to be a larger but more tight knit group of people.

I'm sure it has changed since you joined too, though I was inactive for much of that time.

I delete friend requests almost daily! Men online you Never meet in person are Associates not true friendships. You never spend times together like dinner , Movies are whatever You like doing. They are Strangers. IMO

Now I have talked on the phone with men I met online but Not in person.
To see if I had Chemistry enough to meet in person.
Some I said No to.

But it's all a Personal choice.