I think, It depends on how the situation unfolds. I have found out in other cases for other's it's not so easy to do. I have learned that the heart muscle takes longer to heal then all the other muscles in the body. If I am wrong please help me to understand as well.

Drinking magnolia helps. They used to use it for exorcism, but it works for getting over a breakup too.

The heart is a complex thing. It is constantly in battle with the brain. The brain will tell you to do one thing and the heart will usually override that. But when you see that there is absolutely no hope of the other heart feeling the same, ever, and the spark you feel may be dying because of that, it will take courage and strength but that is the time to let go.

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I auctioned my heart on e-bay.

things don't sell on ebay as well as they used to. i hope you put a high starting price on that heart

Oh, somebody on here actually has a heart. I thought they were all bots?

What is this 'heart' thing you speak of? It sounds like an alien infestation of some sort. Should I be concerned? Maybe I'll contact my exterminator just to be safe.

Exterminator oh no were all doomed now.

I'll never go through that again. Too painful.

I got a carton of smokes, and a pound
of beef jerky, out of the deal.

I have one 'feeling' left.

All the rest of my feelings have been stepped on, shattered or abused.
I wrapped the last one in bubble wrap and placed it inside a shoe box then packed it in a crate immersed in those lil 'peanuts' packing filler.
I keep the crate in a locked safe with a 60 digit alphanumerical combination.

I got it out once to show a woman that I really cared for and she knocked it on the floor and started kicking it around the room. When I finally got control of it again I gave it a bath, dried it off and kissed it gently and packed it all back up again, safe from those evil souls that can't respect it.

Its going to have to be someone VERY special before I show my last feeling to anyone again.
Maybe, if she is really special, her feeling and my feeling can start a family and we both will have 'feelings' again.

I hear ya buddy.....well said...

A broken heart can actually cause death.

But few die from it. https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/17857-broken-heart-syndrome




My thoughts:
Our feelings of heartbreak are those of grief. Someone is gone.
It seems more difficult to grieve a living person. We understand grieving death.

My heart/mind connection with a breakup can last longer.

Everyone grieves differently, and you have to go through the grief to get through it. Only then can you move forward.
Rebounding too soon after heartbreak can cause all kinds of destruction and make you feel worse.

I began having mini-strokes, had to see a cardiologist and was put on medication and was told by the doctor that if I didn't get rid of the stress in my life, the next stroke would kill me. The only stress in my life was my marriage and that's when I knew that it was over.

So to answer your question, when it starts to kill you, put it away and don't take it out again until you are physically strong enough to handle the pain again.

I've been through a lot of personal learning about this. My experience has been that it is less a matter of "hearts being broken and having to heal," than it is that the persons actual vision or understanding of how love (and life) works, can be damaged or changed by bad experiences, such that they can't believe in the same kind of love as they did before.

You can't unsee things. You can't un-know things.

If your experience is that someone THOUGHT they loved you, and you THOUGHT you loved them, and you broke up when one or both realized you were mistaken, that can leave you fully able to launch right back into the same idea of love as you had before.

But if your experience causes you to doubt love itself, the reason you can't "let go of your heart" again, isn't because you are holding it back. It's because you lose the sense that "letting go" is anything other than indulging in self-blinding delusion.

Those of us who have suffered that, aren't entirely without hope. But we do have a longer road, and a more complicated search to go on, before we can find someone who we can believe in enough to accept in that way.

In a way, it's like the transition to knowing that Santa Claus isn't real. It changes how you feel about Christmas rather dramatically, but it doesn't mean that you lose EVERYTHING nice about it, or that you can't have a good time. It does mean, though, that you can never again feel the way you did when you thought Santa WAS really going to magically bring you things.

My heart is sealed and locked in a box. But I sometimes leave clues. How to open this box ...

Letting go **with** your heart takes conviction with a bit of resignation. There is no room for doubt or second-guessing.

It's one thing to let go, but it's another to do it with your heart, meaning that you don't hold any malice or grudges. Instead, you're letting go with love and respect, not hatred or disappointment. That's why it takes a firm resolve and some resilience. It's not easy to do. If you do it wrong, you'll tear yourself apart.

When you let go with your heart, it's because you know it's what is best. Maybe for you. Maybe for them. Maybe for both. Because of that, you cannot afford feelings of remorse. You need some level of detachment to blunt the sting. That takes acceptance. The acceptance becomes a form of resignation. The resignation helps you to move on.

If the other person refuses to let go, that's not your problem unless you allow them to make it your problem. And if you allow that to happen, you haven't really let go with your heart. Yes, the other person may feel pained by your decision. But if you allow them to prolong that pain, and to cause yourself added discomfort or pain, then you aren't really using your heart, are you? That's self-destructive behavior more akin to pity and melancholy. It's not compassion or empathy.

Letting go with your heart requires things like compassion -- positive feelings. It also requires a rational mind. The heart looks to the mind for protection, but the mind can become corrupted by the heart if you allow it. So the mind needs to counter the pain in the heart by building positivity as a shield. That positivity will eventually turn the heart away from those darker emotions. Once those dark emotions are gone, the heart can begin to let go. The positive feelings seeded by the mind can then bloom, allowing you to go your own way without any regrets.

Well said!