Burn them first usually works.

You learn something every day.

Seriously though, everyone is different. I swear when I met my husband, it was as if we already knew each other. We skimmed right through most of the question marks and were almost an instant couple.

Men I dated before him, I experienced an even more expansive series of stages than those your article talks of.

Who knows why that is the case.

Seriously...who knows?

Probably your prior dates gave you experience as to what you should expect from a lifelong partner ?

I imagine that’s true. I was gaining the experience of what type of man was right for me. Once I had that, I could skip some stages because he was easy to recognize.

There are not any set stages for falling in love, happens different for different people!

Many people have love at first sight even.

Not sure the stages are like classes you have to sign up for in order to get your degree so much as identifying certain stages that people tend to go through without any set time frame.

Kind of like the stages of grief.

So:

"Infatuation" could last a day for some people.
For others it might last a month.
Landing might take an hour or a sentence, where for other people it takes a week and maybe it fails and they go back to infatuation.

I think "stages" is just an attempt at differentiating and identifying.

More for the sake of discussion, or determining if there is no progress in the relationship, or if you're fixated in one place, or figuring out "what's wrong" if one person is in the "infatuation" stage whereas the other has quickly moved to the "landing" stage so there is miscommunication.

Not sure they are meant for self diagnoses, though. That tends to lead to problems.

Hi Jan does your husband have a single brother or cousin ? Lol . I think the burying bit is more related to the stages of grief which we all experience too at one point or another. I just wish to experience one true and lasting love,the till death do us part kinda love and then and only then shall my skepticism end I am so inspired by you

like this joe?

I do agree toddy

I understand the stages are just tools to help identify where both people are with regards to how they feel at a certain specific time in a relationship. When one is behind or ahead with how they feel they could probably work on it. I hope I understood you right tom? Thanks

Yes and I do hate numbers

Yes and I do hate numbers

Hello Tom don’t you think a beginning an d an end is kinda like a sequence already? And so what’s in between is what makes our experiences different? There are many recipes for clam chowder I suppose you know a good one can I have a copy blessings to you Tom

Eh. I am more of a simpler dude. Here are the stages as Goof sees them.

1. I like you. You like me. We date.
2. We kiss and it is awesome! We date some more.
3. We kiss some more, you bake me a cake and it's awesome, we date some more.
4. We do the deed....yes that means I see you naked and you see me naked...and it is awesome! We date and sex it up some more. Plus you keep baking me all kinds of baked goods. And I help maintain your vehicle and apartments cause chicks dig guys who can handle tools.
5. We have dated for awhile and it is official.....we just can't see ourselves without each other. You love me, I love you.....you hate me sometimes...sometimes I hate you....you get mad when I won't take the garbage out....I get mad at you cause you won't shut up talking while the game is on.....it's pure bliss and hell......it's love. The end.

For me, the sequence of love is always hindsight.
Love can happen no matter the order of events.
Sometimes it happens despite the disorder of events.

You can follow a recipe for getting laid.
But, Love is not just getting laid.

You can follow a recipe for finding a companion.
But, Love is not just finding a companion.


Love is that simple feeling you have inside towards someone else.
There is nothing you can do to make someone else love you.
There is no sequence of events, it just happens.

Think about someone you love.

Its easy to list the things they say and do and how they are with you that makes you feel love for them.
Now, think about before you felt that love.
Did you go thru a procedure to get to the point that you felt love for them? Or, did it just happen?

There are basic requirements to feeling love for another but they are not a sequence of events you tick off like a checklist.

You have to meet them.
You have to see them functioning.
You have to identify with them in some way.
That kind of stuff.

Hi️️️

It was simpler 'back in the day'.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nxj--MkqACY

Eddie Cochran - Three Steps to Heaven 1960

I was just having a laugh. I knew what you meant.

It’s very sweet of you to say, but I think I just got lucky. And maybe I’ll be lucky again one day.

Can’t get more simpler than that most of your stages though has the kissing bit the baking is a must too?