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Topic: You’ll know...
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Wed 06/06/18 04:20 AM

When your feet won't touch the ground then you're probably in someone hands .. high in the air, safe and secure, with no worries, lol.
The question is how to measure something which you really can't .. what is more and what is less .. what is wrong and what is right .. compared to what ..?
Confusion usually comes from the bad personal experience from the past .. if you've experienced something which you so believed and hoped to be true, but turned out to be totally wrong, and not just once .. it definitely builds up a thick wall around your heart by the time, because this is like a self defence .. to not get hurt ever again .. by your own feelings.
Guess we've all experienced something like this, but we're all different. We learn from our mistakes in different ways .. and some of us never learn .. so it's really hard to say something helpful or wise ..
Personally I don't have any experience or whatsoever .. only a couple of really serious relationships in my life .. but still remember that the knowing came differently, cos there was a different person each time. It didn't happen fast .. took some time to get to know each other first .. but when the knowing came, it was like enlightening - javascript:add_smiley('laugh','post_text')yes! - she's the one, with whom I wanna share everything in life .. and I'm ready to take her to my world exactly as she is - with no conditions .. and ready to give my own life for her if needed .. there's no ME any more, but US.

However, guys .. as you see - I'm here .. and still searching .. so don't listen what I'm saying .. lol




nope you got it right bee even if you didn't get to forever with one of them. in all honesty how many of them "right for right nows" ended horribly?

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Wed 06/06/18 05:07 AM

When your feet won't touch the ground then you're probably in someone hands .. high in the air, safe and secure, with no worries, lol.
The question is how to measure something which you really can't .. what is more and what is less .. what is wrong and what is right .. compared to what ..?
Confusion usually comes from the bad personal experience from the past .. if you've experienced something which you so believed and hoped to be true, but turned out to be totally wrong, and not just once .. it definitely builds up a thick wall around your heart by the time, because this is like a self defence .. to not get hurt ever again .. by your own feelings.
Guess we've all experienced something like this, but we're all different. We learn from our mistakes in different ways .. and some of us never learn .. so it's really hard to say something helpful or wise ..
Personally I don't have any experience or whatsoever .. only a couple of really serious relationships in my life .. but still remember that the knowing came differently, cos there was a different person each time. It didn't happen fast .. took some time to get to know each other first .. but when the knowing came, it was like enlightening - yes! - she's the one, with whom I wanna share everything in life .. and I'm ready to take her to my world exactly as she is - with no conditions .. and ready to give my own life for her if needed .. there's no ME any more, but US.

However, guys .. as you see - I'm here .. and still searching .. so don't listen what I'm saying .. lol




Yes, it was that way with me also. I believe when it's that way for both the him and I then it really will become "US"

For the most part, my experience with this enlightenment of it suddenly becoming "Us" has been one sided. Either me feeling it and he didn't, or him feeling it and I didn't.

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Wed 06/06/18 07:18 AM
i hope you guys can share how you all felt at the time that you just know that person is the one

With the potential exception of widows...if people had found "the one," why would they be on an online dating site?

And if they are on a dating site, having found "the one," then what's to say they may feel they "know" their partner is "the one," but, if they're here there's a significant possibility that they're, wrong.

If they're "wrong" but "know" they found the one...what use is "knowing?"


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Wed 06/06/18 07:49 AM
You might 'know' now, but the rest of your life could be a very long time, long enough for you to change or the other person to change.

Hear song by 'Meatloaf: Heaven by the dashboard light'.

The 'one' for now, - enjoy, and hope for the best that you grow and change together in the same ways as time goes on, to stay compatible/attracted. smile2

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Wed 06/06/18 10:39 PM

When your feet won't touch the ground then you're probably in someone hands .. high in the air, safe and secure, with no worries, lol.
The question is how to measure something which you really can't .. what is more and what is less .. what is wrong and what is right .. compared to what ..?
Confusion usually comes from the bad personal experience from the past .. if you've experienced something which you so believed and hoped to be true, but turned out to be totally wrong, and not just once .. it definitely builds up a thick wall around your heart by the time, because this is like a self defence .. to not get hurt ever again .. by your own feelings.
Guess we've all experienced something like this, but we're all different. We learn from our mistakes in different ways .. and some of us never learn .. so it's really hard to say something helpful or wise ..
Personally I don't have any experience or whatsoever .. only a couple of really serious relationships in my life .. but still remember that the knowing came differently, cos there was a different person each time. It didn't happen fast .. took some time to get to know each other first .. but when the knowing came, it was like enlightening - yes! - she's the one, with whom I wanna share everything in life .. and I'm ready to take her to my world exactly as she is - with no conditions .. and ready to give my own life for her if needed .. there's no ME any more, but US.

