I guess you are right. Can other ladies see all of the stuff that you do on mingle2?

You're driving nails in your own coffin. I know I'm a stranger. But I'm going to lay it out there to you like I see it. You sound like poor ole pitiful me. That's a huge turn off to most women. Your age preference, that's a turnoff. Being separated, technically you are still married. That's a turnoff. Now you say you are unemployed. That's a turnoff.

To read what you say you sound like you really need to be working on yourself right now. And not for any woman. For yourself. There is no way you are happy with yourself right now. How can a woman be happy with you when you are not where you should be in your life? Fix yourself first. Then work on trying to get a woman in your life.

You're right, many are not serious on these sites. But the ones that are will pass you by simply because of where your life is. But, on the other hand, when you get your life straightened out, be careful of the women that you let into it. Some will take you as you are. While others will only want you for what you have. That's just a fact of life.

Me personally, I would start by getting off the pity pot. Find a job. IT pro's are in demand. Then get free from your X. Then take a little time for yourself and enjoy your freedom while you figure out what you want in your life. Then try to find it outside of some dating site. You'll be better off for it.

JMHO

They may be in demand where you live, but my credentials are the lowest in Alberta where Tier 2 and Tier 3 (specific certifications) are needed.

Since I claimed bankruptcy recently I am unable to go back to school to obtain it.

I am not playing self-pity, but I guess I will have to take it as life comes. I can't change anything about my physical condition and I can't change my education right now and until the year 2021. That's when the bankruptcy terms are met.


Maybe one day I will meet someone and maybe one day I will get a job with the IT skills I have, but at present I don't see that happening.

Thanks for your input.

I don't know what else to say to you dude.

Perhaps you should not be online trying to date, maybe you should work on your life and getting it in order.

and you can do a lot of things, why not take night courses, why not work on your physical condition, walk 30 minutes a day if you cant afford the gym.

there are so many things one can do

You are feeling sorry for yourself and its not helping your cause

That's okay undrboss. I have been taking online free courses through the Edmonton Public Library. I can't take night courses because of where I live. I live in Leduc, Alberta and there is nowhere I can take night courses. I have claimed bankruptcy.

I am on Alberta Works right now. I have contacted them and many other organizations from Employment Agencies, IT recruitment agencies, and Temp agencies, and Employment Insurance when I was getting EI and none of them have helped me.

EI wouldn't help me go back to school because it was deemed upgrading.

I have had employment agencies tell me with my condition to apply for AISH based on my degenerative disc disease in my neck that prevents me from working at the majority of the jobs out there and doing physical labour. It will never get better, only deteroriate to the point to where I won't be able to walk or grip things. I do extensive walking. I got a letter back refusing me because it is not severe enough.

I will keep on trying my best here. I just was looking to talk to someone to get to know them. I know I have a lot of barriers that I need to overcome. Thanks for your input.

I cleaned up my profile and everything else.

OK, this one has run its course. Therefore it will be locked.

Eddie.

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