He messaged me he still loves his 1st love. He loves us 50% for her & 50% for me. And he let me go.

It's often a mistake to try to "move on fast" from someone who upsets you. At least, it's a mistake to do more than rapidly let go of the one who left.

By all means, work on adjusting your habits so that you don't find yourself doing all the little things we all do in order to leave space in our lives for the other person. Get rid of physical reminders and mementos, photographs, emails, phone numbers and texting links. Rearrange your personal schedule to delete all the moments on each day where you did things because that person was in your life, and replace them with doing things for yourself.

But I don't recommend being in a hurry to slap a new person into your life as a stand-in for the other one. It's not fair to them, and it's often dangerous to yourself.

thank u so much for such a wonderful advice. thank u.

I agree you should take time for you, make yourself happy first and appreciate what you have to offer. When you rush into something new it tends to come back the same way.

As a friend of mine would say "you do you boo boo"

You should be thanking him... he cheats on someone he "loves", what if ya'll were married when he cheated? things are much easier for you now

My advice would be to start dating other men. That is the best way to get over a failed relationship, especially since he was the one who let you go, as opposed to you letting him go. You say he went back to his first love, so obviously he never loved you anyway. Seems to me you are better off without him. He has someone else, so why would you need to wait before you start looking? I know most are telling you to take some time. He sure didn't. Why should you?

The more whole you are as a person the less someone else
can dictate to you what YOUR life should be.

The roads are littered with the untrue.
Step on them on the way by.

Also, be prepared when your grass gets greener than the
other gal's.

If he let you go, then he must love his 1st love more than you. Also he didn't let you go, he dropped you like a hot potato. Mourn this relationship.. it is dead. Give yourself time to breath and feel good about yourself again. Rebound relationship is not answer. Love yourself is.

That always sucks, sorry that you were treated that way,

BS ooppss sorry i get emotional when i hear situations like this. go out , make yourself prettier,enjoy time with people who really love you. make him feel its his loss not yours

thanks to all of u guys. really appreciate ur advices.

I think I agree with this, the philosophy in waiting awhile before dating again is the 'rebound' effect, but if it's just dating and nothing serious I agree it can be a good thing, helping you through a bad time.

Hi...in the meantime, scrap the guano off the bottom of your shoe (sure, use his picture), break the rearview mirror, open the curtains to a brand new day, and put one foot in front of the other...