However, guys .. as you see - I'm here .. and still searching .. so don't listen what I'm saying .. lol



The knowing changes as you get to meet and know another person at another time, meaning what you knew before does not apply to others. But there is always something constant within us right? That feeling that we have when we just know something. Would that be butterflies in the stomach? Could it be a wave or feeling of heaviness in your heart due to unexplainable emotions whenever you’re with that person? Should it be the thought that this person would be the perfect partner for us all aspects of relationships being considered, so emotionally all will turn out right eventually? When does an US start and the ME and YOU ends? Does it start with an i love you from both people? Does it start with a commitment instead? I guess what im trying to say is there must be some sort of clue or gut feel that comes with the knowing. So Buzzy I believe you when you say you’re still searching and will ignore your other request lol. The you before me is totally different from the me before you, however the now i guess is more precious as we are all trying to live it and hoping that it lasts a lifetime. drinker
P.s. the panic attack is real lol

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Wed 06/06/18 10:42 PM



Ah well ... Bonnie Tyler ... Total eclipse of the heart smitten

That specific song made you feel the eclipse Lars? :angel:


It was more than just an eclipse :angel:

Yes it was bonnie tyler bigsmile:angel:

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Wed 06/06/18 10:45 PM


When your feet won't touch the ground then you're probably in someone hands .. high in the air, safe and secure, with no worries, lol.
The question is how to measure something which you really can't .. what is more and what is less .. what is wrong and what is right .. compared to what ..?
Confusion usually comes from the bad personal experience from the past .. if you've experienced something which you so believed and hoped to be true, but turned out to be totally wrong, and not just once .. it definitely builds up a thick wall around your heart by the time, because this is like a self defence .. to not get hurt ever again .. by your own feelings.
Guess we've all experienced something like this, but we're all different. We learn from our mistakes in different ways .. and some of us never learn .. so it's really hard to say something helpful or wise ..
Personally I don't have any experience or whatsoever .. only a couple of really serious relationships in my life .. but still remember that the knowing came differently, cos there was a different person each time. It didn't happen fast .. took some time to get to know each other first .. but when the knowing came, it was like enlightening - javascript:add_smiley('laugh','post_text')yes! - she's the one, with whom I wanna share everything in life .. and I'm ready to take her to my world exactly as she is - with no conditions .. and ready to give my own life for her if needed .. there's no ME any more, but US.

However, guys .. as you see - I'm here .. and still searching .. so don't listen what I'm saying .. lol




nope you got it right bee even if you didn't get to forever with one of them. in all honesty how many of them "right for right nows" ended horribly?

A right for right now sad2 when you know its just this then shouldn’t you not push through it SN? It is guaranteed to end wether horribly or not.

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Wed 06/06/18 10:48 PM


When your feet won't touch the ground then you're probably in someone hands .. high in the air, safe and secure, with no worries, lol.
The question is how to measure something which you really can't .. what is more and what is less .. what is wrong and what is right .. compared to what ..?
Confusion usually comes from the bad personal experience from the past .. if you've experienced something which you so believed and hoped to be true, but turned out to be totally wrong, and not just once .. it definitely builds up a thick wall around your heart by the time, because this is like a self defence .. to not get hurt ever again .. by your own feelings.
Guess we've all experienced something like this, but we're all different. We learn from our mistakes in different ways .. and some of us never learn .. so it's really hard to say something helpful or wise ..
Personally I don't have any experience or whatsoever .. only a couple of really serious relationships in my life .. but still remember that the knowing came differently, cos there was a different person each time. It didn't happen fast .. took some time to get to know each other first .. but when the knowing came, it was like enlightening - yes! - she's the one, with whom I wanna share everything in life .. and I'm ready to take her to my world exactly as she is - with no conditions .. and ready to give my own life for her if needed .. there's no ME any more, but US.

However, guys .. as you see - I'm here .. and still searching .. so don't listen what I'm saying .. lol




Yes, it was that way with me also. I believe when it's that way for both the him and I then it really will become "US"

For the most part, my experience with this enlightenment of it suddenly becoming "Us" has been one sided. Either me feeling it and he didn't, or him feeling it and I didn't.

Hugs to you sisflowers cheers to US drinker

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Wed 06/06/18 10:51 PM

i hope you guys can share how you all felt at the time that you just know that person is the one

With the potential exception of widows...if people had found "the one," why would they be on an online dating site?

And if they are on a dating site, having found "the one," then what's to say they may feel they "know" their partner is "the one," but, if they're here there's a significant possibility that they're, wrong.

If they're "wrong" but "know" they found the one...what use is "knowing?"



You are making a very serious point that its not even funny ciretom think its like im barking up the wrong tree? Any ways i hope the widows read this and give their two cents :thumbsup:waving

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Wed 06/06/18 10:56 PM

You might 'know' now, but the rest of your life could be a very long time, long enough for you to change or the other person to change.

Hear song by 'Meatloaf: Heaven by the dashboard light'.

