what the most painful battle that you encounter in Love or Lie problems.

Humm... love or lie..

Sounds like a reality show name.

My battle is with neither, my battle is an inner one of low self esteem, mental anguish and physical pain.

I can love, but I won't lie. The truth is better even if it will ruin a relationship. But that truth was started by a lie in some way.

Sometimes; we are forced to lie for not to hurt a loved one's sensitivity. in a certain moment; it's the better choice.

Yes, I thought about that one long and hard, done it, had it backfire. I found it better just to tell the truth even if it hurts. If not, and the person finds out from a different source, then finds out you knew the truth but lied, well.... had it happen enough to know better.

Exactly. Sometimes you shut up about something, but if you want or have to tell the truth -e.g. when asked directly- you can still bring the message in a subtle way. You don't have to be brutal when being truthful.

I've had a few occasions with the man in my life where I felt extremely uncomfortable about telling something. However, I felt even worse about not telling him, so I decided to be open and simply tell him.
The fact that I find it difficult to tell is my problem, not his. He was totally fine, and I felt so happy and relieved that I'd been open. I hate 'secrets' between him and me, even when it's about rather unimportant stuff.
Trust is extremely important to me and there is no faster way to trash that than by lying or holding things back. The other will sense that, even if only subconsciously, and will harm the relationship.

My answer gona sound a bit self-contradictory. The toughest thing I've ever done was getting a girl, i had loved so much, outa my head. You know what helps you through? Keep lying to yourself you've got no feelings for her whatsoever. Interestingly at the end you'll live the lie. It's your life.

This is why I keep a low profile..
.. ask me no questions I'll tell you no lies..
People say they want the truth but they really don't want to hear the truth....
Or maybe they want the truth but they're just not capable of handling..it..
For instance if I ask you if my *** looks big in these jeans... well there can only be a few outcomes to that question yes or no..

If I say yes to person might say.. really!!!.
Geez thanks a lot for killing my self-esteem..

If you say no... they might say..awww thanks xoxo. but are you sure?..

I just say no your *** doesn't look big in those jeans.. the jeans make your *** look big.. it's just an optical illusion... baby you got a tiny little ***...

Effective communication.

Well in my case the painful battle was my ex. For her it wasn't Love or Lie it was Love TO Lie.

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