this is true, but im sorry i cant seem to find that care in my heart, she has made my heart strong and heartless.

Sounds like she's nasty and mean. I will seriously give you the best advice. Take it whatever way you want to. My advice is success is the best revenge. Be happy and successful. Leave her and her games in the dust. You win.

There's a difference between changing someones life and stepping in front of a train. I'm sorry, I have to disagree here. She's already proven that she wants to play games. Should he really allow her back into his life, for even if it's meant as sympathy, the heart gets involved...and he would just be setting himself up for more pain.


I appreciate your viewpoint on this. Becasue she wants to play the same games and hurt people she love what should he do then? Im not saying it will always change a person but to be that positive influence in her life, i think that can have some impact. in my opinion i dont think shes experienced this kinda treatment, and do believe she got the treatment she deserved.

Revenge, you end up regreting it, revenge is a easay way to harden the heart, i know. Hardening your heart allows you to have a hard time relying on people, and when you try it again, it happens again and it hurts.

i agree with her.

this is true, but im sorry i cant seem to find that care in my heart, she has made my heart strong and heartless.


Ive tried recently after a long time to open my heart again. It really sucks but it makes you a better person inside to know you did the right thing. Revenge is easy to do, being a good person is not easy, but has best results in the end.

double post

If i agree with her then i would not have a relationship with my sister. She uses our family only when she needs us. I have fixed tires for her, tried to give her advice but it seems after all this things dont change. Should i too deny her as my sister? It would be so much easier

Kal, I'm not suggesting he seek revenge. I feel people bring about their own misery, and my personal kind of "revenge", if you wish to call it that, is to sit back and just let them do as they will. I don't get involved, good or bad. In this case, it appears to me, (and obviously this is nothing more than an assumption) that she is miserable because her bf left her and she doesn't wish to be alone. Since she and Kear are still married, he's the obvious choice for her to turn to until she finds someone else.

Again...my opinion. =)

i can come to terms with a kinda agree on this one =)

There's a difference between changing someones life and stepping in front of a train. I'm sorry, I have to disagree here. She's already proven that she wants to play games. Should he really allow her back into his life, for even if it's meant as sympathy, the heart gets involved...and he would just be setting himself up for more pain.


I appreciate your viewpoint on this. Becasue she wants to play the same games and hurt people she love what should he do then? Im not saying it will always change a person but to be that positive influence in her life, i think that can have some impact. in my opinion i dont think shes experienced this kinda treatment, and do believe she got the treatment she deserved.

Revenge, you end up regreting it, revenge is a easay way to harden the heart, i know. Hardening your heart allows you to have a hard time relying on people, and when you try it again, it happens again and it hurts.
she has got this treatment before, and she will not change, trust me, ive been there for her time after time. we have been seperated for 5 years and i have been her sholder to cry on for this time, im done being her giny pig. sorry!

So I guess it boils down to how much abuse you're willing to take. I have a zero tolerance policy. I've had women leave me because they're whores and cheats. I got mad and got successful. Their relationships went sour and they tried to solicit sympathy and pity and I walked away from them laughing.

Kear i understand completely, im just taking the complete opposite side here. IM giving you the best case scenario. I dont expect that to happen becasue i really dont know what you have went through. You know? I can only give you the "perfect" good side, and find somewhere in the middle.

Im just trying to get you away from revenge, nasty things come from revenge regardless of what they have done.

Find somthing you can be comfortable with, and work from there.

yea, im done with the drama,at the moment its all about me and my son.

So tough dilemna. Best of luck.

thanks

Your a christan, give it a few days and rely on God for your answer, this has always worked in my favor.. I need to go to work now, best of luck

J

thanks for the opinion bro

kal, have a great day at work... :)

What does not kill you only makes you stronger..you being stronger from all the torment, gives you the upper hand!You should make her as strong as you!Understand kemosabe!

somebody here mentioned revenge...
it's not revenge; she brought all this onto herself.

kearbey75, let's be honest here. We all know that it is "best" for you to not call her back and remain strong, etc. BUT you still feel bad for turning your back on her. If you didn't, you wouldn't be posting this thread.
Do youself a favor and let go of bitterness. Don't go back to her, and don't let her back into your love life, but do forgive her for what she's done to you.
Maybe you want to call her back and apologize for saying "call someone who cares" but explain to her that you wish to move on with your life to a new level in which she cannot be a part of.

Now go out and pick up some chicks