i confess that i am scared of heights so no tall trees for me lol

ok just shrubs for you then

the right guy for me is uh...hmmm

Curvy friendly blondes with extensive lingerie collections.


No kind of relationship.
Relationships aren't static objects.
"Relationship" is a simplistic term to generalize the ongoing interaction between 2 people, categorizing them into a group label.

People constantly change.
Relationships are defined by the interaction of the people.
Relationships always change.
No relationship lasts.

Let's say you have a boat named "Theseus." Over years of use you remove and replace all pieces of that boat. You replace the worn sails, you replace the rotting deck, you replace storm damaged windows, ultimately replace everything. Is it still the "Theseus?"
What if over time and slow replacement of each individual part you turn it into an airplane. Sails become wings, deck becomes fuselage, rudder becomes engines, fo'c'sle becomes cockpit. Slow transition, not all at once.
Then the earth runs out of oil, so dwindling jet fuel, and you slowly return it back to a ship using some of the old parts and some new.
Is it still the "Theseus?"

Why would someone do that rather than just buy a new boat or plane?

People make a choice (conscious or nonconscious) on a daily basis on how to see themselves, see other people, conceptualize their relationship and interactions.

Whether or not that is slowly adapting to constant natural uncontrollable change, or a quick process of dumping the old for something new, is just as dependent on external factors as personality "type."

People ultimately choose to continue a relationship for very limited reasons.
1. They value the interaction, finding it offers some benefit (especially to the perpetuation of self image), desiring to maintain the momentum. For itself, or for future goals.
2. They fear losing the interaction and/or change.
And most importantly:
3. Perceived alternatives have greater costs or less value associated with them.

The rest is the process of rationalizing (implicit and cognitive bias influenced) decisions for emotional/mental homeostasis and efficiency.


Depends on how flexible and adaptable they are, what purpose the "relationship" serves, and the perceived value of what is available to replace it with less cost/risk.


The one where the relationship has some need to survive the test of time for something other than short term ego (feelings) stroking masquerading as long term image which is done to justify behavior choices.

Very profound and very true.

sometimes even us neanderthals can see the light

A bit of both I think.

All great teams have different individual qualities, put them together and you have forever.

My type is a decent human being, first and foremost. Next comes the 3 S's: STRAIGHT, SANE, and SOBER. As far as looks are concerned, I like girly girls: feminine appearance, manicured hands, pedicured feet, the right amount of makeup (not to Tammy Faye Bakker extremes), and a ladylike disposition.

it depends on the character itself..

Guess tall guys are outta the question. LOL

i wrote trees not guys tall guys are hard NOT to notice specially when they are kind .sensitive, sweet and respectful, not to mention smart and good looking too

and continue to lurk in the shadows till i see the light lol....now thats an idea.

joe...you believe in forever?

once again i am flustered and amazed by how anything can be broken down and analyzed the way you do. thanks

Of course, or what's the point

Here is the thing.....in today's world we have desensitized the word "relationship" in to meaning that "you are the one I want.....right now..and maybe it will last...but if someone else comes along then I am gonna do what's right for my own happiness". And that means that we do not want to take the time to work for a relationship. We are all about instant gratification love. So while opposites do attract, and while being similar is a cool thing, what matters most is that wanting to be with someone and putting in the effort to see where it goes. So I guess the answer to your question is rather simple......it's option "C"......who the heck knows? Just enjoy the ride until you meet that person and you get all those mushy feelings inside.

option C has always been the choice since A and B are not there. can there be a D that means not to choose and be fine on your own? can we just have a relationship with ourselves?

nice to see you posting again sir

Someone who doesnt lie!