How on this wonderful green earth do i find a descent woman who does not turn and run when it is time for my kids to get involved in the relationship.Dont get me wrong if that does happen good riddens. I just would love to find that special woman who does not run. Can anyone help?

You just havent found the right one yet . Trust me we are out there.

trust me, i know the feeling, i have kids of my own. as for those who run, they are not worthy of you, let alone having part in your kids lives. let em go and you will find a good girl worthy of your family.

Yes There are some women out there that have a big enough heart for more children in their lives . I know My own can be a handful at time. You just take the good and the bad .

there are people willing to take the challenge, my step dad came in when i was about 3 i see him as my real father

i have a son and if a girl doesnt want to be with me because of him well all i can say is that she just lost out on two great guys ..no big deal..adios..

Thanks for the advice. I have found out that their is more bad than good in my search for that special someone. When it comes to my kids that person has to be very, very special for them.

At least you find out quickly that it wont work instead of having to draw-out the dating process.. somthing good to think about?

I would love to ease into it but we are one family take us all or not at all. I dont think it would be to fair to my kids to do that. Thanks for the advice though

agreed...

I allways let people know up front that i have kids and usually they have no problem with it. It is just when they get involved it is just to much for them because it takes a tremendous amount of time for my kids and that leaves a little for them.

Ok so whats wrong with the little quality time . With kids your lucky to get privacy. I wish I could meet someone with kids that has the same attitude as you Most dont want to get the kids involved at all in the begining.

Plus if you hit it off from the start . It is much more fun to do things together . The children make the time together worth while

I believe they should get involved from the beginning because they are a part of me and when i meet someone i wouldnt give them just half of me. They get the whole package from the beginning

With an attitude like that you shouldnt have a problem You sound like a decent loving guy.

How about raising the kids and putting the search away.

I did it.

many men and women do it.

Still a major challenge.

One less added time constraint.

Your children are sure to fill your time and attention.

You always have later.

JMO

I agree, I think you should introduce all 3 of the kids at once. If someone can not accept the children then, you do not really want to be with them any way.
I don't think there is a easy way to introduce your children...I know that I don't bring my boys into my relationships until I know that I really like the person I am involved with. Now, I do let everyone know that I have 2 boys..I don't try to hide that. I just don't involve my boys with everyone I date...even though I don't really date any more, so I don't really have to worry about it any more.
I wish you luck because it is so hard to trust people. One day you will find the right one...just be patient!!

Hmmmm...considering that it takes awhile sometimes for a mother to even bond with her own child, its scary to think that she should feel pressured to bond with 3 children that aren't hers right away! WAY too much pressure. I have a child of my own, so I'm not being down about it. But I know that I need to ease them into meeting her. I've been dating a guy for over a month now and he's just now (on his own, without any pressure from me) starting to interact with her. And even enjoys seeing her. It just takes time. I would never want him to think I was trying to replace my daughter's father.

Too much at one time I think. Also your date may feel too pressured to "get the children to like her" and doesn't even give it a chance if she thinks your kids not liking her would make you not like her too. Just a thought.

Good for you though. You sound like a great father! Love will find its way if you are patient.

Ive been in this situation before.....Im not afraid of the kids....Im afraid of the ex wife that wants them back and terrorizes me.......

Thanks wouldee, maybe one day someone will just show up out of the blue. I was talking to someone one day and she said just put it in Gods hands and if it is his will than i will find someone. If not i still have my kids and that is enough.