ok I'm struggling with my ex bf. n were having issues from the past. is it worth trying.
there's no one else I have met that kisses me the way he does. we get lost in a trance. we get all lovey dovey n cuddle up. and we always miss each other. n he always assumes I'm with another guy. it's hard cuz I can't trust him cuz he doesn't trust me. but I want to have a healthy relationship with someone I can trust in.
what are your thoughts about this?

In a relationship there always have to be trust, no matter how good the kisses and sex is. Without trust the relationship will never work and someone will end up getting hurt. Thats what I think :)

Are the issues from the past,trust issues?

Lack of trust is always a problem, and both ways is not good.
Always assuming infidelity is bordering on mental instability.
Good kisses probably doesn't make up for the problems a jealous guy can cause you.
Some men can be very good at acting.
The angry jealousy blame game is often used to hide their own infidelity, and to excuse domestic violence.

Every good relationship is built on trust if there's no trust there's no reason to stay...

Also a good relationship feels good if it isn't better let go... take care of yourself

Know what you want and be happy.. your happiness is more important

My thoughts are strangers on an internet dating site aren't going to be able to really help someone in a on and off again relationship (with an ex) where the only noted positives of the other person are that they're a good kisser and help you avoid reality.
Especially when it's accepted that no one trusts each other.


Then stop being in unhealthy ones.
By staying in them you are simply training yourself how to be in unhealthy relationships.

It's like you're saying "I keep taking my ex accounting job back, I love the pay. It allows me to take vacations to the bahamas. My boss thinks I'm not working, and because they think I'm not working I think I'm going to get fired. I want to be a chef."

It seems from what you say, that he is the one causing a trust issue between you, and maybe this is the reason he first became an ex bf. Taking up again with an ex needs a lot of thought in my opinion about why it failed the first time around, so as not to repeat the mistakes made if it is to have any chance of success. You don't say what these issues from the past causing problems are, and whether or not they caused the first breakup. If it was because you dated someone else that caused the first breakup, then it will take time to regain the trust lost by you, and that may never happen without a lot of reassurance and support from you.

Welcome to Mingle2.

It is not a relationship if there is no trust it can be that you are just using each other and satisfying urges which are superficial and temporary IMO

I must admit good kissers are few and far between... but if that's the only reason to want your ex back...
On the other hand side... When I met him I hadn't come across a good kisser since I was 19, and he told me he'd never been kissed 'like that' before... God dangit... Maybe kissing IS good reason to get him back

One thing that I fear about this description, is something I suffered myself long ago. I was with someone who was entrancing, intoxicating, seductive in every way, and who could kiss me in ways that made the existence of the universe itself questionable.

But all of that, was not because she actually loved me. It was all because she was enthralled herself, in a vision of the kind of love and world she wanted to live in, and which led her to ignore reality itself, in order to imagine she had it.

Someone whose passion and vision of life causes them to imagine you are chasing others all the time, may also appear to be that passionate about you, only because he is enthralled by the idea of having or even "owning" someone like you, and not after all, be kissing you as he does, because he actually loves, and sees YOU.

So he kisses good........ well, unless you plan on kissing 24 hours a day 7 days a week I can't see this working out

no trust.. no relationship

You answered your own question.

You know what you have to do to have a healthy relationship. This isnt it.

From what little info you give you both sound like overgrown infants

From what I have learned over the years... if someone has issues with trust, they themselves are not trust worthy.