Should it come down to talking to someone who has a PhD because your friends and family are not there for you? Feeling lost :/

Seek professional help. If you feel your family and friends are not there for you then there must be an underlying issue, maybe you dismiss their "advice" because you don't see it as they do or they see a problem that you don't feel you have. In either case if it is affecting you to the point where you have to ask about seeking help then you probably should.

Talking to anyone can help..do you know why?
Talking can help to establish the problem, its issues and its
solution..just by addressing such.

You can talk to a child and gain more insight into things.

'Man goes to the moon, and wonders..
a child goes to the circus and understands.'

Having a PHD does not necessarily insure answers, talking to
anyone might help though.

depends on the issue
if you walk in the door and say
"my mother makes me so mad when..."
a therapist can talk to you about your anger

if you walk in the door and say
"I am only here because my sister thinks I have a drinking problem"
then a therapist can talk to you about why you think
your drinking is not a problem

if you walk in and say " everything wrong in my marriage is my husband's fault" then a therapist can talk to you about accountability
and accepting some of the fault in your relationship

if you walk in the door and say
" I cannot seem to find a decent relationship and I know it's because I had a sh*tty childhood" a therapist can talk to you about some of the false beliefs you may be carrying around with you that may be affecting your ability to find and maintain a healthy relationship

I think that many people believe there is something wrong with them because they have trouble living up to the expectations of others.

It has a lot to do with repetitively relinquishing control of their lives to others.

Thing is tho, it is your life, not theirs.
There is nobody on this planet that should have control over you but you. (except a child) You're not a child are you?

If you value someone else's opinion over your own contentment it is going to cause turmoil. Turmoil causes stress and stress makes people unhappy.

The first thing I would do is examine all the things in my life and figure out if, I'm doing them/not doing them, because its my decision or my compliance with someone else's expectations.

Then look at the things I want to/don't want to do and make the changes to bring myself in alignment with my own expectations of life.

There will be easy changes and difficult changes. Start with the easy changes and as you gain more self-satisfaction from being in control you can tackle the tougher stuff.

Just remember that some people may try to prevent you from gaining your independence. Let the chips fall where they land and you will know exactly where you stand with everyone.

A therapist can help you sort the baggage but its up to you to assign its priorities. Consider that its your life and if anyone should be calling the shots in your life, who better than you?

Yes, whatever it is you wish to talk about. Maybe together you can figure out a support system too

Belonging and being heard is a huge factor in our mental health

thanks

BE GENTLE WITH YOURSELF

"EAGLES FLY ALONE, DUCKS IN A FLOCK"..LOL

—Now
Go placidly amid the noise and the haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.

Live hard, Love Truly, Play the game Meaningful,
Have no regrets ever.
Enjoy the little moments in between. Manifest and become whatever you dream.
Do something that’s scary, feel alive, learn a hobby, work out.
Juicing cleanse your body and makes you stronger.
Question everything, do not be a puppet.
You are the only one who is there when you are alone,
so be kind to yourself.
Enjoy and play with your kids,
keep your childlike spirit & view, don’t become bitter.
Search for your spiritual truth and evolve,
there are many doors to the same place.
Our timing is much different that the universe,
so sit back and enjoy this crazy ride, do what you love!
Don’t waste your love on people that don’t deserve it.
Let go of past drama and move on. “FORGIVE AND LIVE FREE”,
even when you feel you can’t,
but be willing to walk away from anyone who does not treat you with respect and kindness.
Let go of the ego and accept that
WHAT YOU WANT IS NOT WHAT YOU NEED. Find time every day to pursue your passion,
enjoy nature, write a song,
dream under stars or start a new adventure.

GOOD LUCK

if not a councilor i found strangers can be better than friends...no emotional attachment.