Did you know the same man I did I wonder, or is it just a man thing of keeping options open?

Can any of the men answer that question? why do some of you blow hot and cold?

sounds like he has someone on the side, he might not be sure if it will work out between them and wants to keep you on the side incase things dont fall thro..

Get LOST in THIS PLACE!!!!

It WORKED for me, when I came here from a bad 6 year relationship....

I got in on the posts, made some of my own, and met people and made friends here...TRY IT,

Just like your doing, YOUR be GREAT!!!!

Sounds about right...

my problem is that I am a "closure" person... For some stupid reason I feel I need that, I never got it so it drives me crazy. I want a "final answer" so to speak but I get nothing. Should I take that as my "final answer"?

Try doing a search on YouTube for: Tales of Mere Existence. Then find the one called How To Break Up (or break up, or something like that). It's funny AND true.

Jill, I went through the same thing with a man I was with for 4 years, and we were engaged at the time it happened. He became very wishy-washy, suddenly not sure about what he wanted, but he kept the relationship up with me. I never got the closure either. It's been over a year, and I doubt I will ever have closure. He just up and decided he wanted to be on his own (the explanation he gave me), but I discovered he had met a woman out of town and started an affair. (The same time he suddenly didn't know what he wanted)Within a matter of weeks, he left. He did the same thing, hanging on to me, finding reasons and I agree with the other guy. He's keeping you "on hold" just in case the other thing doesn't work out.
He dragged it out over a few months during all of this, and I believe it is because he could not tell the truth or handle a confrontation. His behavior was exactly what you are describing. Dragging it out made it worse. The handwriting is on the wall.

Get out and start making things happen for yourself! My ex and I broke up last month. I am going out and meeting some very nice people! I refuse to sit around and waste any more time thinking about him and wondering what went wrong. The sooner you move on, the faster you will heal!

same boat..only I am the guy!And yes this does suck not getting the closure...and the dirt that you taste in your mouth is that you do not want it to be over...But it is what it is...Done!Move on!

Give it time move on