Closure. After a 10-year relationship it took me 4 years to get closure. Sure I had a few dates in that time but it never felt right. Then I did meet someone that I liked had feelings for, but without the closure from my last relationship, I really didn't realize my faults. Finally when I did get closure, it was too late. The damage was done. The only thing that helped me get over the girl I liked was the childish way she ended it... through a friend ,some real middle school s***. I took a long look at myself , and what I was doing in relationships ,I realized the best teacher was your last mistake. now I'm a better person knowing what I want and what others want from me. I am nowhere close to perfect, it's a challenge everyday to better myself for me.