I'm gonna be real open here. Again I've been debating on whether or not
I want to open myself up to y'all but here it goes. I'm asking a
question down at the very bottom. One that will or should make you think
for a minute. I spent the weekend with my ex. It was totally my idea. He
accepted and here's a lil bit of it.

I kept asking myself this ? time and time again after my last ex and I
broke up 3 months ago............up until Sat morning. I kept telling
myself, well because it's what I was feeling, that I am still very much
in love with him and wanted to be with him. I wanted him back in my arms
and me in his.

Well his birthday was this past weekend and I thought I'd do something
for the two of us. So I reserved a motel room Fri nite. Decked it all
out with balloons, confetti and candles. Really romantic and fun
looking. We hung out talking, catching up. But I tell you the
conversation bored me half to death. I listened to him talk for over an
hour about just stupid stuff. Immatuer stuff. So I went to the bathroom
to put on a nightie that I specifically bought for the occasion. Walked
out, layed on the bed, and well you know the rest. Everything felt
right, perfect just like it always had. Nothing changed. 3-4 months
after our break up and nothing had changed. Despite all the shit talking
he did, despite what he's done giving me every possible reason to hate
him, I don't and couldn't. No matter how hard I tried, I couldn't. I was
still in love with him and that never stopped.

So we were together one last time. We both agreed that nothing would
come from this night. That was also my idea. I asked him if he wanted to
share one last night, he said yes. I told him no strings attached and we
both go our seperate ways after. He agreed...........until Sun nite. I
should've known better but whatever. Now he's messaging me saying he
wants me back, blah blah blah. I've already been called an idiot
so............

Anyhow, here's my point. Sunday I was sitting home alone all day and
night and felt nothing for him. I was ok. I was fine. In fact I felt
better. I didn't think of him or anything about us like I had been for
the past 3 months. And today I am still feeling that same way. I feel
nothing and do not want him back. It was a great weekend but I don't
care to start something serious back up with him. I feel like I'm over
that hump.

Is this what you would call "closure"? Do some of us need closure to
move past someone we love?

i think we all need closure. Sounds like you opened up to him (no pun
intended) rather than any closure. Only you know whats truly right. I
still tear up my ex girlfriend on a regular basis, but it is just
prolonging what we both know is a lost cause.

Yes...its over...no more sack snacks with this guy...!

DID U SAY HUMP? :-)

OKAY, hazeleyed, ya want the truth here it is LMAO girl ya did just
about what a lot of other women have done at one time or the other. When
things end and you feel you are still in love with them and can't seem
to get past it you think if only I could have one more nite to show him
and he would see how much I love him and he will see how much he misses
me!!! But...... when you get it all set up and it happens you sit thre
wondering what the F***K am I doing here damn I'm bored to the hilt how
in the world did I every think I was in love with this man he is boring
me to death except in the bed hell I want it to be exciting in and out
of bed. LMAO Ohhh yes girl I have done the same thing did not do it
with my ex-husband but with an ex-b/f and flew out of town at that to be
with him. But.. I did benifit out of it hell found one of my leather
jackets that just happen to go along with his clothes when he left and a
few other things lol. Closer it was when I got on that plane to come
home I was ready to move on with life. Good luck girl see did not even
call ya stupid for your not the first that has done that and want be the
last!!!

Hazeleyedbeauty
My personnal oppinion is : I would answer your question with a yes.
Because, I've been there. You absolutley, have to know for certain and
deal with any hidden or unresolved feelings for that person to determine
if it's love or something else. Only you have to determine (closure) in
your own way. So, that there is definitely no unresolved feelings of
doubt so that you can move on with you life.

EFP...

could not said that better myself.

HEY I know this is off of the question but the Halloween party girl did
ya end up using my ideal with the play money or not was just curious
LMAO

..........................NO................................!

Let it go hazeleyes!

you did what was right for you. Everyone has their own way of making
sure that things are over. With my exhusband it was his telling me on
the phone. If the baby is boy we are not getting a divorce. That told
me right there that he felt nothing for me at all. And my DAUGHTERS are
better in the long run.

Stick to your guns and shoot from the hip missy. Your doing alright.

what she said!

I guess, whatever worked for ya. I personally wouldnt have taken that
route for closure though, but like I said, if it worked for you, great.
NEXT............................lol

What would you do chuckee ?

Chuckee, You said a mouth full?

Im speech-less? OMG. DID I SAY 'THAT'?????

I must be off my NUT?

I BETTER TAKE MY TEMPERTURE???? YES!!!! RIGHT AWAY.

You guys are SO DAMN mean to me!!!!!! GOLLY, I CAN'T EVEN, (check it
out, all caps, lol) POST A COMMENT, DAMN!!!! (damn, I can't even whine
right!)

You can rhine weft or you can rhine wight jes aswong as uou
whine hard and sofwy???lol

you so crazy!!!!!!! I think i wanna have your... HANDS SLOW WAY
DOWN....... nevermind. lol

SEE, SENORRETA, MY NAMEE IS SPEEDYYY IAMMMMAOLAS
IMAU THE FASTEST HANDSSSS ON THE WEB???

In a relationship, when you fall in love with someone and you feel that
love in your heart, you will always love that person no mattwer what.
You may not ever want to be with that person again, but you can still
love the person even when you hate the way they are. Whatever it takes
for closure though. It is your life.