Topic: How do you want to fall in love?
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Sun 05/06/18 07:29 AM


I think as we get older we look for more than the instant physical attractions. Lust doesn't have as much to play either.
Also those that have been through a few serious yet failed relationships put up a barrier hoping not to make the same mistakes again. although this could hinder what could be a good relationship.



I agree! Once we're able to let down those barriers and let things happen, as Integ put, gracefully... I believe that's a love that will last.

Until then I guess we just admire from a far... Maybe even dream as the hopeless romantic would of that passionate moment when we first meet... the excitement of the first embrace and as we look into each other's eyes, we can't help but passionately kiss one another. Then walk hand and hand into the forever bliss of happily ever after!

It's sweet and nice to think that way, dream about it... And perhaps I'd like to experience that in real life just because... Though I'd much rather have the graceful, let's take our time, kind of thing so there's a greater chance of the happily ever after. smitten

Once we gradually come to love each other, and get to the happily ever after part... Then we can add fire by creating those romantic fantasies that the hopeless romantic in us dream about love



Very nice P.
Some positive encouraging words. happy

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Sun 05/06/18 07:33 AM
My inner peace and contentment doesn't hinge on my falling in love.
Since I'm not looking to fall in love its probably going to be something that happens that defies my logic.
A feelings generated command over-ride of my expectations.

All my life I have been an easy loving person.
It causes me to fall in love with people that ultimately do me wrong.
For some reason love is always broken by the other person.
I am trying not to be so gullible anymore.
I am trying to learn how to squint a little.

My default personality is a loving one.
I love others with ease.
When I fall in love again I will probably be filled with a period of turmoil and trepidation as I try to justify those crazy feelings.

I won't be able to talk myself out of them.
I will feel things I shouldn't be feeling.
It will be both scary and thrilling.
Feelings I can't stop and will not want to stop.

Hopefully, when it happens, she will feel the same about me.

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Sun 05/06/18 03:44 PM



I think as we get older we look for more than the instant physical attractions. Lust doesn't have as much to play either.
Also those that have been through a few serious yet failed relationships put up a barrier hoping not to make the same mistakes again. although this could hinder what could be a good relationship.



I agree! Once we're able to let down those barriers and let things happen, as Integ put, gracefully... I believe that's a love that will last.

Until then I guess we just admire from a far... Maybe even dream as the hopeless romantic would of that passionate moment when we first meet... the excitement of the first embrace and as we look into each other's eyes, we can't help but passionately kiss one another. Then walk hand and hand into the forever bliss of happily ever after!

It's sweet and nice to think that way, dream about it... And perhaps I'd like to experience that in real life just because... Though I'd much rather have the graceful, let's take our time, kind of thing so there's a greater chance of the happily ever after. smitten

Once we gradually come to love each other, and get to the happily ever after part... Then we can add fire by creating those romantic fantasies that the hopeless romantic in us dream about love



Very nice P.
Some positive encouraging words. happy


Thanks Integ smile2

TMommy's photo
Sun 05/06/18 03:51 PM
ya you gonna have to grow on me

over time...

kinda like mold

or maybe mildew huh

Awatersign's photo
Sun 05/06/18 06:34 PM

If you were given an option on how you would want to fall in love, how would it be? Slow , smart and sure or mindless, head over heels ,crazy kind of love? drinker
Just Naturally !

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Sun 05/06/18 10:35 PM

Oh its true. I have fell in love at first site and it was breathtaking. No thinking, and all rational thoughts out the window. But I also was at a time in my life where I was desperately wanting something so magical. However 7 years later I have learned it was the worst thing that could of happened to me. It has brought me to the darkest place in my life, and taken everyone and everything from me. I loved to the max, I was all in. Yet, I was played for a fool, and thrown to the wolves when I found out who he really was. Which I might add is someone we could call a monster of this world. Yet hidden by his fake persona. He actually has another victim exactly where I was 7 years ago, who has been working side by side with him in ruining my life and trying to kill me. Yet she now has reached out to me for help. And I would give anything to erase the last 7 years from my brain, my mind, body, and soul.... and have found a peace within myself that will never be gone. I am learning to be happy within myself. If something comes along I will not count on it to dictate my happiness. I can focus on the real things that matter. Which is being real, being me, knowing im OK no matter what... No one will ever bring me o that lvl again. and I can love with everything I have knowing its because its real not something I was chasing, that just was playing a game the whole time anyway. And that is powerful.

