coffeteaorme I was going to say the same thing

Guys do it for sex but why women do it I dont know

Oh...I know why women do it. I figured this out long ago. It is so simple and easy to see why. Wanna know? I bet you do, and I will tell you.

Women do it because they cannot be the bad guy. A very few, small percentage of them can, but the majority can't. Why do you think they stay in relationships that are crappy, they know they are crappy, but yet they stay anyways. Or, they lead a guy on cause they just don't have the heart to say no. They will act all bleh and make the guy do it.

Oh, and not all guys do it for sex. We also hate being the bad person. Why is it always the guy who has to be the A-Hole because he bailed on a chick?

OC.....bring on the new ICE AGE my friend.

Wow goof... great insight! That is so true i agree.

Yeah. Sometimes I even amaze myself with the sh*t I think of.

In this case though, I really think it is true. Man and Woman. Trying to understand one another for thousands of years and still to this day have no clue about the other.

i have to disagree..

it's not cuz women can't be the 'bad guy'

alot of it, is cuz we make excuses for him, that way HE's not nearly as bad as we think he is..

well at the samre time when us honest girls are honest be get call b*tches and rude and all that so maybe if you guys made it easier on us more girls would be honest

Don't worry orange cat I am sure you will find some one soon
You seem sweet and very funny

Goofy you do have some amazing moments there my friend. I don't like hurting anyone's feelings. Women tend to be nurturers so we overlook some things that we should actually confront. However, when I am in a relationship that isn't working out and the fella wants things to remain status quo, I am secure enough in myself to end it. I would rather part as friends than enemys.

Oh yeah. Now we are getting somewhere.

Ok Ell. You make a point, and one that I would say is valid, but I did say that some women can be the "bad guy". I still feel most can't. They just don't have it in them to be. But see, you making excuses also validates that you really don't want to be the bad person. Even if you try to deflect it at the guy, you are still trying to avoid being the one who breaks it off.

Summer. Yes, most men say they want honesty, but alot can't handle it. So, you make a good point. But I also think men who are blunt and honest are called "Jerks" or "A-Holes"...or worse. Kind of swings both ways there.

Orange......

All I can say is that people are NOT how they appear to be. I have not read the whole thread, but for every women that has HURT you, I can come up with 5 men......

Because sometimes when you do telt them they turn psyco on you!

dunno its better off telling people if you interested or not straight away then theres no confusion

You hit it right on targat Goof!! you da man!! lol

This is the internet, ya no?

the wild west buckaroo shootout in the streets at noon with drinks in the morning and the news at 11.


How many idideaits are playing games with people's emotions?

pushin buttons...
yankin chains....
twistin pretzels....
being an incredible nuisance.... me? nawwwwww


there is the clown factor to all of this..

JMO



there are jerks with a strange sense of humor.

There can be a fine line between leading on and just being sociable.

I've found that in the times I have felt 'Led on', it is more to do with expectations on my end. My inability to effectively express, and they just are not cooperating or taking the time to read my mind! I should have sent them the script...dammit!

Although I tend to be somewhat obtuse to overtures, especially if my heart is previously engaged... These days, there is no mistaking when I am attracted and interested. Being overly coy is better left to cats.

at Jistme!! Where's my script?????

I think Goofball nailed it.

It's hard to feel like you're being 'mean' and rejecting someone. But I've found it's far easier in the long run to do just that rather than lead them on.

Two dates. And then I decide yay or nay. So far, I've gone out on two dates with four different guys, lol. No connections yet. But I'm gonna keep trying!!!

Why OC?

Because most are waiting for something better to come along. And if it don't, they want to make sure they have a back up

I'll take it a step further. The one who is waiting for the honesty" Usually knows by the karma, "something ain't right".

When I feel that,,I BOLT

End of discussion,,now lets go surfing

Peace

Unfortunately, I think this internet dating has brought out a lot of folks like this. I think some of it is getting their ego fed, while they continue searching or play the field. I think a lot of is the way internet dating thing has made things a little more superficial, more fleeting and less tangible. It's easier to be casual about how your actions will effect someone who's just a pic on a profile.

i feel you on this
i try not to lead any girl on myself
but i also try not to be lead on
so i will just got with tha flow and see wat happens there
but yea must stay away from those girls who lead us men on

i feel you on this
i try not to lead any girl on myself
but i also try not to be lead on
so i will just got with tha flow and see wat happens there
but yea must stay away from those girls who lead us men on