Why is it a real issue for men to love a woman who already have a child?

yes

Some men have experienced that a woman with a child is only involved with them only to take care of the child. And a lot of the women expect that all men will treat them as their exs did.

I use the rule of the old bags on here
"I ain't raising no more children"

some men here are so disrespectful.. like what's with having a child and being a single mom?? there's no need to make us feel unwanted.. c'mon..? we know our place ok?
even though the Father of our child leaves us.. so what? we're not begging for your money.. we can raise our child.. the point is all we need is someone to accept and love us.

It's not a problem with me. I've had a relationship with a single mom before, and I'll do it again.

However, I already have someone in my sights. She very much knows who she is.

It's not for me. Helped my last gf raise her twins after her husband walked out on them when they were 3. I came into their life a year later and helped raised them until they were 13.
My last wife had a 3 year old to. His sperm donor didn't want to pay CS, so we gave him a choice, pay or give up his rights, he chose the later. I adopted him and raised him as my own.

So, for some it's not a deal breaker, others it is.

Oh, girl, your place?

“Your place“ is the same as a married mother, if not higher, for the will and determination to take care of your child by yourself. Being independent is admirable, which is attractive to many men. You know how to take care of things without “a man“ You can feel GREAT about that! Look back a bit at what you have done on your own!

If you don’t feel good about yourself, that can come through when you meet people. Let yourself off the hook, and stop shaming yourself for being a single mom.

Show your confidence, smile and be proud of who you are.

Respect towards women are very important firstly. I think it is an honour from society to take care of a single parent. In India it is somehow easy to make such relationship. But only thing is adjustment and passion by both is essential to built a relation. Mostly the same are missing as people find only physical happiness than a long term relationship. Hope a
Single
e mom gets a
Lot of encouragement from society.
All the best.

Maybe some indeed cannot take proper care of their child on their own and are more looking for a man to help with the cost than they are looking for love.

Also, when you have a child you haven't got as much time as a woman without one. Dating is going to be different because you'll need a baby sitter, have to be home a certain time, if the child is ill you cannot date. You will talk about different things and so on.
Basically having a child changes your life, and with that also who you are, your interests, what you talk about.
You cannot deny your child by not talking about it or pretending to not have a child, nor should you, but not every man is going to be thrilled by that prospect.

And another thing, if a man is interested in a serious commitment it would also mean he's going to have to raise a child that is not his, that he has no bond with. There's likely going to be an ex in the picture for years on end: the child's real father.
Not exactly what the average man would be looking for.
Most people when younger would like to have a fresh start together with a woman, starting a new book, not one that has already got a number of chapters written with someone else.

Sounds harsh, but I think that's what you're facing. It might be different in real life, when you meet someone and things grow that way. Might be more difficult online.

I would want to know if the child's father is providing child support.

For me, it would depend on circumstances.

If, her children are grown, and live on their own,
then yes, I'd date a single mom.


If, she has a half dozen or so little bastages,
from a half dozen or so different baby daddies?
Just Hell nah!

My white stepfather brought us three mixed-race kids up as his own from the early 1960's till the day he died, sadly at the early age of 63 years. I don't know anything that comes close to that commitment to a woman with child.

Some men are only after 1 thing. They want it with as little effort as possible. Skip over guys who give you crap about your kid or anything else. I was asked to dinner tonight and the guy said I could bring my kid. That would be weird but it's nice that he offered.

My son's father died in a car accident when my son was only seven months old. My second husband couldn't wait to get my son out of the house. He didn't really start showing these traits until my son was in his preteen years. I didn't need my husband. As a matter of fact when he put my son in a chokehold and I wasn't there to protect him, I decided it was time to leave. To this day my ex says that I am nothing without him, yet I was everything before he met me and I am better without him.

Now that my son is grown and on his own my ex wants me back because now it would just be the two of us. I think before it was just jealously on his part and selfishness. He wanted all of my attention to himself and my son wasn't growing up fast enough for him. What he didn't understand is that I'm a mom for life! I raised a man but I will always be his mom and if he needed me I would be there for him.

I wouldn't date a single father who is raising young kids alone, for probably some of the same reasons.

I wholeheartedly understand people not wanting to go there.
I don't either.
Plenty of men my age who still have kids under 10, likely a 2nd or 3rd litter, or they were late-bloomers. But I don't want my life to get altered because they chose to party until they were nearly 50. I chose to have kids earlier so I'd still be young when my kids were grown.
I'm not interested in a family situation anymore -tried that with someone, didn't work out too well. Nor am I willing to give up the freedom I have now that my kids have left the nest some 6 years ago.
It's a process... kid gets ready and eager to leave the nest as it grows older, so does the parent.
Going back to square one, handing in your new-found freedom, isn't easy, and I'm simply not willing to do that.

So many men ask "Is it a problem that I have a son/daughter of 6 yrs old?"
Yes, it is.
"Is it a problem that my 21 yr old son is living with me?"
Yes, it is.
I want a man who's free, has adult children who've left the nest so we can build a life together, don't have to worry about children being or coming home, being ill, having teenage tantrums and so on.
Been there, done that, not going there again.
Also, if a man's kid is under 10, it means having to wait at least 10 years until the kid leaves the nest. I don't want to wait, I want to live and enjoy NOW.
I've raised my kids, they're 27 and 25. The only kids I intend to partially raise in this life are any potential grand-children.
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I chose not to have kids. I have some guys who write me and they are windowed. They say they are looking for a mother for their kids. No thanks from me.

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