And this is why people need to do due dilligence when trying to find a partner..and not merely think with your hormones.

Sure, *most* people are all hopped up on nookie when they first get together..
But, as a general rule..that wanes after a while.
(I realize not for everyone, but the majority..for the majority it ebbs and flows)
Then hopefuly, if one has chosen carefully, they have other things that hold them together..interests, common beliefs, a drawing towards a "cause", perhaps..

They still have sex but not near as often.
And for many, that is perfectly fine (quality over quantity, by the way).

IF, however, one partner has a fundamental need to have it every day, or more often that their partner wants (this goes for both men *and* women), the they need to be clear upfront about this....to make sure their partner is well aware of it...and jusy just "assume" that because you like 20 other things about the person somehow the sex part will work itself out.

Myself, if I see on a 65 year old guys profile and he states "I need sex daily", I pass by, because I know we're on completely different pages WRT that..
Not saying I am not interested in it..not at all..
Just that I don't want to feel ~obligated~ to have it every day.
If we do, fabulous, great!
But I don't want to enter into a relationship where the expectation is it's *got* to happen everyday, or he feels like someone he missed out, or his partner is witholding , or any number of things.
That's a pressure and expectation i don't need.

Like, years ago, back whe an i was a bag 'o chips and *all* that, and way thinner than i am now...I dated a guy a few times..
he said on more than one occasion when we were eating out.."do you *need* that?" (and extra helping, or a dessert)

Umm..no moron..I don't *need it*, but I *want* it..
It was his fear that the eoman he was with might (gasp!!!) gain some weight.
I decided I dodn't need THAT pressue/ worry..
If that was imnportant to him..let him find someone who was on the same page with that..
As for *me*, I'mn , I eat what I want.
If I gain some weight, I may exercise to lose it, or I may not....my choice.

Oddly, after I ditched him..I did stay the same weight for 20 years until a medical issue in 2004 cause me to gain a lot..but, that's another discussiom..

People just need to be more upfront with what they want and need in a relationship..
Sadly, most guys don't give any thought to anything more than she makes his boner tingle..
And when a woman has clear preferences and wants...the guy claims she's "too picky"..."to demanding"..blah blah..and nhe feels the need to take a cheap shot and insult her.
Well, who asked you, darlin'?
I'm not what you want...move along..

What a daring thread and on point with some as they age.

Another thing to consider on the female side is dryness. The inability to sustain natural lubricant. I don't know what it is actually called?

I know that I don't have the erections I had in my 30s but the meds I am taking are partially to blame. My libido is still pretty intense and I have little problem in that aspect but with them meds, I last for hours before I pop.
To get to that point, I find that I have to get down and make it wet again or I get "rug burn". Its not really a problem because I enjoy giving oral to a woman. I do know that lubricant helpers work well.

At 57 years old I can no longer hit the ceiling with a quarter (flip a quarter) but I have no real problem satisfying a woman either. The ratio is for her is 8-10 orgasms to one of mine.
I do find that it takes me a bit longer to recover now.

By comparison to my abilities when I was in my 30s, I am very different now but that's to be expected with my age, my health and the types of meds I am on.

Thing is, my relationship with a woman is not based on sex so the sex is merely an extension of the feelings that permeate our time together.
I see and hear no complaints and the proof is in the fact that she continues to want me again and again. She can't keep her hands off me and frankly, I don't want her to.

If women's hormones are in balance, that doesn't happen.

But most women don't go to MDs who advocate bio-identical hormones.
The visit and blood work are covered by insurance, but the compounded prescriptions are not covered, due to Big Pharma's lobbying against the compounding industry which, if allowed, would decimate their industry.

Well, yeah..
If one's insurance doesn't cover those bio-identical hormones...they cost (me, anyway) $60 a month..
Sorry..I don't have that kind of spare cash laying around.

mine cost about $200/month.

Are yours prescribed or OTC?

I hadn't thought of that...

Is there natural foods or vitamin supplements, herbs or minerals that can help? Do prenatal vitamins help post-menopausal women?

Neither.
I checked into them after hearing good things about them from others.

Even if they *are* prescibed..my insurance doesn't cover them...

P.S. FWIW...this doesn't mean I have no libido..(AHA..*that's* why she's posting what she is)...

I'm fine in that regard....
I'm merely pointing out that, from a *health* standpoint, I am aware bio-identicals are better..but I can do s***-all about it...so..¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Try Astroglide....
*Fabulous* stuff..and doesn't break down latex..
Or..so I heard...from a friend....

I totally agree with River. If, someone judges you solely on appearance that is not right "IMO".
There are some very shallow and narrow minded people in this world. There are also others that are not. I personally try my very best to not judge what the eyes see but, rather try to see what's on the inside ones heart. I hope you find a person that can look beyond the physical aspects and see your heart.