Hey everyone,first time poster here

I must say it sounds like this person wants to have a safety net of sorts with you.
She obviously has feelings for you but maybe she doesn't think your "the one"
I woukd advise if you can be friends and turn off your feelings,then do it

Personally I'd cut ties as hard as that might be because if it all worked out how I wanted I'd still wonder was she just settling for me and I couldn't live with that negative vibe

nice to meet you

When its over its over. Never dated a women for just one year and became in love that fast. In a year your just becoming friends.

I dont "date" for the short term. Im a long haul guy. One gal is all I need and I can honestly say that I can count the women I have been with on one hand. Same for them. My ex was with 2 guys before me. I knew them both. Same for my other gals. I only go with women who are long termers and dont sleep around.

Im a nice clean guy and I wont sleep with anyone unless I fully know them. I wont even kiss a woman unless I know her. Just me.

Thank you and nice to meet you too

I never meant to cause myself any drama. But, In a way, I do blame myself. I should have stuck to my guns in the start. As I've said before, I'm too kind hearted for my own good. There are certain things that she throws up in my face. For example, It comes off to sound like since I live in a small town in N/W Ga that other people don't think like I do. Also, I live on top of a mountain out in the country. So, Since I live away from the "big city" where people aren't as far away from civilized society, well, "we are hick folks" that need to change the way we (I) think. She never said "hick folks." But that is the way it comes off.

Me personally, I know that she has no idea what boundaries are. And neither do the people closest to her. She has tried to contact me today. She just doesn't get it. I've been thinking about sending her a link to this forum. She won't be able to post in it. But she will be able to read it. Maybe it will snap her into reality.

I've tried it. It seems to bother her. Maybe enough to make her a little jealous. But not enough to make her get on down the road. I've practically flaunted other women in front of her, and it does no good. You're right, I shouldn't have to. But, she just doesn't get it. And before someone asks me, "Is she 14?" She is 45. I've never seen a woman this age act this way.

ok charles then you know it and you now know none of the even remotely polite forms are having an effect. and no other nice and realistic option has been offered.

are you ready to take the next step that looks out for you not her?

Charles ,
As a friend , you have done all you should . As a man , you have overdone all you need to this woman. Mental disability should not be her excuse to hanging on you without "noticing" your feelings. She also can not take all your supports as granted just because her mental issues . Now you should sit down and do your homework , do you want to battle the rest of your life with this mentally unstable woman, or if it is better to take a long vacation, give your heart a spa, and turn a new page of your life ?
Remember , the person who suffers mental issues don't think logically, yet always make sense to themselves .