To those who are clueless like me , finding out if you found that one person youd want to be with for the rest of your life is a very excruciating task. There is even this song about it from the movie serendipity:

When You Know
Shawn Colvin

When you know that you know who you love, you can't deny it.
Or go back, or give up, or pretend that you don't buy it.
When it's clear this time you've found the one, you'll never let him go
'Cause you know and you know that you know.
When you feel in your skin in your bones and the hollow
Of your heart, there's no way you can wait 'til tomorrow.
When there isn't any doubt about it once you come this close
'Cause you know and you know that you know.
You can feel love's around you like the sky 'round blue
This is how love has found you, now you know what to do.
When you know that you know who you need, you can't deny it.
Or go back, or give up, or pretend that you don't buy it.
When it's clear this time you've found the one, you'll never let him go
'Cause you know and you know that you know.
And it's time you come in from the cold.
Ha
And you know that you know

Even if this song is inspiring it is still unclear and confusing though. I know it’s different for everyone but i hope you guys can share how you all felt at the time that you just know that person is the one

I have asked one of my friends before and she said : hes the first person i think of when i wake up in the morning and the last thought in my mind before sleeping. I knew then that my life wouldn’t be the same without him

when it stops being about me

sweet song ...thank you

another way you might know, from one of my favorite scenes of Diary of a Mad Black Woman


Orlando : I'm just sittin' here, tryin' to think of a way to say this to you.

[pauses]

Orlando : I'm in love with you.

Helen : How do you know that?

Orlando : I don't know how to explain it to you.

Helen : Try.

Orlando : Helen, if I'm away from you for more than an hour, I can't stop thinking about you. I carry you in my spirit. I pray for you more than I pray for myself. I've got it so bad for you I'd... I'd go to the grocery store and buy your feminine products, I swear I would.

[Helen and Orlando laugh]

Orlando : And see? And that... that... That smile. Helen, when you smile like that, my world... It's all right.

[pauses]

Orlando : I am in love with you.

Helen : Orlando, what's going...

Orlando : I know you don't believe in fairy tales. But, if you did, I'd want to be your knight in shining armor. You've been through so much. I don't want to see you hurt anymore. Now I may not be able to give you all that your used to. But I do know I can love you past your pain. I don't want you to worry about anything. You just wake up in the morning, that's all you have to do and I'll take it from there. There's one condition. You have to be my wife.

Ah well ... Bonnie Tyler ... Total eclipse of the heart

In my humble opinion this sums pretty much everything - well said.
Also this topic shouldn't be in Musics section.
Dear Soulmate posted this song just to describe her question and personal dilemma the best possible ways ..
It should belong still to Datings and Relationships, or Coffee Houses ..

i'll second that motion

I will join in then

If we make enough noise here maybe they will put it back ..

or maybe ask the right person really really nice like?

About what then SN ?

That was soooo i will try to find and watch that movie soon. Thank you for sharing

That specific song made you feel the eclipse Lars?

Thank you Buzzy...you understood that post well even if it was kinda confusing. Lol. And yes i did post this under relationship. I hope the mods will realise the gist and correct its classification but if not its still ok

I hope others will post about their experiences too. Right now im torned between wanting to know and not know, wanting to be that someone for someone,wanting to give all my love but not fully and yes...wanting to find inspiration from you guys but knowing it might not happen to me, although it could but totally differently.

The thing is in the past my gauges were all wrong:
1. He loves me more than i love him
2. He could always make smile
3. I miss him after a few days unlike others who i dont even for weeks
4. He said he will change his bad habits for me
5. He would never leave me

Yes... all about me lol. Maybe this time it should be more about him and how i can be the best person i can for him? Maybe I should stop and listen to what you guys have to say ? Maybe just maybe ....there are maybes and I should brave the waters and risk to be saved or just float. My panic attacks when my feet don’t touch the ground, ill have to master

When your feet won't touch the ground then you're probably in someone hands .. high in the air, safe and secure, with no worries, lol.
The question is how to measure something which you really can't .. what is more and what is less .. what is wrong and what is right .. compared to what ..?
Confusion usually comes from the bad personal experience from the past .. if you've experienced something which you so believed and hoped to be true, but turned out to be totally wrong, and not just once .. it definitely builds up a thick wall around your heart by the time, because this is like a self defence .. to not get hurt ever again .. by your own feelings.
Guess we've all experienced something like this, but we're all different. We learn from our mistakes in different ways .. and some of us never learn .. so it's really hard to say something helpful or wise ..
Personally I don't have any experience or whatsoever .. only a couple of really serious relationships in my life .. but still remember that the knowing came differently, cos there was a different person each time. It didn't happen fast .. took some time to get to know each other first .. but when the knowing came, it was like enlightening - yes! - she's the one, with whom I wanna share everything in life .. and I'm ready to take her to my world exactly as she is - with no conditions .. and ready to give my own life for her if needed .. there's no ME any more, but US.

However, guys .. as you see - I'm here .. and still searching .. so don't listen what I'm saying .. lol

It was more than just an eclipse