What means "soul mate" for you?
Is possible to never meet a soul mate?
For example if she lived in another country from you, only spoke her language you didn't understand and never left her country.
Is it possible soul mate lives in Eskimos land?

" Soul Mate" is one of a number of wishful-thinking based concepts that people try to use to explain various life experiences to themselves.

The concept implies a lot of additional things, since they are required for a "soul mate" to exist.

Someone or some force in existence has to control all of existence, and arbitrarily cause such a mate to exist. There is no evidence of this force or being.

I think the reason that the idea came about, was most likely as a cover story for an entirely different problem: cheating and other results of lust.

People who found that they were strongly attracted to someone other than the mate they'd been working to be with for some time, wanted someone other than themselves to blame for their mistakes (first of staying with the person that are about to cheat on or dump, and second for the cheating or dumping itself). So they invented the idea (with lots of historic support from previous self-excusers) of "soul mate" to explain why they suddenly needed to go with this new person, or at least why they are about to leave a perfectly okay person who wants them to stay.

Once you are INSIDE of the belief that "soul mates" exist, you open a lot of other logical problems for yourself including what you have listed. In order to hang on to the idea that you have a promised "soul mate" out there, you have to add more features and rules and cover stories to the basic idea. Eventually, you can build an entire formal religion out of it, if you get carried away.

Thank you for your explanation, Igor

The concept of soulmate comes from ancient Greece. According to Greek mythology, humans were originally created with four arms, four legs, and a head with two faces. Fearing their power, Zeus split them into two separate beings forcing them to spend their lives in search for their other halves.

Seems a bit silly to me...

soul mate @ www.dictionary.com/

noun: a person with whom one has a strong affinity, shared values and tastes, and often a romantic bond

spot on

I think the concept is self-soothing irresponsibility, which, like you said, often has its parameters changed to fit the latest whomever.

I don't believe in a soul mate for Me. Especially on a internet. I have to meet him in person to see how Our dating process goes. Then I decide if we are right for any Relationship. That's just Me.

I did not know that, Cranky.
When you put that way, it does seem silly to me also.

I agree. Nothing beats meeting in person.

I don’t believe we have a soul mate. I believe spending time together determines if you should be together. I also think love evolves over time.

Sole mates...

The importance of wearing comfortable boots.

I find this topic interesting so far.

Personally, I follow the quoted dictionary definition, and without and regards to religious concepts.

As for some of the views I've read so far, I think some people are either overthinking or overcomplicating it.

For one thing, entertain the possibility that a person may have more than one soulmate. I'm not saying it to support the idea of polygamy. Rather that the concept of a soulmate vs. that of a partner is similar to the difference between friends vs. family. You may share a lot with both, but only certain elements (Iike DNA) can only be shared to any great extent with only a very selective subset of people.

For another, it's about finding a deeper bond, one that feels natural rather than forced or complicated. I might be compatible with a great many women. I might be very happy with any single one of those women. But would I feel completely fulfilled? Would I be willing to sacrifice everything for someone who didn't share a bond that goes right down to the core of my very essence as an individual? If I have that feeling, even the worst arguments become only small blips on the radar rather than causing the radar screen to crack and catch fire.

That's not nice! Totally makes sense to me though. Those in power can't stand for anyone else to be powerful.

Very silly and romantic

I think finding a soulmate would be cool, although I'm not down with the four legs part. Four arms might come in handy...

I think it only becomes 4 after we meet and become one

Think of how much faster we could type or tune up our car!

And shuck corn, peel potatoes, do gardening. The list is long! Wow, I might have to ditch Li and find this soulmate...

Hmmm... Now that's incentive to hurry up and find that soul mate of mine.

Typing faster will cut my online time in half, I'll be able to get more stuff down offline