I'm 18, I live at home, but I'm more independent that most people would think. Everything I have I paid for it myself. I have a job. I pay rent. But my dad, and step-mom feel the need to force their belifes on me. I'm agnostic. I respect my parents, I love them to death, and I respect their religion and anyone else who belives in God. But why feel the need to obligates some one who obviously has no interest, nor is the slight bit convinced that wha you belive is real? But it doesn't stop their. I help them with anything, and everything they need. But it looks like I'm being taken for grantid.

I know what alot of you are thinking "Move out" yeah easier said than done. I find that it would complicate my personal life a whole great deal. Because I take classes so I can get my high school diploma on the weekends. And help my dad out with what ever he needs. I can't afford anything close, and what I can afford is 4 to 5 miles away. And to be able to take the classes I need I have to live in a 3 mile radius of the school.

So my question is, who do I bridge this gap? Is it possible to coincide with my parent's peacefully mean why I get the neccasry resources to live on my own?

pray for divine inspiration. The Lord is keeping you home for your own good. The sooner you see the light, well............

If you gonna live in your parents house, you have to live by their rules, irregardless of how "independent" you see yourself. Been there, done that. If you cannot stand the religon rules, then, make the necessary sacrifices and move out. If you are unwilling to make the sacrifices to avoid the problem, then you just gotta learn to handle it and live with it

Woah, that's exactly what my dad tells me.....freaky

lol...like I said..been there done that...lol....

well ditto

although you could ask them

if they think their forcing their

religion upon you is making you into a believer

or causing you to resent said religion

thus pushing you even further away from it

and you could start studying their beliefs

so you could understand why they feel the way they do

is it truly that you do not believe

or is it easier than believing

This is actually one of my pet peeves in other believers. I hate when someone tries to force their beliefs on someone else. If you want to really surprise them, tell them how when they try to push religious belief on you they push you further from said belief. Honestly, they need to hear it anyway.
As for why they are trying, they probably want to help you, and that's part of their idea of how. Just realize that they may not realize how you feel, and then talk to them about it! If they don't listen, then every pushy talk should be when you start talking about how when someone tries to force you to do something you want to do the opposite.
It's a hard situation, and I wish you the best!

just a thought for you to ponder, absolute. I spent a year in combat, and guess what I discovered: I never met an atheist nor an agnostic in combat. met lots of guys who alleged they were, but, when the bullets were flying, they were all praying. Made me wonder.................

I totally think that rules and religious beliefs are two different things. I am a Christian but I would never force my girls to do anything that wasn't truly in their heart. And I think parents that do that will only make the kids draw further away. I think if you went to your parent and explained your 18 and totally respect their beliefs but would like to find your own way.

Tell them how you fill about them pushing there belefs on you, And hopfully they will respect what you beleve in

Have you spoken to them about how you feel? What have they said? i believe each person needs to find his own path in life, and I will never push my beliefs on my children regardless of age or dependence. In my own opinion, if you work, pay rent, and are 100% independent aside from "renting a room" at your parents, then they really have no right to push something like religion on you. However, it may take moving out for them to realize you are a man now, and not their little boy who they are still raising.

If worse comes to worst, move out, but still claim your parents residence for school purposes. I highly doubt the school is going to look into it or care much.

Ofcourse I wouldn't just say I don't belive in god without just having experianced first hand what religion is or what it's about. And I have studied and figured for myself. I made this choice. I wasn't led on by anyone else and it's not the fact that they force me to belive, that pushes me away. Our relationship suffers day in and day out just because I refuse to be manipulated. I'm not putting him as the bad guy. But, I just want him to except me for who I am that's all.

I've been through alot, most than some. And in all that not one knee was bent. Because I'm true to my belifes regardless of what happens. I wouldn't post this if I was lying. Because then I wouldn't be saying the absolute truth.

Many people feel exactly like you do so know you are not alone. Don't let these religious people scare you back to god. It is there favorite tactic. Just like you said you know the truth and its obvious. As far as dealing with parents there is no easy way around being 18 and living with your parents. The only thing I would tell them is that they raised you to be a man and they succeeded. It is time to let you make your decisions and even mistakes on your own.

Tell them exaly what you told us. Heck, copy the post and let them read it. Make peace with your' parents if possible before you get too anxious to leave.

The problem will only follow you.

parents tend to worry and smother their children, it is anxiety caused by love because no parent ever feels they could have done'less'. We always want our kids to be More prepared, more wise, etc. etc. parents can be immature about how to cope too. maybe YOU need to be the one to open up and lay it all out to them. If you walk away knowing you did all you could, I would say you'd be ready to move on.

Religion can be a headache when it's nagged on you like that. Yeah. I get passionate and hot headed with my beliefs, but only in certain setting. It's hard if someone doesn't know how to turn that off.

follow along if you can, young buck.

I tell my son to ace his test even if what they teach him at school is whack.

he does it.

know why?

because that's what they want to hear, and he won't come home with a hammer sticking out of his skull because they try to convince him he's the ape man and God is a myth, even though he knows they are delusional.


Get the drift?

Anyone remember Captain Caveman?


I used to love to do the scream. "CAPTAIN....CAAAAAVVVVEMAAYEEEEYAAAAYEEEEAAAANNNNN"



and son.

lol lol nuenjins.......I also loved Thundercats....and saying that one out loud....Still do......God Bless you Nuen.....

How do they force their beliefs on you?

My son is a bit older than you and he has different beliefs than I do. He's closer to Baptist and I'm closer to Methodist. To me, it's important for people in general not to force their beliefs on others, because it will make them run.

i think they want you to believe the same thing because they love you, and want you to know the same joy of god that they have. it's like there's an awesome party going on and you want all your friends to come.

it's the same situation i face with my close friends. i am a christian and i want them to know christ, but at the same time i know preaching to them will just push them away.

i prefer to share christ by loving on others as much as i can and get to them ask ME "what is different about you? why do you act this way?"

from my experience this works better. no one is gonna listen unless they think what you have is worth listening TO. i love my roommates and i do what i can to show them god's love, and sometimes they ask me things. if one is to come to faith, it isn't ever overnight. if you WERE to become a christian, it might take years. your parents should just love you and pray for you, and hope someday you believe it.