Okay, I might be wrong here, but it seems to me that the pill taking is just an excuse you are giving to wanting to leave him. Yeah, it probably does bother you. And while he is taking an abundance of prescription pills, you are giving them to him or watching him take them. I think you are just using this reason to talk yourself into doing what you felt you should have done long ago....leaving him.

Maybe you fear being alone. Maybe you keep telling yourself that things will get better. Here is the thing though. What do you want? Do you really want to be with him? If so, then help the guy and stick with him. If you don't want to be with him, then sever all ties and walk away. Yeah, breaking up is hard to do, but if it is what you want then, in the long run, you will feel the better for it.

I have to agree with LauraJ, LHB and Goof. You seem to find a lot of reasons to ask if you should leave, which tells me that it's what you want to do. For whatever reason, the relationship is over for you, you don't need to keep finding excuses. Yup, it's hard, yup, you're heart may break, his may break. You know what, eventually it'll heal. Always does if you let it. And is it really fair to either of you, but especially him, to keep a relationship going that you don't want?

Sounds like he is becoming too dependent on the drugs. He needs help...he needs to tell the doctor everything he is doing.

If it gets worse, and he doesn't seek help, I would leave. He is making the decision that the drugs are more important than you.

Good luck.

i told him there are better ways to deal and cope then popping pills to forget the memory of a loved on.

the guy before he died even told my boyfriend that he needed to stop that ****.

but my b/f popped the pills to get rid of the memory of his good friend.

i told him thats bull****.

Quit TTYING to CONTROL him.
If it bothers you, don't be around.
You told him you'd leave, but backed down.
Control you, DO what you say.
Otherwise your just ENABLEING him.
He gets the attention he seems to want.
Do the deed or get off the pot.

Southern, let me tell you about addicts. There isn't a damn thing you can do or say to help them or get them to quit unless they come to that conclusion on their own. And the more you try, the worse it'll get. You will never love them enough, because they do not love themselves. I unfortunately have way too much experience in that.

Not disagreeing. However.. just a different spin.

You can present avenues, opportunities... Even make the slide to bottom a little more slippery and the landing a bit more painful.. less forgettable, for ones you love. Don't enable... keep your distance and personal safety. Should they stop giving up..and start trying for themselves, help them remember what it was that you loved in the first place. Because they surely have forgotten.
So long as their heart is still beating, they still have a chance. Your job. our job, is to either be part of the problem or part of the solution. I know I'd be long since dead if I did not have a few very courageous people in my life who remembered what I was, when I could not.

Thank you jist, that was very well said. And it certainly does approach the issue from a different perspective, not one I'm familiar with. I'm only familiar with the other side, so thank you.

his whole family says im so good for him and he knows im trying to tak care of him and he told me last nite that he would only take them for his back but he said he hope he wouldnt have to go to another funeral for a long time.

im willing to help him but i had an ex that did drugs so im a lil bit high strung.

take some yourself

lol no im not going to contribute to the problem.

As I eluded to in my previous post. "Help" in these matters is a very subjective term.

Your priority should be you, and yours. "To thine own self be true" is generally a good rule to live by. Simply because, if you are not, you can't honestly help anybody, not even yourself.

Sometimes in our love... we inadvertently help those we love straight to their grave. Take my word for it. That is not a cross you want to bear.

From what I gather in this thread, southern_bee...You may be straddling that line. If so.. the best thing you could do for both your sakes is remove yourself from the picture til things change drastically.

yeah i considerd doing that.leaving him,til he stops it.he promised me he would only do the loratab for his back.and nothing else.

but i dont wanna be the enabler.

I agree with Goofball!