that is the question
if you have a history of being fooled would that justify being very difficult to convince?
specifically in relationships...your heart has been broken way too many times. you have to be extra cautious right?
do we wait before believing again or jut through the whole process again till we hit the jackpot

when do men mean what they say and say what they mean? just thinking not judging

Even thought you may have been fooled a few times you have to trust your instincts and keep trying as the next "one" maybe her/him. It's the old saying.. never give up.

It's hard for women to know when a man says something whether they should believe him or not as many these days have a hidden agenda. There is no other way than to be honest with people, otherwise why bother.

Did you mean the same person with the same games , or the new person play the same games ?

both

hi sweetheart

it isn't about hittting the jackpot.. i think in both situations men and women need time to heal first..

my instincts seems to be faulty most times specially my heart. not giving up though . thanks

lou very true healing and believing...again

most men feel offended if women don't believe them immediately and say its bad to think all men are the same... in reality its not about men...its about circumstances

Well , If it applies to both situations, the former one is easy to deal, Trash him without any second thoughts.

lol yeah i agree ..new person situations are harder. like fee fie foe fum

For the Second situation, it is very personal. It really depends on what you value the most and your faith in.

As the saying goes,"once bitten, twice shy". Men and women both have instinct reaction to withdraw or shy away from things that have caused them the pain. Being cautious is normal for people who had been hurt from the past and doesn't want to get hurt or fooled again. It would take some time to convince someone to believe that your feelings is real, you gotta work on building trust for someone to believe and fall in love again.

they do when they own their words and do as they say and act the same otherwise its just manipulative claptrap

dolphin thats true i just wish there is like an easier way to know.'like the way they talk or when they cant look you in the eye or they smile in a certain way or they say the same things like hey you or waz up or something
just outrageous thinking here ok dont mean to say anything offensive

own their words i havent met anyone who said they will never forget me or never stop loving me and meant it lol. online its the usual i would really like to get to know you ...that usually meant after a few chats lets just forget i ever said that lol. there are exemptions i guess

I think many people talk the way they text.. give me plain English any day. Do they have so little time that they have to type in abbreviations. Maybe that's why so many are hard to understand what they are meaning.

now thats an interesting topic there

walk the talk kind of guy? they are rare species nowadays men usually have sweet tongues, they love to use flowery words to lure women, I'm not saying all are, okay? There may be few existing try to look for the nearly extinct specy and trust your instincts, usually women have this gut instinct and if you feel something uncomfortable, trust your instincts... Run as fast as you can!!! kidding aside, we all have a gift of discernment, give chance to others, they are not all the same... Let them prove their worth and only then you will know .....and maybe you can sing the . .... I GOT LUCKY!

problem is sometimes they would mold their personality into what they think would work to make the girl fall for them ..., should we try and do the opposite then? would saying : i like a lying obnoxious,insensitive guy, help in a way that the opposite of this guy comes along and figure out this is not what you really want