Resserts, just because YOU offer advice that he chooses ot to take doesn't make your advice any better or worse than anyone elses. The fact that you DID respond the way you did only goes to prove that you believe you are right and everyone else is wrong.

What the OP chooses to do is his decision..and nothing more. What I've gotten out of this thread is that the majority of people think one way....and you another. Again, that doesn't make the majority right and you wrong or vice versa.

Climb of your high horse before it throws you.

very well stated, resserts.

the OP sounds like he does not like this woman period and will do anything to break this marriage up.He is not even sure it is her.if its not i hope the wife puts a foot in his ass.
anyway you should ask the wife if its her and if she says no then let it go...telling your brother when she is denying it will only make you odd man out.which i suspect you already are from the tone of your post.

I would like to say one last thing before I stop responding to this thread so it doesn't get out of control.

first off ive had several people in my family verify the picture was in fact her and on her profile it said she was looking for something romantic and when i sent her a message she mysteriously pulls her pic off her profile.

second I beleave im not the one ruining the marriage if in fact it comes to that.

third I did come for advice and not to be told what to do. When I came I came with intent on a solution of action though I was unsure what action...essentially I was going to talk to my brother but after reading the post of advice I decided to confront her and have her deal with it but let her know I am aware and dont approve and she needs to take care of her family.


Further more many people have commented on the issue that they may have that type of relationship. If thats your choice to be in such relationship thats fine but then their is no reason to get married. also this woman is lying saying she is single so even if I didn't know them better I would assume they wouldn't be in an open relationship if she has too lie. (Oh and I know them well enough to know they are not in this type of arrangement)


I thank you all for your input even the ones I dont agree with because it did give me some other angles to look at it from.

one quick question: even if the picture IS of her...how can you be certain that SHE put it on here?

many people have been known to join a site and snag pictures off of myspace, or use snapshots of their friends rather than posting their own pics.

You have to do what you think is right.
None of my friends or Family wanted to tell me what they felt was happening in My marrage. So I went years with suspitions I could not verify untill this year. Now everyone is coming out of the closet saying stuff like " We new something was going on but didn't want to hurt you." So now do you think it hurt any less? No, but I could have done something about it years ago instead of struggling through a bad relationship for so long.
Just my $.02

You need a new photo.... You look like a crazy woman.. So get off your crazy horse

why not create a 2nd acct under a different name and don't add a photo,try contacting her and seeing if you can get more info from her?that's what i would do anyways...

Jt has a good point Chimeara....and it will work....that's how i caught one of my ex-boyfriends

ok mabey someone was trying to prove a point or something and hacked my account.....or mabey a family member got on my account but this message wasn't me.

My OPINION

Tell your brother what you know.
Suggest he bring in a computer expert & ck their computer.
Where ever she has been is in there.
If it isn't her, no foul.
My brother went thru something similar & thanked me for the info & help. Saved him a lot of crap.

I AM crazy....why not look it?

No crazier than anyone else.

i prefer the term sanity challenged..

A closed mouth gathers no foot

@ michiganman