Especially at the right time, which needs both patience and understanding

People are in love with dopamine. That triggered hormone that people consider 'chemistry' and that they condition themselves to seek out as proof of romantic possibility or lack there of.

Its like a drug. People are addicted to that movie type 'feeling', instead of making meaningful, substantial connections and enduring commitments. IMHO.

It is only normal, that we feel like being in a movie, when love starts to blossom. But you are right, we should never forget, there might be bad days, and that's when we show that love is genuine, for example by supporting our partner.

If a person is in love with love, it is infatuation.

Or even some sort of narcistic self boost

Well, uh said that is very true

In love with love...not a good thing. Being sceptical helps. Real love will be patient enough to bring down walls real love sees the real person and accepts. Real love means never wanting to hurt the other person in any way shape or form. Real love stands the test of distance and time. Real love is so hard to find on line

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All signed. Though the last one? Maybe we are disappointed so many times, that we almost gave up, when suddenly a person crashes into your life and you think, one last chance ... now or never, so to speak

I definitely think you can mistake being "in love" to just having a relationship with someone very easily. So many woman are abused, and lots of them stay because to them thats normal behavior. The think that love has to come with abuse. I can say thats not my idea of love, but it could be theirs.
For me, love is when your whole world changes. You feel overwhelming happiness like never before. YOu see that person and you get those little butterflies in your stomach, and a big smile on your face. But thats only my definition. Many people love in many different ways. And as far as stopping love. I think its pretty inevitable. If you love someone, I think you will always love them somewhere in your heart forever. But thats not a solid foundation for a relationship.
I personally look for the lesser of the evils. haha. I find the person that least pisses me off, or upsets me... and thats "winner winner chicken dinner".

Very well said sis, I do agree with you

Sometimes, we don't even know exactly, when we hurt someone. It can be hurtful sometimes, if we don't hear anything, if messages are left unanswered ... even if there might be a simple reason which has nothing whatsoever to do with us.

I have to disagree on that. As the old saying goes ... love is blind ... Ergo you are in love when you don't see what she/he is inside and out.

This is only the first phase, state of euphoria, so to speak. You are only in love with someone, when you are able to accept both good and bad sides. And this takes lots of time and patience.

If it takes time and patience it's called settling . Love requires no work. You either love them or you don't. There's no grey area there.

For me, settling is the last step, as in getting married and have kids. But I agree on the last part.

Though it takes a lot of work to find and maintain love. Partners have to support each other in good and bad times, partners have to accept each other with all flaws, etc.

Would that mean when you say you stopped loving them , then it wasn’t really love? The winner winner thing made me laugh off my chair

Love is blind in a way that we sometimes cannot choose the one we love. It just comes , but not seeing flaws and accepting it as it is part of the whole person is not true love. Acceptance should be very easy if not then yes it would be called settling.

Love should feel that we dont have to accept...it should feel that we want and need to do it for our own happiness. The other person makes us want to be the better version of ourselves.