The 'one' for now, - enjoy, and hope for the best that you grow and change together in the same ways as time goes on, to stay compatible/attracted. smile2

So okay what I understand is you can know who is that now person but really cannot say if tomorrow will come. Just enjoy and be happy with what you know at present :angel: so how did you just know what you know now? Did you have a eureka moment or an epiphany or its just life doesn’t feel the same without her nowbigsmile

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Thu 06/07/18 01:48 PM


.. it is still unclear and confusing though. I know it’s different for everyone but i hope you guys can share how you all felt at the time that you just know that person is the one :angel:


If it's confusing, maybe you've been thinking and analyzing too much ..
Overthinking might lead sometimes to even more confusion .. and uncertainty with more questions.
Personally I have a pretty good biological adviser for occasions like this. It's name is GF. Nope .. nothing to do with a girlfriend.
He lives his own life there, down below, as a part of my body, and every time I don't know how the things really are, and need advice I ask him. And this fellow has never lied to me. Sure he can't see the future, but at least will give the right directions and confidence that what I'm doing is right.
His name is Gut Feeling.
We must trust ourselves more and listen to our heart .. we have all the answers already deep inside, but if you're too sceptical and don't trust anything or anyone then you might get stuck at the dead point. Just trust yourself .. and everything is gonna be alrigh ..

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Tue 07/03/18 03:35 PM
Ok now at least i know something....not to think and just listen to my heart so that ill know what I should know :angel::angel::angel:

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Tue 07/03/18 03:59 PM
when it stops being about me then there is a valid connection. now it's about her... what can i do for her why did she pick me... in short her feelings and needs preclude mine. us is more important than me.


things in my past...
love is not quantifiable you can't measure who loves who more... don't try
he can always make you smile... can you always make him smile?
i miss him after a few days vs after a few weeks... try after a few minutes.
he'll change his bad habits... people don't change they are who they are.
he would never leave... everyone leaves we are not immortal



right for right now, shouldn't you not push thru...?
don't push. right for right now is what you me we need. if it ends later then it's right for right now, if it doesn't then it's RIGHT. in other words relax and live in the moment. nothing is guaranteed in love. so as the song says we'll sing in the sunshine and laugh every day but after a year i'll be on my way...

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Tue 07/03/18 06:15 PM

Also from Serendipity and one of my favorites:

I never felt magic crazy as this
I never saw moons knew the meaning of the sea
I never held emotion in the palm of my hand
Or felt sweet breezes in the top of a tree
But now you're here
Brighten my northern sky.
I've been a long time that I'm waiting
Been a long that I'm blown
I've been a long time that I've wandered
Through the people I have known
Oh, if you would and you could
Straighten my new mind's eye.
Would you love me for my money
Would you love me for my head
Would you love me through the winter
Would you love me 'til I'm dead
Oh, if you would and you could
Come blow your horn on high.
I never felt magic crazy as this
I never saw moons knew the meaning of the sea
I never held emotion in the palm of my hand
Or felt sweet breezes in the top of a tree
But now you're here
Brighten my northern sky.

Songwriters: Nick Drake

love thanks klc flowers

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Tue 07/03/18 06:18 PM

when it stops being about me then there is a valid connection. now it's about her... what can i do for her why did she pick me... in short her feelings and needs preclude mine. us is more important than me.


things in my past...
love is not quantifiable you can't measure who loves who more... don't try
he can always make you smile... can you always make him smile?
i miss him after a few days vs after a few weeks... try after a few minutes.
he'll change his bad habits... people don't change they are who they are.
he would never leave... everyone leaves we are not immortal



right for right now, shouldn't you not push thru...?
don't push. right for right now is what you me we need. if it ends later then it's right for right now, if it doesn't then it's RIGHT. in other words relax and live in the moment. nothing is guaranteed in love. so as the song says we'll sing in the sunshine and laugh every day but after a year i'll be on my way...

That was poetic SN flowers i hope your right now is with you right now and if not there is always tomorrow winking

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Tue 07/03/18 06:35 PM



.. it is still unclear and confusing though. I know it’s different for everyone but i hope you guys can share how you all felt at the time that you just know that person is the one :angel:


If it's confusing, maybe you've been thinking and analyzing too much ..
Overthinking might lead sometimes to even more confusion .. and uncertainty with more questions.
Personally I have a pretty good biological adviser for occasions like this. It's name is GF. Nope .. nothing to do with a girlfriend.
He lives his own life there, down below, as a part of my body, and every time I don't know how the things really are, and need advice I ask him. And this fellow has never lied to me. Sure he can't see the future, but at least will give the right directions and confidence that what I'm doing is right.
His name is Gut Feeling.
We must trust ourselves more and listen to our heart .. we have all the answers already deep inside, but if you're too sceptical and don't trust anything or anyone then you might get stuck at the dead point. Just trust yourself .. and everything is gonna be alrigh ..


Buzzy... i am sceptical but optimistic whatever that means slaphead My heart has been broken more than once thats why i am this way. I have learned to cope and guard my heart the best way i can, putting up walls and conditioning my mind that hoping too much is useless when youre not sure its real. For now as SN said i am enjoying friendships and the company of special people who make me feel alive and part of their own lives. Giving what they give to me. Cherishing laughters and closeness as if there is no tomorrow. Thankful that they came into my life to see the beauty and wonder of possibilities. I love my friends you being one of them bigsmile and to all the others in my friends lists too my love to all of you in certain degrees and one way or another. You are the people in my life now here in the virtual world drinkerdrinkerdrinker friendships are a real thing is sincere regardless of time and distance bigsmilelove

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Thu 07/05/18 01:11 AM
All is well said .. and true! flowerforyou flowerforyou :laughing: waving

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