If you were given an option on how you would want to fall in love, how would it be? Slow , smart and sure or mindless, head over heels ,crazy kind of love?

At this point in my life , i wonder how it feels to love mindlessly and fall head over heels in love. I have never really fallen in love without thinking and just feeling. I wonder if it’s really true that one could fall in love at first sight given the awesome physical and mental attraction that once can sense ... that thing called instant attraction leading to a passion so great that only the heart wins coz it knows what it wants

I think as we get older we look for more than the instant physical attractions. Lust doesn't have as much to play either.
Also those that have been through a few serious yet failed relationships put up a barrier hoping not to make the same mistakes again. although this could hinder what could be a good relationship.

youve gone the crazy path before mbaf?

Pathfinder

Hhhmmm knightrider ?

And you haven’t answered the question too

Is this a trick question

In a way.. I tried to answer, but nothing came out right.

Its a tricky question joe but not a trick lol

I didn’t see it stu ... try again?

Oh its true. I have fell in love at first site and it was breathtaking. No thinking, and all rational thoughts out the window. But I also was at a time in my life where I was desperately wanting something so magical. However 7 years later I have learned it was the worst thing that could of happened to me. It has brought me to the darkest place in my life, and taken everyone and everything from me. I loved to the max, I was all in. Yet, I was played for a fool, and thrown to the wolves when I found out who he really was. Which I might add is someone we could call a monster of this world. Yet hidden by his fake persona. He actually has another victim exactly where I was 7 years ago, who has been working side by side with him in ruining my life and trying to kill me. Yet she now has reached out to me for help. And I would give anything to erase the last 7 years from my brain, my mind, body, and soul.... and have found a peace within myself that will never be gone. I am learning to be happy within myself. If something comes along I will not count on it to dictate my happiness. I can focus on the real things that matter. Which is being real, being me, knowing im OK no matter what... No one will ever bring me o that lvl again. and I can love with everything I have knowing its because its real not something I was chasing, that just was playing a game the whole time anyway. And that is powerful.

To answer the question with another question ... do I want to fall in love in the first place? Dunno, every time I had strong feelings for somebody, it went all totally wrong

Diffinately not mindless, I'm too smart for that!
Crazy in love no. Well, I would want to know for sure. I am not a teenager anymore.

Gracefully my dear.

I agree! Once we're able to let down those barriers and let things happen, as Integ put, gracefully... I believe that's a love that will last.

Until then I guess we just admire from a far... Maybe even dream as the hopeless romantic would of that passionate moment when we first meet... the excitement of the first embrace and as we look into each other's eyes, we can't help but passionately kiss one another. Then walk hand and hand into the forever bliss of happily ever after!

It's sweet and nice to think that way, dream about it... And perhaps I'd like to experience that in real life just because... Though I'd much rather have the graceful, let's take our time, kind of thing so there's a greater chance of the happily ever after.

Once we gradually come to love each other, and get to the happily ever after part... Then we can add fire by creating those romantic fantasies that the hopeless romantic in us dream about

personally... respecting each other and liking their personal ways ...

and feel like a relationship to go forward with ...
and a lot of chemistry and that feeling of love ...

and when you would like to do for them ...
and not becouse you have to ...



Hi ladies

Hi mystical

I'd like to finish off the falling in love with a girl I started over 25 years ago, If only she loved me back. But she friended me instead.

Instant attraction, the physical, the mental, the great communication way at first. Where you know you want to see that person right away to spend more time with them.
Then see what progressively builds. With that slow love.