do you read signs and purposely ignore it...then it surprisingly turned out ok? some dead ends are not really dead ends and are just used for another reason. now if you were told by another person that its best not to talk anymore although you both know you're enjoying each others company would you take the risk and continue or just follow the directive and wishes of another? do not enter is there for a reason. would you take caution to the wind and find out why?

not sure ...might depend on how long we have been talking for ...

sure nothing ventured nothing gained

how long ?

very brave

Are we talking people you know or a potential new relationship?
I've learned to go with what my gut feeling is telling me.
When it's people i already know, i let them come and go in life. It comes in cycles. Many times their absence means there is something i don't want to know about or be involved in.
If we are talking a potential or new relationship, or even an existing one i will give space but let them know I'm still here.
Sometimes when feelings start to grow the other person feels scared and needs time to assimilate their feelings.

fight or flight depending on our gut feel

It's ONE of the reasons we invented dancing.

hhhmmm lol ....what do you dance to igor?

Awww.......just the tip?


Sure.
Sometimes.
No risk, no reward. Crappy reward, avoid the risk.
Sometimes I misread signs.
Sometimes I misread signs intentionally simply for comedic effect.


Sometimes.
Sometimes it surprisingly turns out far more horribly than I could have imagined.


Depends.
Depends on the relationship I had with them to that point.
Someone I've been talking to solely through the internet, like on a dating site?
If I was bored I might send them another email and see how they reacted.

Some woman on a date in a restaurant and she screams at me "It's best not to talk anymore!" before she storms out?
I wouldn't take the risk.

Someone I'm dating, and she says that to me over the phone?
Probably not take the risk.

Someone I'm dating, and she says that to me calmly in person?
Could go either way.

Someone I'm dating, and she says that to me calmly in person, and I'd never see her again without effort on my part?
Probably not take the risk.

Yadda yadda, and we'd run into each other, at work, at the store, at school, at the club, on the street?
Probably take the risk.

you have dissected this thought more than i can imagine. sometimes i think you are a psychiatrist lol thanks

Dancing is an alternative form of communication to talking.

i do agree

without an explanation, while extremely confusing and disappointing, I would sooner or later respect the wishes of the other. though I may resist for some time. many signs and/or warnings are to protect those innocent of the cause from suffering its effect. there are exceptions, of course... your "enter at your own risk" topic title is an example of someone manipulating the generally agreed upon principle of not pulling "false " alarms" in order to satisfy their own impulse.

thanks for sharing your opinion

When I saw this title in Recent Forum Posts I almost passed it by. Then I noticed you were the author and I figured there was more to it so I clicked in to see what you had to say.



Some men can be dense when it comes to signs. I'm one of those guys. I tend to say what I mean. I usually don't pick up on flirting or being gently dissuaded. I'm working on that.

I have actually told a woman that I don't want to talk with her anymore. I said those exact words but I went on and told her why and what I would do if she continues to try. She called me a number of times after that conversation. I never picked up. She tried texting but I deleted the texts without reading them. She cam to my house and I did not allow her into the house and shut the door on her. Finally, she gave up.

A few months ago, I saw her at the grocery store. She tried to talk to me but I politely excused myself and went about my business. I ignored her as she followed me thru the store.

I am not and never really was angry with her. She was not a personality I wished to have in my life and I told her that. I respected her as a person but there was no connection.

Try to imagine what the world would be like if people just honestly came out and said what they mean while respecting you. What we call the signs of communication are not really 'signs' at all. Signs actually say what they mean. You either accept it at face value or you don't.

All these little hints and hidden suggestions that people use to communicate are merely indications that they are not mature emotionally and have formed a biased judgement on another based on their own emotional insecurities. They will say they are trying to save you from emotional hurt figuring you are as emotionally unstable as they are.

hello Tom

and ok that wasnt how i wanted it to come out i just have big clumsy fingers lol. hello again Tom its good to know someone thinks i post with sense sometimes i commend you for being a man of your word meaning what you say and saying what you mean. the world needs more men like you around. as for stop and go in relationships its either we risk because its worth it or we just pass it to save us the trouble of pain... keep on posting Tom

I am always trying to go in through..the back door...even know most women tell me it's the wrong door..and to use the front door only.and if I dont !! ..it's enter" at my own risk."lol.hmmm...but you never know..some times it's nice to live.. Dangerously..Gets your blood pumping. ..

Thanx, I think?
LOL

I think I got flirted with at the grocery store today.
I bought some strawberries and the check-out lady (she was pretty) told me she was off in a half hour. I noticed a wedding (well, a ring) ring on her finger and took it as she was being friendly. She was all smiles.

Was I supposed to come back with her remark that she was off in a half hour?
I just smiled? I'm doomed...