Every single individual knows by intuition what is best for them...To find someone you can trust and have a good relationship via internet is like finding a needle in a haystack. Don't you guys agree?

I've seen it happen.....but it ain't easy

If there are two beings with the same appearance, ability, and power, one becomes the king and the other becomes the horse. The reason for this is simply instinct. The person who becomes king needs to want to fight, to want power, and to mercilessly crush his enemies.so, trust your instincts...too bad humans can't do that.
Taken from : Bleach

i totally agree my instincts need more practice

Not really.


Intuition isn't infallible or omniscient.
What's "best" for the short term can be opposite of what's "best" for the long term.
Emotions and feelings can easily interfere with and influence intuition.
Especially when there's no external stimuli, an interactive environment, by which to compare reality to.


I will never understand why people would "trust and have a good relationship via internet."

It's not a real relationship until you meet off the internet, until your interaction is direct and personal.
Your senses, your brain, your nervous system is set up to interpret and respond to direct live feedback in a dynamic visceral world.

Online interaction is little different than media entertainment.
Like watching a news anchor and trusting them to give you the real information, or feeling a celebrity crush and believing the good person character they play is who they are.
Has little to do with them, they're mostly pretty and just regurgitating what's given to them, you delude yourself, force yourself, fill in the missing real world information, to get yourself to feel what you want to.

It becomes a game. Where online people figure out the best avatar that facilitates your ability to delude yourself into feeling how you want to feel, and you learning how to discriminate and weed through to find the person who best fulfills the role you want them to.

The longer you stay online and try to build a relationship and "trust," the more you are just training an offline facade.
You've just bargained with each other to maintain your facades as long as you get the desired amount of validation, emotional pleasure, and fulfillment.

All facades crack and break over time. They take a lot of energy and effort to maintain. You need space? You need alone time? You need a man cave? You're just seeking a place to run from your facades.
You aren't in a relationship, you haven't bonded, you've simply bargained. Settled.

Idealistically, the point of dating is to interact with someone in dynamic environments neither of you can absolutely control to find the flaws in each others facades so you can see behind them, what's driving them, who they really are.

Knowing who someone is builds longer and stronger trust than bargaining for guarantee they will act a certain way for ongoing emotional fulfillment.

People don't know who that are, they just give lip service to the idea.
Who someone is gets shown by how they immediately interact to their environment and then communicate their emotional and information processing through indirect communication.
How they behave in situations they can't control. How they behave in situations they can't control, and how they communicate they feel about it, communicating in ways they don't realize they're expressing.

That is simply not possible online. It's a controlled impersonal environment.

People who have built "trust" and "relationships" via the internet are simply fooling themselves, IMO.

Not like finding a "needle in a haystack."
Just finding hay in a haystack, getting yourself to see it as a needle, and then making sure you never have to sew anything.


So, I disagree.

So? Would you rather that 80 out of a 100 men would be the right fit? Think of how difficult that would make life, and making a choice.
Helluva lot easier when it's only a needle in a haystack. You just have to learn to sift through the haystack faster. That isn't all that difficult, ppl just make it difficult, waste too much time with someone before they find out they're not 'it', then do it all over again with another person.
A lot can be achieved when you work on your communication skills and start asking better/smarter questions that give you immediate insight in the other person.

Well...a needle you say...
I have been called a prick on occasion