What I'm doing is looking at things I want for me, including future things. Try to keep busy indeed, not wallow in pain, and kick yourself out of the house regularly...
but... it IS imperative that you give yourself time to sit with your grief. You cannot work through it if all you do is distract yourself by being busy. That's similar to drinking, eating or whatever. It doesn't help because when it wears off, you need more. You HAVE to simply work through the pain, all the stages of it if you want to come out whole on the other side of it.

Things you do not do... look at photos, go through the other's FB or other social media sites to check what they are doing, wallow in memories. Steer clear from the past, at least for the first few weeks.
Do not get involved too soon with someone else. Won't ever work out.

When you begin to feel a tad more stable, look at what the breakup brings you instead of what it cost you.

I like your last sentence crystal

Hiya Blondey!
I think it helps to get over things a tad faster as it is the positive approach.
Not necessarily easy to do, because your ego steps in right away as it doesn't want to see the breakup as a potentially good thing while your ego is in so much pain still. But then again, this approach doesn't mean you hanging up bunting and throwing a party because you're so happy over breaking up.
But there's always small things that are better and these are good for starters. I see a few of those things myself as well, even though he was the best match I've ever had in my life, and even though I still love the man to bits. Dang, now I'm in tears again.
But there's always 2 sides to a coin, you just gotta have the guts to see it. Meaning you got to be stronger than your ego.