Why do married people cheat or have other sexual partners besides their spouses? Is it normal or healthy?

Well, why do you think they do? There are no right or wrong answers, only opinions.

Because they are not satisfied in their marriage.no it is not healthy.

It totally depends on their relationship. Most are not capable of having other sexual partners simply for the sex and they cheat because they are unhappy/unsatisfied with their partner. They get involved with someone else and it becomes an emotional involvement well beyond just sex. This is very destructive to their main relationship and is not healthy.

Other couples are capable of an adult relationship that involves other sexual partners and is mostly for the sexual pleasure although it may include other mutually enjoyable activities that their main partner is unwilling or unable to participate in. When this is a mutually agreed situation, both partners are honest, both are open about their expectations, and are willing to follow their rules, then it can be a very good situation that is healthy for both partners. A lot of it depends on what is driving the desire for multiple partners in a significant relationship.

because they are idiots.
either they are trying to wreck what they have
or
they are not ending what they have that is not working first

depends on the person, there are a myriad of reasons why people cheat

any thing from lack of morals to being unhappy to having unrealistic expectations.

It’s very unhealthy. Domestic violence isn’t just over leaving the toilet seat up.

Well. I asked because I'm trying to date for marriage. So for a couple of times I'm getting involved with married women unknowingly which I discover while already in the relationship. But when I try to get answers from them at times I find the reasons rediculous. They have everything but you find they still looking for men. I have been away for a long time from my social circles that's why it also took me up to this time before I married. I had never thought that ladies can cheat just for sexual dissatisfaction. My thoughts.

Well first thing you dont need answers from them if you've discovered they are cheating, you need to kick them to the curb.

Asking why a person cheats is like asking why a dog barks or cat meows

People cheat for all sorts of reasons.

And how do you unknowingly get involved with a married women? I find that hard to believe.

I can see a married man cheating with someone who is unaware he is married but for the most part cheating women are different for the most part, most married women that cheats generally with a person that knows she is married.

Married women looking for discreet affairs through relationships are very rare.

Same reason, ultimately, why people use credit cards, buy things they can't really afford.

People constantly seek out fulfillment, securing a normalized mental state, by fulfilling perceived need, which can be triggered intellectually, emotionally, mentally, socially, biologically, sexually, in whatever way your emotions and feelings are associated to the external world via your experience.

It's less work to adapt your life to accommodate your emotional triggers than it is to deny and/or retrain them entirely.

Back to the credit card analogy, it's much easier and there's more support for someone to become more responsible with their spending, how to budget, and when to splurge, compared to the effort needed and lack of support for eschewing the credit/monetary system entirely.


Depends on how you want to look at it and what you value, what kind of person you/they are, the cultures involved, and from what perspective you/they wish to measure it.

I mean for all I know these women "cheating" are in open relationships and their husbands know, and it adds a level of intimacy and bonding to their relationship which yadda yadda yadda translates to greater community altruism. Or they aren't really married, they were just telling you that, or they can't conceive with their spouse but their spouse wants to deny it, they want to get pregnant by any means possible or something.
Who knows.