Sorry to hear that... i wish you the best :angel:

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Sun 05/06/18 10:37 PM

To answer the question with another question ... do I want to fall in love in the first place? Dunno, every time I had strong feelings for somebody, it went all totally wrong sad2

Maybe one question at a time? Make sure the strong feelings are positive Lars waving

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Sun 05/06/18 10:38 PM

Diffinately not mindless, I'm too smart for that! :smile:
Crazy in love no. Well, I would want to know for sure. I am not a teenager anymore.


shadesshadesshades

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Sun 05/06/18 10:39 PM

Gracefully my dear. waving

And i hope you do :angel:

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Sun 05/06/18 10:40 PM


I think as we get older we look for more than the instant physical attractions. Lust doesn't have as much to play either.
Also those that have been through a few serious yet failed relationships put up a barrier hoping not to make the same mistakes again. although this could hinder what could be a good relationship.



I agree! Once we're able to let down those barriers and let things happen, as Integ put, gracefully... I believe that's a love that will last.

Until then I guess we just admire from a far... Maybe even dream as the hopeless romantic would of that passionate moment when we first meet... the excitement of the first embrace and as we look into each other's eyes, we can't help but passionately kiss one another. Then walk hand and hand into the forever bliss of happily ever after!

It's sweet and nice to think that way, dream about it... And perhaps I'd like to experience that in real life just because... Though I'd much rather have the graceful, let's take our time, kind of thing so there's a greater chance of the happily ever after. smitten

Once we gradually come to love each other, and get to the happily ever after part... Then we can add fire by creating those romantic fantasies that the hopeless romantic in us dream about love



Beautifully said sis :thumbsup:smitten

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Sun 05/06/18 10:41 PM

personally... respecting each other and liking their personal ways ...

and feel like a relationship to go forward with ...
and a lot of chemistry and that feeling of love ...

and when you would like to do for them ...
and not becouse you have to ... smile2



Hi ladies waving flowerforyou


Hello dear... slow and easy might that be? flowers

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Sun 05/06/18 10:43 PM

I'd like to finish off the falling in love with a girl I started over 25 years ago, If only she loved me back. But she friended me instead. tears

Is it too late? How would you see it finished?

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Sun 05/06/18 10:47 PM

Instant attraction, the physical, the mental, the great communication way at first. Where you know you want to see that person right away to spend more time with them.
Then see what progressively builds. With that slow love. smitten

I get the feeling it happened already for you my friend waving

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Sun 05/06/18 10:48 PM

My inner peace and contentment doesn't hinge on my falling in love.
Since I'm not looking to fall in love its probably going to be something that happens that defies my logic.
A feelings generated command over-ride of my expectations.

All my life I have been an easy loving person.
It causes me to fall in love with people that ultimately do me wrong.
For some reason love is always broken by the other person.
I am trying not to be so gullible anymore.
I am trying to learn how to squint a little.

My default personality is a loving one.
I love others with ease.
When I fall in love again I will probably be filled with a period of turmoil and trepidation as I try to justify those crazy feelings.

I won't be able to talk myself out of them.
I will feel things I shouldn't be feeling.
It will be both scary and thrilling.
Feelings I can't stop and will not want to stop.

Hopefully, when it happens, she will feel the same about me.

smitten nice words as usual Tom :thumbsup:

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Sun 05/06/18 10:49 PM

ya you gonna have to grow on me

over time...

kinda like mold

or maybe mildew huh

Thats like true love :thumbsup:

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Sun 05/06/18 10:49 PM


If you were given an option on how you would want to fall in love, how would it be? Slow , smart and sure or mindless, head over heels ,crazy kind of love? drinker
Just Naturally !

How natural should it be

whattheheywastaken's photo
Sun 05/06/18 11:50 PM
Honestly, I don't care how I fall in love as long as I do.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Mon 05/07/18 02:30 AM
I'd like it to happen like last time, with the difference that it goes somewhere for real of course.
But an immediate intense connection, a feeling of belonging.
And I'd like for things to move reasonably fast. I have little patience in love & romance... Venus in Aries, I can't help it, believe me I tried.
Slow and easy doesn't really work for me. Been there in the past. It only p|$$es me off and then I lose interest altogether.

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Mon 05/07/18 03:29 AM


Instant attraction, the physical, the mental, the great communication way at first. Where you know you want to see that person right away to spend more time with them.
Then see what progressively builds. With that slow love. smitten

I get the feeling it happened already for you my friend waving

Perhaps it has happened, but unfortunately not meant to be. glasses
I haven't given up, still searching....although I don't think she's searching for me...laugh flowerforyou SS

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Mon 05/07/18 03:45 AM
Crossing paths and both being equally instantly smitten and dumbfounded on sight. smooched

At a work place I once was walking along talking with a colleague and looked up, and saw a 'perfect woman' for me so much so that I stopped in my tracks, my jaw dropped, and I had a mental blackout for a moment, before I regained composure. I was actually stunned on sight. smitten I never would have believed it possible but it happened; unless it was a minor stroke or something like that. smile2