could the number of kids be the reason for not being able to find and keep a partner?

Could be. Also, some might not want to date someone with young children. My son is 27 amd I am not interested in someone with young kids. It can make it difficult to make plans with the person

thats sad...iv grown lonely

I saw your post.. I guess I know more now

I will be honest since you're asking.. yes, it can be a reason. When you have kids, your partner will think that you're just looking for someone who will support them (though not all men) but not all the time Sis.. sometimes having kids and the number of kids is not an issue to your partner.

I like someone before, he has 4 kids. He courted me but I rejected him not because he has kids but because he still have feelings for his ex wife.

Next, I became close to someone (he's just a friend and he will only be a friend I think).. he has 2 kids. Somehow I can feel that I am special to him though he's not courting. Even if he court me, I will still offer friendship not because he has kids but because he's just separated.. he's legally married and I don't wanna be the reason why he will divorce his wife

Sometimes it's not the number of kids but the other reason behind... that's the bigger factor

Anyway Sis if one day I will have a kid but I don't have a husband. I will still be thankful and contented. I will be grateful that the greatest blessing came to my life... if there's someone who will love me and accept me for who I am... also if he can accept and love my kid, I will be happier but if there's none, that's still okay...

If a man trully loves you, your kids or his kids can't be the barrier to the marriage. And again it depends on your past like were you married to their father or out of wedluck? Some gentle men consider that also. I will encourage you to be patient and pray to God
Good luck

It could be a factor, but I know a few really good men who have married a person with 2 or 3 children. So, don't give up. They ae certainly out there.

Good luck

Depends on the age of the kids, If they are between 8 - and teenager 14 - 17 it’s more than difficult dealing with that.

Before I got married I have more than one of those experiences and I must say it wasn’t an issue the kids I was growing up where between 4-7 years, they adapted very easily at the new man in the house and the role of him.
I never tried to be his dad, or someone they must call dad, I was a friend, but I don’t want to be the stepfather of any one.

I raised my daughter doing a Father / Mother role, and it’s a lot of work, think on three !!

Hypothetically, the reason that a never-married woman has three children could be why a man wouldn't want to be with her.

If the children of the hypothetical woman were the result of her having sex with three men, then a fourth man might consider her too risky to be with.

You are right I had never see it in that way

Make your status known before anything so any man who wants you will have to accept you and your kids.... this may take time but I believe you'll find someone that's your perfect match

No,that's not the reason..It depends on the man himself if he truly loved you or he's just a joker and is there to use you

I hear you. I have the same problem

I have 5 kids, a German Shepard and I raise exotic spiders ( for anti venom) and I have trouble attracting a mate. The ones that do show a interest run as soon as the get a chance.

What should I do?

Rotflmao 🤦‍♀️

Send the kids and german shepherd on a one way snipe hunt and let the spiders decorate your apartment.

Wish I could afford that but I use the kids to extract the venom from the spiders and I test it on the dog before I submit it to the health people.. who pay me. I can't afford to hire outside help.

Maybe it is the white foam coming from the dog's mouth that scares the ladies off.. I don't know.

I have a friend with 6 kids. He has been married 5 times. He seems to find love every few years.

I think its also important to understand that when a man is courting a woman, the woman is the focus.
I had 4 kids, raised while married.
I KNOW our children are VERY important parts of us.
Most men KNOW your children are very important part of you.

When you are courting, do the kids take the focus?
Do you focus on the two of you as partners or do you insert your kids into the courting process?

Building a relationship with you is about the two of you.
If the kids are inserted into that bonding process too quickly or to completely it can affect the bond. He knows you have kids, but in order for him to commit to you he needs time with you first. He has to figure out if YOU are the one, then he will address the children's role. He's not dating you to get to your kids (I hope), he's dating you to get to know YOU better.

If you are constantly torn about your kids, complaining about them, having problems with them, he's probably gunna drop you.

Wow... I would jump off a friggin bridge... the alimony and child support must be murder.

Yep. He is only paying child support on 3. I think it's $1000 a month. He works side jobs almost everyday to survive. He probably needs to stop trying to date until more of the kids turn 18.

He needs to put a chain on his d*ck.. it is getting out way too much