If you melt, are aroused, and are breathless, and your heart all alflutter upon being kissed.. that is special.
Not all kissers are created equal.. just sayin

kissing ain't a one-way street...it takes two, baby...

I've almost forgotten what it's like to kiss a girl, but I'm not giving up.

Being kissed by the right person feels like sweet torment one can never get enough of. When lips connect and the taste and feel of each other while breathing as one is like drowning in waters one wouldn’t want to get out of. A kiss is so much more than a kiss for two people who are connected in the deepest way possible. It is a physical affirmation of unexplainable caring and hunger to always want to be together

Very well put scepticalsoulmate

Thanks sir was just a bit inspired back there

it would have been nice being next to during your "inspiration" moment.. you do have a way with words..sadly I'm a little out of you age range.

next to you..

Thanks again but the guy who inspires me is kinda strict with who I sit with. You’ll have to get through him first lol. Blessings to you sir

I understand.. thank you.

Oh yes, indeed special! Said it last night in another topic... since my 19th I didn't find that kissing-chemistry until I met him last year. I'd already given up on the hope that I'd ever feel that again. He was 54 at the time, had never been kissed like that before.
So yes... it is very special!

It's been a long time since that's happened, any kiss for that matter.

But yes, it is special and maybe it will happen again for me, someday.

mmmmmmm i forgot to breathe and the whole world disappeared

What I find so mysterious about kissing, is how it can indeed be as rustykitty and scepticalsoulmate so entrancingly describe...when one is with the right person, and when the emotions between them are as they should be.

But how, when those emotions are damaged or fail, the same kiss, from the same person, can become a stiff exercise in empty frustration. It's not all a matter of technique, in other words.

Well, it is really.
Part of the technique is the passion and...like all techniques, passion can be learned and faked.
Some of the best kisses get sloppy when driven by desire.

There is a lot more to a passionate kiss than kissing.
There are long moments of eye contact where you get lost in the other's eyes, noses gently rub together, sending sensation deep into the soul. Hands mute the nerves where they touch the face causing the vulnerable lips to be exposed to heightened sensitivity.

Hot breath dances on the face that excites hyper-sensitive nerve endings. Breathing synchronizes. Pupils dilate and images become vibrant.
The lips become engorged with blood and super-sensitive. The tongue gently touches and begins to slowly massage the full sensitive lips.
A gentle nibble or touch of teeth creates a contrast that enriches the sensation. Agonizingly slow rotations massage and increase blood flow.

Point is, if it can be described, it can be duplicated. If it can be duplicated, it can be faked. Thing is, faking it can cause real emotions to form. Since we ultimately control our own emotions (sometimes without realizing it) some people can turn off the emotional residue after the act. Some people may even overlay contrasting emotions to hide their vulnerability (anger, resentment even hatred).
The opposite can also be done. Joy, gratitude, even love may be overlaid when nothing positive is felt inside. If the heart is set on deception, a passionate kiss becomes a tool instead of a bond.

I don't think we are in disagreement, tom4you. Perhaps expressing things differently.

Yes, people can fake the techniques. People can be fooled by the techniques, to be sure.

That's why I specified that it's not ALL about technique.

I've experienced being kissed and being thrilled to my core by it...then later being kissed by the same person with the same kiss, and having it be meaningless and unpleasant, because they and I were no longer spiritually in sync. I've experienced tiny quick kisses, with no technique at all, that were more thrilling than the longest and deepest ones from someone who was applying all the technique in the world, only just to please themselves.

It's not about magic, or anything like that. But it is about believing in each other. When I don't believe, I can't feel the "magic." When I do, then I can. That's how I can be fooled by technique. Or thrilled by it, I suppose.

I guess one of the weirdest life experiences I've had, was how my ex kissing me once enthralled me, and when things went bad, the exact same processes turned bland and even unpleasant.

I love kissing, that special person of course!
It’s like you just get lost in each other as you stare into the windows to your souls ....you’re breathing each other in, anticipating what’s .....oh sorry, I got caught up in some memories there....!
It’s been a while, I hope I can remember how! * sigh

I agree we are using different techniques to say the same thing, essentially.

I have learned that if I don't want to kiss a woman, I just won't kiss her. For me, kissing is very personal and not done lightly (in the passionate, romantic sense of this topic).
I will kiss my daughter to show affection and love or give reassurance but it is not on the lips and not passionate.

The last time I dated (years ago), I kissed on the first date, because I was feeling passionate and romantic and sensed her desire to be kissed by me.

I used technique without an established love interest history.
When I ended the courtship because she was not the right person for me, I still kissed her with technique of passion and romantic gesture. While I didn't feel love for her, I also didn't feel repulsed by her. I try not to hurt people. My kiss gave her comfort and strength knowing that even tho she and I were not meant for each other, she was still worthy of respect and still a passionate, sexy woman. My kiss came after I told her this and solidified my statement to her.
We are still friendly but not in active communication.

If she repulsed me, I would not have kissed her at all.

And a man can tell right away. Right after you kiss her, look into her eyes. If what you see looks like a helpless, woman.

you are a good kisser.

Follow that up with a silent grin. and no words are needed.

If the kiss is not right, neither is the man for you!