We have all talked about having profiles on the other sites. I have stated I have on a number of occasions. I mentioned not too long ago that I had met someone that I was willing to try to see how things went. It didn't. After one date, I realized that I don't need to be dating right now. I emailed this man and told him as much. That I would be hiding my profile (which I did). I also told him that I was working two jobs, renovating an apartment (which is not going well at all), getting ready for the holidays and since taking care of my daughter was my main priority, I wouldn't be dating. I was informed shortly after that anyone that I had made friends with would be unable to email me, so I unhid my profile strictly for that purpose, to check my mail.
Last night, I found that he had written a very nasty testimonial and pubicly accused me of being a liar. Why am I mentioning that here? Well, a number of the people here are also members of that site. The hide your profile link does not work properly on that site apparently. As last night, I rehid it again. A post to the thread I posted earlier stated that they didn't believe me as my profile was still showing, but when you go to the profile area, it stated that my profile was in fact hidden.
I am not a liar, I don't lie, I don't tolerate lying as I am a firm believer that it comes back to bite you later. I even divorced a husband for being a habitual liar (there were other reasons too). I have been humiliated, basially across the entire internet by this man, who did not have the decency to discuss this with me in private. I basially wanted to state that this was incorrect, was wrong and was totally humiliating and when I finally decide to date, I will be unable to ever use that other site.
Why would someone do something like that? I did nothing to hurt him, gave him no reason to be vindictive or humiliate me that way. Has anyone else had this kind of problem?

just think of him as a dead cat in the road on a blind curve that dirtied up the car a little.


It will wash off.

First off, that sounds like a horrible experience and I'm sorry that you had to go through that.
If I were looking at it from his perspective; I would say that when you told him you weren't looking for a relationship and then he saw that you reposted your profile, it probably just really hurt his feelings a lot. Kind of like a spit in the face (although you were honest and it was just a misunderstanding).
His testimonial was unwarranted, but perhaps it made him feel better to send it.
You can remove testimonials here. I hope you can take it down.

I think some people just can't handle rejection no matter what the reason is. You are much better off without that person. Sounds like he might have some issues of his own. Don't let him bother you. I think most of the people on this site are very nice.

I like wouldee's post!! I think sometimes people are more insecure with themselves then we think and lash out at anyone who puts them in an uncomfortable situation. In the end people who know you won't judge you by what some jack ass said on your profile..

I don't understand internet harrassment either- good luck

it sounds more like the little twirp cant accept rejection, and i wouldnt worry about it
hes a jurk and he has proved it, you shouldnt have to worry, the stress is gone hes history

I deleted the testimonial, but when that second person called me a liar because my profile apparently was still showing, I deleted the whole mess.
It wasn't entire not wanting to date him again, it was that there was just too much going on in my life. There still is. Right now, I just want to meet new friends. It was too bad he didn't and couldn't understand that.
Thanks for the support!!!!

I'd say thank God that circumstances prevented you from getting too involved with this 'man' instead of seeing his true colors later. Besides, you only know people personally from the internet that you choose to 'meet'. The "embarrasment" will amount to little more than a TV show to most and be forgotten.

Wouldee is (very origionally) correct.

I've been told many things through-out my online dating journey. Some just can't handle the truth, and lash out. I've never had anyone write a horrible testimonal, at least not to my knowledge. I can understand how you feel. It's terrible he did that. If I were you, I'd be prepared for many adventures.

well, the smart peeps aren't gonna listen to a word he types anyhow

trashin someone makes him look bad