Fed up losing out on potential love. On both this site and another I've started a good line of chat with someone nice, get to know them better and one day - boom. They've deactivated their account!

I've never given out my number but have linked up via email or Kik (once we've chatted on site for a while first) then they just disappear.

I may not like those that message me but I let folk down gently if I can. Hate ignorance. If you don't want contact say so!!!!

Join the club. I get nudges from potentials, then go to see - deactivated.
What's the point of that, unless you have just been saved from a scammer.
I've been on over a dozen sites and get the same thing. Their loss !

Just expect the worst, or nothing, and anything else is a bonus.

Keep trying but don't invest emotionally until much much later.

Here's a reality check folks.. offline you see somebody from head to toe.. you can chat face-to-face.. you can pretty much get a good feel for who they are pretty quickly..
They are three dimensional..
Online not so much..lol.. it takes awhile to get a good picture of who you're interacting with.. unless you're a complete open book like me...lol.. but what happens in that time it takes that other person to get a picture of you... they lose interest.. And rather than letting you down easy... it's easier just to break the connection deactivate.. because after all who wants to explain to the other person ..why they're not interested in them... do you really want to hear that..nope so be grateful and thankful that they did let you down easy.. by simply stop talking to you...

it sucks and really gets u down, been there, but I always hope that the right girl hasn't come yet n won't deactivate her account on me. hey, don't be torn by one or two deactivated accounts, maybe they we're scams or just wanted to use you

Hi, so don't give any of your email coz here have a scammer, some of my chatter have any site like whatsapp viber so for that I think it's not true so beware that

have any of you had any luck meeting someone nice on here and / or met up with anyone?

I totally take in the point made that you can tell a person from meeting them rather than trusting what they say online but I like the fact that here I can get to know someone well before the meeting up bit

just a shame that those I want to chat to say very little and the ones i'd rather not keep in touch with will reply and continue conversations

Many have met. Some disappear, just like in real life. Stay on the site. There is no reason to go off site

so for those of you outwith Ayrshire are your communities filled up with town centre Christmas lights or households putting up decorations super early

one here in Kilmarnock put their Christmas stuff up as soon as Halloween is over!
i'm lucky if mine are out the cupboard two weeks beforehand

this is the reality of online dating sis.. people come and go here.. just an advice, do not put too much emotion to some temporary things ... enjoy the moment and make friends. I met 2 people in real life from an online dating site too (1 girl and 1 boy) but not on this dating site, from another . I gain lots of good and real friends there (Some are planning to visit the Philippines next year).I deactivated my account there but we still communicate, they know my fb. We became closer after the meet up (but they are just a friend). Hope that in this site I will gain friends too (quite different here eh.. all are asking other account on the first chat which I don't like..some profile here are fake too.. I want genuine and nice people). I give my other account but it takes time. I reply to all the people (just to be polite and stop when I don't like how they chat) but when it comes to making friends or meeting someone, I am picky.

and it really peaves me off when folks can't do a simple thing like answer a couple of questions to fill out their profile

how am I meant to know if our interests match or find something to strike up a conversation with if everything is blank!

welcome to the world of online dating - if someone doesn't answer the questions or fill out their profile that usually means they're not serious. You've got to look at this like a game - Some people on this site are just playing around with the idea of online dating & really aren't that serious. If someone deactivates or blocks you try not to take it personally. They may have gotten cold feet or maybe their wife found them out, or they could have been a scammer.

As NoPhd said, in person you can get a sense of what a person is really like - on here it's very difficult. I've met in person with guys I've met on other sites & in all instances they were totally different in person than they were online.

Even if they answered everything there's no assurance that all of what they wrote were true.. some are just good in writing, some in lying and some in impressing

Knowing someone takes time. Even when you chat or date someone, that's still part of getting to know each other.

Anyway in making a conversation, you can just ask simple question until it became longer

Best luck to your search Sis.. in time you'll find the right one for you

Well for me personally I’m hardly likely to state that I’m a secret cross dresser in my profile, am I

I remember one year for Easter Sunday School we had to dress up crosses with pink and white ribbons but it wasn't a secret.

Lol, I hope she don’t take me serious

I have met up with about 6 people from Mingle and had very nice times. Made some friends too. What works best for me is that I am not really seriously looking, meaning I don't put any pressure on me or the woman. No pressure.. no disappointment

If it is going to happen, then fine. If not, well then o.k. too
It seems to work for me.

JMO

Wow hope to meet people from mingle too (anyway i am careful and picky to who i meet in person)

..hmmmm... sounds like you might have control issues.. that's the great thing about online dating.. and particularly a site like this one.. it gives you the opportunity to look at yourself.. and point the finger inward rather than outward.... you cannot control the actions of others.. all you can do is simply accept it is what it is... and maybe learn a little something about yourself

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