I understand being 'drawn' to features but each person, in EACH race, has their own unique combination of features.

I am more 'drawn' to darker skin than pale skin. Im also more 'drawn' to taller than shorter but those are singular features out of a list of potential 'draws', like intelligence, wit, pretty smile, healthy body, etc...

So, I wouldnt discount dating someone pale and short (which IM not drawn to) if they happened to also be intelligent, witty, with a pretty smile and healthy body and other things that I am also 'drawn' to.

And that doesnt even approach the fact of making it 'racial' since not all white people are pale, and some black people are more pale than others.

So Id say if 'race' is only a physical preference it should not be a mandate in and of itself or it becomes 'racist'

thanks

Exactly. Who I date is no ones business. Who others date is none of mine. People today need to focus on themselves instead of talking about others

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How do you feel?

Bingo!

myth: All (put race here) 'look' alike.
fact: there is 90 percent genetic variation WITHIN a race and 10 percent BETWEEN races.

Humm just cause I date and they are not black I'm considered a racist hahahah~~ Whatever just shows some are bent on calling others racist~~~~

Truth of the matter I have never found a black man that I was attracted too that I would want to date...

There are many factors why some have never dated a certain color. Where they live, how they grew up, ect,,, I have lived around mainly whites and Mexican's sure I have dated a few that was not white, just cause they were not black does not mean I'm a racist!

Now if it was Shemar Moore or Jesse Williams it would be a different story due to I do find them attractive....

Problem with this World is too many throw the Race card and want to label others Racist when they are far from it... Just cause they don't have friends of a certain color or date them,,,

Hell I have several family members that date/married or have kids with someone that is of another color.. That is their choice they found that attraction... Regardless people date who they want to it is a choice..

Txs. The issue is not about 'being a racist' it is only about a 'racist' decision.

and yes, just because one decides upon who to date JUST on race alone, that is a racist decision by definition. It plays upon a false stereotype that all (race here) look alike, or act alike, or have the same values, standards, or behaviors. WHen the truth is each individual, even WITHIN a race, is unique enough that none of these things can be PREJUDGED without the opportunity to observe and know THAT INDIVIDUAL.

the mere fact that you mention shemar moore or jesse williams means that you do NOT Exclude a whole race of people from your potential pool, so that is not a racist decision.

and to say that you have not YET met someone that attracted you is different as well, than a mindset that has pre judged that anyone of a certain race that you come across will not possibly be attractive.


and all action is a decision, and most people do make decisions based upon what they want to do, that doesnt really impact whether a decision is a racist one though.

Heck, like Igor said, my dating mandate is sexist, because I would not (under any circumstance) date a female. IT is a bit different because I can PREJUDGE with accuracy every FEMALE will have certain reproductive anatomy. But however valid/invalid the logic is, if it excludes an ENTIRE demographic of individuals it is a form of prejudice, and if that demographic is racial, it is a racial prejudice, or 'racist.

If discussing dating and I said I would NOT (refuse to, ie) date a female, someone could tell me that was sexist. And I Would say, "Yes, and?"

which is what I mean by 'own it."

People like what they like. What I like is no one's business or judgement.

People these days are focused on what celebrities do and getting into their lives and some think another's personal life is their business.

I'm attracted to the man, not his race. And that's my own personal choice.

No, they are Nosy!

I think the OP was only curious to know how people felt. It is how all these threads get started.